Marriage not taken as seriously as it use to be.......Just curious
By nanciem
@nanciem (1105)
United States
July 28, 2008 6:23am CST
Lately I feel marriage is not taken as seriously as it used to be.. why is that?
Alot of couples are choosing co-habitation vs. marriage, is that because in the event of seperation a divorce is too messy, or, because marrige is more of a committment in SOME peoples eyes. I myself believe that co-habitation can be just as big a committment.
When children are involved in both situations, either marriage and co-habitation and there comes a seperation/divorce then children are still affected.
It may be due to someones religious beliefs, not sure. In the celebrity world I see people "jumping" in and out of marriages like the are shopping for new clothes. What is everyone elses views on this?
Just curious how people see things.
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2 responses
@shooie (4984)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Me and a friend was talking about this the other day. He was saying he was married 23 years this year and I told him congrats and hopped one day I can say that. I'm only 9 years into mine. Now days if people make it to 5 it's a miracle. Married or moving in to me is the same commitment especially if it is long term. I have known people that lived together over 10 years and had their kids and then get married.. dunno guess works for some but I was raised old school. To each his/her own.
@nanciem (1105)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Congrats! I do agree that making it thru for many years is hard, and I seriously do agree it is definately the same committment to co-habitate as to marry.
I have also seen where people live together for years have kids, continue a few more years then marry. It is all individual choice I do agree!
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I have been living with my s/o for a little over 3 years. We have both been through 3 marriages (each) that all ended in divorce. We are happy with things the way they are, and not in any rush to go down that 'aisle' again anytime soon. lol I do agree with you that it's just as big a committment. For us, we live as if we were married, not like we were just roommates. We are committed to each other, we just don't have a ring or piece of paper and I don't have his last name. But, I think it is also a choice for some because of the statistics of marriages ending in divorce now a days.
@nanciem (1105)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Hi Palonghorn!
I like you have been co-habitating with my s/o for a bit over 3 years as well, we have 1 child. He was married once, I have never married. my first son's father and I lived together for 15 years (I was only 17 at the time), never married, but it was just like a marriage, well isn't it a marriage? Maybe not the "textbook" version but a marriage of the heart and soul?
Go luck to you and your s/o!
