‘More marriages are killed by silence than by violence...'

Hi Dear i agree with it Silence is more dangerous than Voilence and in my job i believe that if every thing is fine and calm it mean some thing is major happening and it will explode suddenly. So if u dont like any thing and just keep it in ur heart, so it will be limit to it and when the limits will be crossed , u will just brust up in a way that it would be hard to go back, and u know their would be so many things since long so its hard to mmanage. The Best way is Communication, if u have any problem or conflict or misunderstanding, dont keep it to urself, speak it up, discuss it, resolve it and for get it Dont keep it with ut self Silently Communication is best way to keep ur self cool and calm and it clears misunderstand and increase love and confidence Take care

Great Post Mimpi, I 'd like to share my views on this from a long relationship point of view , which would probably even apply to a marriage. No Matter how charming or wonderful the person is in their outward appearance, silence or 'destructive silence' if I may call it in this case, signifies one of the following. Firstly, a person is silent for the lack of self confidence or the fear of not wanting to say something which may affect the relationship or hurt the partner. Secondly, it may signify something being hidden, being covered up, a lie or a series of them... Both of these result in a breakdown of comunication and in trust. This then leads to misunderstandings and a bottling up of negative emotions, sometimes itself leading to violence, but invariably and sadly leads to the breakdown of the relationship or marriage.

you are absolutely righht. not only marriages, but many relationships end up in silence. it can be the main cause of misunderstanding. no party try to clear the air. the misunderstanding remains and relations break

Ha! Ha! The quotes sound quite interesting. I think sometimes silence could be self-destructive. Not communicating your feelings and emotions to your partner, due to one reasons or another, could be counter-productive. I believe, communication between life-partners is must, otherwise, misunderstandings may crop in. Sometimes, silenc of one partner could be taken as an 'agreement' by the other partner. If one partner does atrocities on the other one and the sufferer does not retaliate by way of communication, he/she is bound to suffer. It is said that - 'A mother does not give milk to a little kid or infant, till he cries' (cry signifies an infant's communication in this case), therefore communication is imperative in any circumstance to make the position clear. Once you retaliate to the atrocities of the other partner, he/she may feel bad for that particular moment and may even curse you, but in the long run, you would be safe in comparison to keeping mum. An excellent post!!

Im sure it would be all too easy to slip into not talking very much to one an other,an I can see how that would come about,but its very important to keep the converstation alive,and with long term relationships it may be a question of often going over older ground.But there are lots of topics for a chat,the news,the newspapers and talks fro mthe radio all provide help with converstation topics

Oh, my husband had change a lot better this days. I drive him into a serious talk even if he refuses at first but i still insist so we both cleared up the differences that's been growing between us. A good talk helps a lot, it freed up the most egoistic thoughts inside a person's mind if someone would be open enough to hear and be heard.. We both have learned our lesson very well, talking is now a part of our daily routine. In a relationship, a good talk is one secret ingredient to keep it going and growing. Happy mylotting

Hi Mimipi, I agree 100% with this as communciation in any relationship is a major key factor, even though violence is totally wrong too, I guess more marriages go to pot due to no communication within them. Huggles. Ellie:D

I would say that this is actually quite true, I would say that more secrets and dealings are kept from the spouses than ever before they were married! I am able to talk to my hubby pretty much about everything and anything that I want to. But still there are times when I do not feel like talking to him about things and so do not tell him. He gets upset when I do this as he feels like I am shutting him out so I always make sure that I keep talking to him.