negative feedback?

@mummybec (685)
Australia
July 27, 2008 6:08pm CST
Hi all, I was just wondering have you ever given anyone a negative rating / feedback here on mylot? I am just curious to see what reasons people think are valid to do this with, some I can understand like if the responses / comments left were rude etc... but sometimes peoples ratings change and they do not know why as nothing bad was said etc.... Please share your thoughts and opinions with me
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22 responses
27 Jul 08
Hi mummybec, I have notice that my ratings dropped and i have not been rude to anyone and I have no idea why and maybe they give me a negative ratings. Tamara
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@rabi9634 (420)
• United States
27 Jul 08
Perhaps someone is being critical of your grammar. I'll be honest, when I see a paragraph 20 lines long with no capitalization and no punctuation, I typically won't even bother reading it. Sometimes it's hard to follow the line of thought driving the response, so it's often easier to just disregard it. If you answer a lot of discussions without good grammar or spelling, someone might be nailing your ratings for it.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
27 Jul 08
It does make you wonder though, why sometimes your rating goes down when you do not post rudly or off topic etc, as I have also noticed my ratings drop and I am not sure why at all!
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@hellcowboy (7380)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I will admit I have given a few people on mylot negative feedback even though I do not do it very often,and usually I will only give a person negative feedback if they response to me in a rude or insulting manner,or if I see that they have responded to my fiance or anyone else in a rude or insulting manner,and in those cases I feel that they deserve the negative rating,and I feel like I am doing the right thing by giving people like that negative feedback.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
27 Jul 08
I would too if a person replied to me in a rude or insulting way, as that is not nice at all, I think even if I noticed a reply to one of my friends discussions that was also rude and / or insulting I would also then too as a way of sticking up for my friends!
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• United States
28 Jul 08
Friends always have to stick together,and that helps protect us all from the rude people on mylot,thanks for the friend request my friend,I was glad to accept and I am always looking for new friends as nice as you,have a great day,good luck in your life ,and Happy Posting.
@myklj999 (35711)
• Olney, Illinois
27 Jul 08
I only negative rate people who blatantly violate the rules or who make rude remarks to me or other people in a discussion I'm involved in. I know many people here use it just because they don't agree with your opinion, but that is not how it is meant to be used.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
27 Jul 08
That makes sense - if they voilate the rules etc... I agree with it if they are being rude or making hurtful comments etc.
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@rabi9634 (420)
• United States
27 Jul 08
The ratings system is an unofficial way of keeping people on topic, and promoting responses that have substance. To give examples of the types of things that I'll usually notch a - rating for, I'll use this discussion. At hand, we have the question: "Have you ever given anyone a negative rating/feedback here on mylot" If someone is deeply thoughtful enough to leave an answer "uh, yes" or go and comment "me too" to everyone else who added something thought provoking, they're getting some negative ratings. If someone goes off on a tirade about what type of four letter words apply to the people who make or deserve negative ratings, then again, likely going to be a negative rating from me. I don't like to give negative ratings to people with lower post counts. I'm still a lower post count, but I've been around long enough to know how things work. You'll get better results from leaving them a message about what they're missing than just flat out negative ratings. So, personally, have I? Absolutely. I'm a firm believer that you can be on the opposite side of the fence, and still have a civil conversation about anything. When people start getting rude and throwing obscenities or the like, it's not anything that's useful to the topic at hand, so what's the point?
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
27 Jul 08
Thanks for your reply - That all makes sense. It is great to see how and why the negative rating is given just so I know how it should be used etc... I either do not rate or give positive when I think it is needed.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
27 Jul 08
I know that I have rated people negatively if I felt their response was offensive to me, or that it was offesnively aimed towards someone else on their own discussion. I also rate negatively if I feel that their response to me was not "serious" like I have asked. I do do this lightly though and only to people who only write one word or sentence answers. You can write a sentence or even two but if your response isn't serious then I'll rate you negatively, then again this is ONLY on my own discussion that I will do this on. I do do this lienantly and will also try to see if I can respond to something they have discussed and rate them positively. I don't go through and attack.
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• Philippines
28 Jul 08
Good day! I was given a negative rating for a discussion I started when I was new in myLot. I was under the impression that since I joined a S*X interest group, that I can post anything about it. So, I asked if they were good in you know what... One mylotter replied and gave a me a negative rating. I dont know why but I guess it is ultimately their prerogative. Have fun!
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
Thanks for your response... hmmm just because you replied to a discussion you got a negitive rating? thats a bit unfair!
@ellie333 (21018)
28 Jul 08
Hi Mummybec, I will plus rate all that respond to me unless extremely rude or upsetting and then I don't bother rating at all rather than a negative, I have only ever given too negatives and that was when someone really was nasty in a friends discussion with no reason at all other than to be nasty and the other was when someone put a moneymaking link only into the middle of one of my discussions and had also done this to every discussion they had responded to. Ellie :D
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
Yeah that sounds like me either not rating at all or only giving a positive rating! That was very rude to put a moneymaking link into one of your discussions! How annoying that would have been...
• United States
28 Jul 08
I have, actually rated some as negative. Only the ones who I didn't agree with , mostly on moral issues. I am pretty new here, and still don't understand anything about how the ratings system works. I hope to eventually learn how everything works on here but I am really enjoying it so far.
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• Dayton, Ohio
28 Jul 08
Actually that is not how you are supposed to use the rating system. Negative ratings are for people who do not positively contribute to the posting. If I may, here is the FAQ about the rating system, to read the specific part, see the question "What if I disagree with someone? Should I give that post a negative rating?" http://www.mylot.com/o/faq/faq17.aspx#3
• United States
28 Jul 08
Thank you for the info, I hope I didnt' hurt anyone's ratings, I appreciate you sending me the link, it really helped me to understand things a little bit better on here. Have a great night.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
I am glad to hear you are enjoying it here I think it does take time to learn everything when you are new, so I also hope this discussion has helped you learn a bit about the ratings too.
