If your friend keeps messing up, again and again, do you have to forgive her?

United States
July 28, 2008 5:06am CST
If your best friend keeps doing the same thing over and over and hurting your feelings, should you feel obligated to stick by her? For instance if she constantly lied and got caught. Would you end things? Do you think it's right for a friend to misuse a relationship and simply expect to receive forgiveness.
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• Philippines
28 Jul 08
Of course, because for all we know, there is no one perfect. It's normal when our bestfriend get mistakes as long in the end he/she realizes of what she did wrong wasn't good at all. It's is right to forgive other's mistake and just tell them or advice them that it was wrong because best friends share moments of ups and downs to make them more stronger.
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@setrise (10)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Well of course!!!like u mess up sometimes rite?and she messes up 2 its like a mirror exsept that it dosent go at the same time and its friendship not relationship and if this didnt help then i;ve got nothin else i hope ur friend and u stay with a long friendship!!^_^
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@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I know this is not the same, but here goes my story . My cousin had a friend , and then we became friends . This girl does have a good heart , but she was very rude , and lived her life on the edge . I always made excuses for her because at one time she was sick , and had a transplant with her kidney . Things is she stopped taking her meds, drank, smoked , hung out with losers , and got in trouble . I tried to help her get on the right track , but it just got so bad , and caused fights bc i was her friend, so i had to cut ties . she now is losing her new kidney , and still wont change her ways , and i still try , but cant see her , bc she is throwing it all away .
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• United States
29 Jul 08
You were a good friend to try to help. But she made her choice. You couldn't do any more!
@Daphers (141)
• Canada
28 Jul 08
If someone is hurting your feelings over and over again and they are aware of it and they do nothing to change this, No you shouldn't feel obligated to stick by her. In highschool I had a friend like that, she used me and expected to just get away with it, because I was so young I put up with it for quite some time but finally in the end I just stopped hanging out with her. A true best friend is someone you can trust, depend on and lean on when time are tough. No one is perfect but people should learn from their mistakes.
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@shah62 (20)
• India
28 Jul 08
i have lost my bestfriend cuz of his stupid behaviour.but there is a certain limit for everything.he use to irritate me for no reason.he use to tel me that he had trust on me but he never showed it to me.for no reason he use to blame me.ofcourse i miss him but i have stopped talking to him but its necessary to make ur friend realise the importance of ur friendship.we should never allow our friend to misuse the relationship!!!!
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28 Jul 08
It's all depends how much you cherist this friendship. I have a friend who always lying, and I still stick by her, but I do not believe one word she tells, and most time she is telling the truth, but I still do not trust her. Trust is a great factor, and I do not trust her an arm length.
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@kate635 (126)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
I would forgive her/ him since I've read in the scriptures that we should forgive 70 x 7. But that doesn't mean that I would always listen and hang out with him/ her. I will set limitations so that he would also realize his mistake/s. But, sure, I will always be there for him as a friend.