do you like it when your "other"is jealous

@jhl930 (3603)
United States
July 29, 2008 1:39pm CST
i have heard several people say different things about this, we've talked about before their "other" being jealous of like another guy or girl...like if you were out some where and a girl started talking to a guy friend of mine they would be like yeah my girlfriend started to get jealous but it was funny the way that she did, but then theres been other times where i have heard about it getting so bad that the guy would like yell at the girl because she even talked to a guy period and just stupid stuff like that, and then the other day i heard from two different girls that they like it when the guy gets jealous because it shows that he wants her that bad and its really cute when he does...so tell me everyone what do you think about it, do you like it when the "other" gets jealous or would you rather them not be the jealous type...thanks for taking the time to read my discussion and i hope that you all have a great day!
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@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
im guilty about this hahaha.. but im not like that im just the kind of a person who's very jealous when my bf will look with another girls while we're together or while we're walking lol if i will see that his eyes are rolling around or having a tantalizing eyes, sometimes i get to spank him hahaha.. coz i want his attention is on ME ONLY nothing else.. lol
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
30 Jul 08
LOL ^_^ I"m easily jealous too, my dear =D muahhhhh
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@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
hehehe i didnt noticed that lol =p
• Malaysia
30 Jul 08
Hey there, Jealousy must exist if the person loves you. However, it must not be over-excessive and baseless or else it will be damaging to the relationship as it portrays lack of trust between the couple and in a love relationship, there must be trust. I think a relationship that has been established for a long period of time should have less of this kind of 'jealousy' problem as the couple should know the other quite a lot and know when is the right time to suspect anything.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
30 Jul 08
Actually jealousy is not exactly a measure for love. SOmetimes it is not love that brings it about, but the idea of possession. It's mine, you can't have it doesn't necessarily mean I love it, I will be hurt if I loose it.
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@kezabelle (2980)
29 Jul 08
No i dont really like it when he acts jealous there is nothing for him to be jealous about id never cheat on him, and he knows it so there is no reason to be jealous as it makes it seem to me that maybe he doesnt trust me.
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31 Jul 08
my wife would agree with you. she thinks it shows mistrust and insecurity. i almost ruined our relationship by confronting or questioning her about every detail of something and snooping a lot. it's true, though i was just very insecure. i didn't think she was capable of loving me enough not to hurt me. i'm still working on that.
@ishralene09 (2260)
• Philippines
29 Jul 08
For me, when a girl is jealous she really is on with you. But when it becomes too much that it's more of an obsession, the relationship falls apart. Sometimes to make the relationship more spicy you have to make the other jealous a little. But others become too jealous that they tend to destroy the whole relationship, always suspecting their other half of wrong doings.
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@jhl930 (3603)
• United States
29 Jul 08
i agree that sometimes it is kind of cute when a girl gets jealous but when she pushes it and pushes it it kind of gets old after awhile, thanks for replying to my discussion!
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• Philippines
29 Jul 08
Sometimes, because I can see and feel that I am still important to him and he doesn't want to lose me... but if his jealousy comes to extremity, that would ruin our relationship. A little bit of it would spice up our relationship and too much would cause a damage...
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• India
29 Jul 08
Jealousy to an extent is little extent, but beyond that its just crazy.
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@property (453)
• United States
29 Jul 08
He he... some discussions are quite timely. I love that my mate is jealous (most of the time). He keeps me home with the kids and is very clear that he finds me irresistable, therefore it stands to reason other men would be inclined to feel the same. This is, of course very flattering. That said, because he assumes every man is secretly plotting to steal me away, any man who speaks to me he thinks is a threat. If my ex-husband (who clearly CAN live without me) wants to discuss our daughter with me, my mate assumes my ex is gunning for a reunion. We recently moved to an apartment complex, the complex has a pool. If I take the kids to the pool and someone speaks to me... well, he has instructed me to be rude and advise the offending man that I have no interest in having a conversation with them. I see these people nearly everyday and don't want to be rude, however I'd rather go home to a happy mate than an irate mate who feels the need to "educate" someone. I know my partner loves me very much. Personally, I'd rather deal with his jealousy than live with someone who was ambivalent.
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• United States
29 Jul 08
my husband isn't a very jealous person so when he does get jealous i do like it.. I like it when he get jealous.. I guess you could say that like it when my husband gets jealous.. I rather him not get jealous but when he does i like it..
