If a good friend is flirting with your husband what would you do?

@salonga (27830)
Philippines
July 30, 2008 3:01am CST
A friend of mine obviously has this problem and would want to seek advice. I've given her my piece of advice but I want to hear more from you that I could share with her. Will someone please help her?
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13 responses
@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
lol you can flirt but not with a married man coz flirting with your husband is totally different, i think the right term for that is seduction lol btw, is she married or single?
@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
hehehe we'll never know what's on her mind but beware of her hehehe..
@spyjob (214)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
Flirting to someone else's husband will create not just problems but bad reputations. Tell your friend to put her shoe on the wife of that man he's flirting. She can't imagine the heartache she would done as well as the damage that it may cause to the relationship. Besides, she won't like to ruin her reputation in the neighborhood, doesn't she?
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
You are right! Unless she is ready to suffer all these bad consequences. Thank you for your thoughts!
@kaezy_kulet (2465)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
if she does that she is not a friend at all..a real friend would not even think of having any affair with her friends husband..if i were in that situation i will have a talk with that friend of mine a civil talk because i am an educated person and would not even dream of starting a scandal. I would ask her why is she doing such things and tell her that i am not happy in what she is doing and if she continues it means ending our friendship then after wards i will have a talk with my husband and ask him to avoid my friend as much as he can..
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
That's the best thing to do! Be direct and straight to the point will solve the problem. Thanks a lot!
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
thanks for BR^_^
• United States
30 Jul 08
Thats not a friend that sounds more like someone trying to take your place or something but then again I can be alittle jealous.
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Jealousy will always come in so better get rid of that woman who wants to take her place. Thanks for your views!
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
That's bad! Good friend does not do that, she should think of the friendship first not her own desire. If that is the case then she is not a true friend. Flirting to married man destroys her reputation as well as the friendship. I think the wife should talk to her friend, if she listens then good. Although you may be keen in giving out words since, she's a friend but it's time to tell her what you had noticed and it is not good. If friendship will be broken because of wrong doing, then it is better, than to stay with untrusted friend, later she will realize what she did is wrong and not worth to destroy the friendship that was built.
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Yes, how can she be a good friend at all! You are right, better to break the friendship if she can't be trusted. Cheers!
@roshand8 (1481)
• Sri Lanka
30 Jul 08
she ain't no friend,if she do that,kick her out!
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Kick her out! Yes! And if she still persists then kick her out literally! Thank you roshand!
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
30 Jul 08
i wouldn't like that at all. if she continued i doubt i would call her friend for long. but remember it takes two to flirt or do lot of things.
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Yes! How can she still keep a friend like that! Thanks for sharing!
• United States
30 Jul 08
if she is a good friend (she truly wouldnt be doing that but that goes without saying lol) i would sit her down and flat out say "listen, i consider you a really good friend, but the flirting with my husband is gonna kill this friendship real fast if you dont stop it. i dont want to lose your friendship and thats why im talking to you now, can you fix this problem or not?" and then see what they have to say about it. if they value her as a friend they will apologize and mend their ways, OR they can deny they are doing it at all and continue, in which case, dump her to the curb, tell her she is NOT a friend and that she isnt welcome in her and her husbands life anymore.
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@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Well you are right! Tell on her face exactly what should be said. That's good. I'll surely will share your comment to my friend, thanks!
@pinks17 (2192)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
I am such an observant type of person..So what I'll do is OBSERVE first and I will set a limit to her actions.Of course you have to gauge as well if this friend is your "friendly-type" friend or this friend of yours has the image of "being flirt".I don't want to judge the actions right away...so given 3 instances of her gesture..I will pull her away from my husband and talk to her in a straight forward and civil manner that she should BEHAVE herself and that I don't want people to notice her actions and might call her a FLIRT.... I hope that helps. PinksBee17
@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Ha!ha!ha! I think that is a good suggestion, pull her away! And if she does not change despite having talked to her in a civil manner then maybe she could just pull her hair till the flirt lady knocks down. Thank you Pink for dropping by!
• United States
11 Aug 08
Flirting among friends are OK, so long as your friend knows her boundaries and your husband knows his role as a loving faithful husband. If of course you are still uncomfy with it, then address the situation to both people seperately. A true friend would understand, a good husband would agree with how you feel.
@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Well sorry but as for me, flirting is never ok if the one involved is married. It is quite annoying on the part of the wife to see other women how much more a friend flirting with the husband of her friend. What is her motive? You are right however in suggesting that the issue should be addressed to them. Thank you for dropping by! Have a nice day!
@rsa101 (24934)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Well I think you should let the "Good Friend" be aware that she is going beyong her limits being a good friend to her husband. I think confronting the girl about it in a manner that is not violent is the next best thing to make things work. Getting mad at her won't work since it may have a negative impact rather than solved it amicably. Things might just be misinterpreted by the wife or vice versa. You should also hear her side before judging her that she is indeed flirting with her husband. Everybody must be given the chance to air their side.
@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Well you have good points and surely I will let my friend know about your suggestion. Thank you for caring to respond. Have a nice day!
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
31 Jul 08
Well this is hard situation .... If a good friend is flirting with other husband's it's not a good friend! I think your friend should talk to her husband, heart to heart, that he won't response to her friend flirts, because it will break all of the relationship they have if your friend husbands do that, it will hurt your friend, it will break her relation with her husband, and her friends too ... If .. her husband was a nice wise person, he won't do it, because he loves her wife
@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Yes, I hope the husband loves the wife so much and the flirting of the friend will not affect the relationship. Thanks for your views! Have a good day!
• Philippines
30 Jul 08
That is not a good nor a true friend! someone who does that is someone who has no shame and respect. I will confront that friend and i will tell her to stop flirting.
@salonga (27830)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Not good really! There a so many men out there, why choose her friend's husband! Yes she should confront her. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!