Help me please....

@sharie16 (2212)
Philippines
July 28, 2008 1:34am CST
I dont really know how to start this, but anyway just got bothered with my best friend when she told me her story. We actually dont see for almost 3 years, and when we both meet we share each others' experiences for the last 3 years. She is now successfully working to a well known establishments here in our country, got paid enough to support her daughter, but to my dismay, I thought she was living perfectly, but I had known that she is single right now. Got confused 'bout it, I mean how come that she got a daughter when she is still single, I never known her that way. But to cut it out, the father of her daughter happens to marry another woman. I was shocked how she handle her problem. Then she told me every detail of it. The boy happens to be her officemate before, then they got relationship, the boy told my best friend that he lasted a relationship weeks before and courted my bestfriend, until they had relationship. She gave up everything to this guy, and she gave birth to a baby girl. They were not living together, and when my best friend seem to find out that there's something wrong about their realtionship, she went to visit the boarding house of her boyfriend, but the landlord told her that the guy wasn't there for almost a month, and then she gave her the address where he is presently residing. The next day after, my best friend ask her sister to accompany her to the address where the landlord gave them, and that was the climax, the one they talked to was the mother of her boyfriend's wife..(mother-in-law)..I don't know how she handled it well, but I admire her for what she did, I mean she just pretended that she was an officemate and didn't reveal that they have a daughter with the guy. I asked her, why doesn't she reveal the truth when in fact it was for her daughter's sake. She just answered me what for, when he is already been married and commit himself to anyone. She told me that the girl was the one he had relationship with after my bestfriend and they had a 10 years relationship before which happens that he return to this girl. Until now they still don't have children, but my bestfriend's daughter will be turning 2 this coming january. I really dont see a point why the guy did this to my bestfriend. and until now my bestfriend didn't tell this issue to her parents. Do you think she did the right decision? Or maybe you can help me what she might suppose to do with the guy..
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@AppiBaby (50)
• India
28 Jul 08
I think you must seggest your friend to go for the justice of court. She can very well demand an explanation for what she had sufferred because of her boyfriend. In fact she has been cheated by him and she should take him to the court for ruining her life. As i read from your message your friend has forgotten everything and forgiven her and may be threatened by him. But being a friend you should support her in getting her rights. This is a serious issue which she is trying to avoid for some reason. I think you should help her in every possible way
• United States
28 Jul 08
i agree 100%
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
I already told that to my best friend. And as such she doesn't want long proceedings. And doesn't want to expose her child such thing like that. She told me that she can live and raise the guy without his help. I am very much careful giving her advices since she is my best friend but how can I boost her confidence that she should do something regarding this matter?
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@michelled (326)
• United States
28 Jul 08
personally you cant really make her do anything. but if i was in the situation i would have told the mother inlaw everything. I think the other girl deserves to know what kinda guy he really is. I think your friend is scared to tell, she might not want to cause problems. Does the guy know she had his baby. It a hard situation to be in , give her love and support , and try to git her to explain why she dosen't really want to say anything. maybe you will have a better understanding of her reasons. I would tell her that she should be strong and tell the truth . He should be helping her support that baby , They made it together he should be helping support it.
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@sharie16 (2212)
• Philippines
28 Jul 08
I really hated the guy, I dont even know how to react on this situation. Before the guy get married to another, they already had a baby with my best friend. And he surely knew it, they even let the baby be baptized under his name but still he manage to marry to another woman. I'm very much crazy giving advice to my best friend because I choosing words to tell her not to be hurt since she is my best friend.
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