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@redkathy (3375)
• United States
29 Jul 08
I've heard similar things too. I think making someone jealous intentionally is for the younger crowd. Some one posted it spices things up and I just can't relate to that statement, probably because I never was a jealous person, but I'm sure others can. I think that jealousy shows a lack of self confidence and self esteem. It can be very destructive to any relationship.
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
30 Jul 08
There are many ways to see when our partner is jealous and it's something that cant be hidden.. haha.. From their action and words, we can see it all, but yet we still commit the mistakes.. Y?? Because we just simply cant control ourselves.. hehe ANd jealousy is a killer, and once it starts, it's hard to cool things down and explain it.. ANd so, the best way is to avoid that kind of situation by keeping one's eyes and mouth to one self.. hehe ONe last thing too, jealousy is fatal ^_^
@Lxandra79 (1536)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Most Deff...very Fatal!
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Jul 08
I don't like it when someone my own... like friend or a boyfriend get jealous of me. I don't get any happy feelings about it. It just shows that the other person do not trust me at all and thinks that I am weak and can get carried away any time.. I don't like any one caring for me every time.. rather I want someone to partner me in the path of my life and we both save each other from falling in pits and taking care of each other. I don't want any one else to become my father or mother. And if you can't have any faith in me then goodbye.. I am sorry I can not be your girlfriend any more. I have warned many of my boyfriends from even trying to cage me ever!!!
• United States
30 Jul 08
yes ... i like when some one jealous from me ... because i get a sweet smile on my face ...=).
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• United States
30 Jul 08
Some subtle jealousy is nice once in a while..maybe a glare for talking to another man, or asking more about how you know someone, when he sees you say hi...but if he gets carried away with things like..where did you two go, why were you out so late, why did you have to wear that outfit, etc...then its a little to much..there is a line between jealousy and just plain bossy possessiveness
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30 Jul 08
I love when my "other" gets jealous.. I don't know why but I love it
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@academic2 (7005)
• Uganda
30 Jul 08
A little jealousy is good in a relationship-I mean if you you dont feel like you want to completely own your lover then it looks there is no love-ut misguided jealousy that borders the extreme is recipe for disaster
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• India
30 Jul 08
I think if girl and boy love to eachother then they trust to eachother & they have no difference or misunderstanding to eachother means they have true love to eachother if they have true love to eachother then there is no place of jealous because of that true love dont want to tease of them but i want to say something more that it also depand on the person & their thinking because the feeling of jealous is the part of our inner presonality and if the boy make to wrong with the girl & she has feeling of jealous then she is right becuse she has true feeling of that boy but he make only fun with her then she do right that is feeling of jealous that is my opnion
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@ruby222 (4848)
30 Jul 08
Jealousy is an ugly trait in people,and there are some who just cant help but show it,but there are people who are availabe in the counselling world that can help you if needs be to control thosse feelings.They are usually from a deep insecurity somewhere,maybe someone has let you down badly in the past,and you are on your guard.
@aendzie (571)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
I like it, I make my boyfriend jealous, but if he makes me jealous, I hate it. lol, yeah true..weird I know. When I see my bf jealous of anyone I get confident, it's like he really loves me, but sometimes when he get jealous over nothing, that pisses me off, well, good thing he's not that so jealous anymore, he trusts me now. I think he likes the idea of me getting jealous of his friends or colleagues, coz he smile when I act strange, so I think jealousy is healthy and can kill sometimes.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
Well there is a jealousy of a certain degree that is healthy in a relationship but when a girl gets too jealous even to your girl friends or you women colleagues then that is really not that good. When someone gets too jealous that it actaully affects your relationship with your long time friends and work then it is really very bad.
@Lxandra79 (1536)
• United States
30 Jul 08
I like it when my guy gets a lil jealous because to me it shows me that he cares about me....but I wont over do it in the jealousy...too much is just too much...i dont want to push him away. And i dont want him pushing me away wit his jealousy;) My babydaddy when we first started goin out..he was fine (this is not my current bf) then after a few monhts he didnt let me go out no where!...not even across the street...i was like damn how does he do that! but he had friends all over watching me...and that was psychic jealousy there...dont u agree?