Be careful what you look for...

@nanciem (1106)
United States
July 28, 2008 7:53am CST
because you just might find it! How many people have ever or would ever go through the husband/wife gf/bf s/o's personal items to find out if they were/are cheating? And if you found they were, would you be destroyed, or, confirmed of your suspicions. Would you rather have not picked up their personal property and just be in denial or leave well enough alone?
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@shooie (4985)
• United States
28 Jul 08
have never thought to do this to my husband really anyone I dated before I married my husband. I guess I trusted to much. I knew and know I can be trusted so I try to build on trust. You don't have trust you don't have anything. Yes I know sometimes cheating happens but I don't know call me dumb I just prefer to think I can put my trust in people.
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Oh it's not dumb! You are just a trusting person, that's a great quality. I believe I am as well, but something maybe intuition tells ya to go sneak over and take a peek :)
@shooie (4985)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I never got the peek bug but when I had my first boyfriend at 15 and we had been together for like a year I got to feeling something wasn't right and I went and talked to this girl. Her and I were casual friend I guess you could say we would talk or have lunch together at school. One day I thought hmmmm I wonder and so I arranged lunch with her at school she was telling me about her new boyfriend and how they were going together. I asked his name and she told me and it was the guy that I was dating and even had a promise ring and his class ring on. I asked you are going together where is his class ring? she goes oh he lost it. I laughed to myself and didn't say nothing to her. She didn't ask me who I was dating but I said oh you wouldn't know him and then changed the subject and she didn't ask again. I went home put the rings in a box and the lil silver jewelry box and pictures and every freakin thing he gave me. Called him up and he lived about half hour away said can ya come over and he said he was busy and I was like please I have a present for you and really want you to have it. He came over i met him at the door and gave him one last really good kiss handed him the box said goodbye hope you and kelly have a great life and closed the door.
@leateagee (3667)
• China
28 Jul 08
You bet. Once I'd been nosey too in my relationship but it didn't do well. I was hurt and everything was broken. But I am happy I found it. At least I am at peace now. So far, being alone in life is good for me. I just think of my carer and my mother. Take care =)
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Good for you! Think of your career, mom and don't forget YOURSELF! I am so glad to hear you are happy now, and are past that! Sorry it happened, but glad you are ok!
• United States
28 Jul 08
I have been in this situation a couple of times. When you find the thing you most fear, it is the worst. You wish you never looked, you feel guilty for looking but at the same time, what if you didn't? you just go on pretending like nothing is going on and they just keep doing what they are doing. It is an unpleasant situation for everyone to say the least. And then you have the situation if you forgive the person and they promise not to do whatever they were caught doing. do you ever trust that person again? do you snoop around just to make sure? What if you tell yourself never to snoop again and that person keeps up their bad habits and you are made a fool of again. These kinds of situations are the worst. I have never known a more horrible feeling.
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I so agree with you, it is the worst. I am not sure about the trust thing, I belive once it is lost you say you can trust again, but there is always that one little part in the back of your mind telling you not to trust, wether we admit it or not.. that little voice consumes us. I believe we will go back to snooping again, just so you "know", but then it is up to us to make the decision to continue the relationship or bail the heck out of there, do we confront the person? That would mean we would have to admit the we 'snooped" or do we fib and say someone told me, someone saw you, someone calle my house etc. Very very hard emotionally to deal with! I have been there before myself!
@baileycows (3668)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Yeah I snoop, but not so much for cheating just because I am nosey. I would be destroyed if I found out, but I would be glad I found it.
@nanciem (1106)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I love that response.. because I am nosey. I think alot of are , but no one will admit it. I am nosey also!