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@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Good question! I don't give negative ratings unless someone has been rude, combatative or antagonistic. So maybe once. I prefer to not rate. I mostly rate positive, although my ratings have dropped down and went back up so I know that I have been a victim of the "rating game" or the - rating game and it isn't very fun
@myklj999 (35711)
• Olney, Illinois
28 Jul 08
I see you!
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
Thats how I feel too... I would if there was a rude / hurtful etc post made to or about me. I also either do not rate or only positively rate
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@DarkDancer (1011)
• Dayton, Ohio
27 Jul 08
Once, accidentally, I went to give them a positive rating and accidentally hit the wrong little symbol. So I found 2 more of their posts and rated them positive. Mostly I don;t see people who wander off topic too much, so I have never felt the need to give a negative rating.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
That was nice of you to find some more of that persons posts to give postive after the accidental negative one given well done!
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• Dayton, Ohio
28 Jul 08
Thanks, I just felt I had to make up for it.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
28 Jul 08
i generally do not give negative rating. when i rate anyone, i rate positive. may be i am being victim here. i lost my 10 star to 6 to trolls few months back
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
What a pain you lost your star!! Trolls? does that mean like people comming in and giving everyone a negative rating?
@KrauseHome (36746)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Well, when people's ratings change on here, it could be for a number of reasons. Sometimes it is because they posted things on here that are against the TOS, or it could be that they posted things inappropriate for a lot of others, or sometimes they might have posted something here that others find controversial and do not agree with. It could really be a number of things though. All I can say, is that I do not tend to let it affect me as a whole, and just do the Best I can. I know you are never going to please all of the people on here no matter how hard you try.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
That is right.... you can never please everyone!! Sometimes it would be nice if you could You are right thought just do your best and dont let it get to you
@Hatley (164226)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jul 08
mummybec mylot says do not give negative ratings to anyone just because you do not agree with them, only if someone has responded with a rude commennt or was really flaming, but if the only gripe is that you do not agree with them do not hit negative as we all have a right to our own opinion and anyone can agree or mpt birt do it with respect.Some have taken advantage of the negative to get back at someone whom they did not agree with.it happened to me overnight my ten was taken down to a 6. I now have it up to an 8 again.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
That makes sense too.... everyone is entitled to thier own opionion. I have seen peoples stars change a heap over night etc that is more the reason I started this discussion as I know mine has changed in the past quickly too!
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Yes I have rated some comments or topics negatively. I've also reported a couple that were against TOS rules. If someone is overly cruel, mean or so forth to a topic I'm certainly not going to give them a plus for it. I know my star has dropped before, although I really could care less, and I'm sure its because someone rated me alos. That is what its there for, so I use it when needed.
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@mummybec (685)
• Australia
28 Jul 08
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.... I have not seen any comments or replies that needed reporting before... but it is nice in a way to know you can in case you are deeply hurt and / or offended by what someone else has written wither to or about you.
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@shamzy18 (2319)
27 Jul 08
hi ive never given negative rating i just dont rate them instead.. i only give positive ratings
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
27 Jul 08
I have also not used the negative ratings before - but have not seen a need to either. Of course if someone was extreemly rude and or hurtful in thier response I may do it then. I have only ever given postive feedback too
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@mandykaren (2040)
28 Jul 08
hmm i would like to know why some give negative, is it because dont accept other peoples difference of opinion? maybe just not like people to give their own views/opinions and being too petty and childish by being so mean to give negative i just only yesterday went from red star down to yellow and even now i still do not understand why.. As far as i know, i did ntohing wrong and i certainly not violated any of mylot rules to get bad feedback
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
I too have had my star change pretty quickly yet I honestly so not think I have written anything rude/mean etc to or about anyone on here! It makes you wonder why it happens sometimes...
2 Aug 08
i been told jealousy but that would be very stupid so no i dont know why either.. anyway.. i past caring, if people dont like difference of opinion, and i not change me for others so.. i mostly concentrate on getting my posts up so i can at least copy and paste haha.. take care
@Elixiress (3887)
28 Jul 08
I think I have left a negative rating once, I cannot remember why. I know it must have been because someone was being rude to me or not paying any attention to posts and just saying something completely unrelated, which I think is rude and really annoying too.
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
Thanks for your reply I would too if it was rude and or hurtful etc!
@shontia08 (846)
• United States
28 Jul 08
no, i just take it as their feelings about whatever subject we were talking about. i feel like everybody have their opinion and i'm not going to agree with them at all times. so i just look over them and their responses or discussions. some people give bad ratings because they are just hating on that person or just to be childish or hatefull. i've been lucky so far i haven't seen any discussions that i would rate negative. i don't respond to the negative ones anyway.
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
That is right everyone has a right to say how they feel / express thier opinions on any discussion. That is good you have not yet had to give a negative rating...
@MaeTsuen (257)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
on my part nobody did leave a negative feedback or said anything negative about me. neither did i .. and i want to keep it that way.
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
Yeah that is the way I would like to keep it too
@mimico (3618)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
I don't often give feedback, but when I do it's always positive. If a discussion is distasteful or lackluster I simply ignore it and move on. So to answer your question, NO, I have never given negative feedback before. Although sometimes I'm really tempted to. But I don't want to give negative feedback because I might get karma.
@mummybec (685)
• Australia
29 Jul 08
Yeah I am the same - I either do not rate a comment or only give positive. I like your way of thinking what goes around... comes around!!