Estranged Family
By hug14me
@hug14me (123)
July 30, 2008 2:17pm CST
How do you get along with family that doesn't want to be part of your family or completely excludes you from the family? I have done my best to just get to know someone and they absolutely refuse to acknowledge me. Now they wont even acknowledge our part in the family. When I try, I'm called a "Suck Up". It was first tried 12 years ago and due to huge expatations things didn't work out the way they wanted so they moved away. Then after another 12 year they want the same things. Plus harrassment through the years with crank calls. They even admitted that they did it. Why would they do that if they didn't want to cause trouble. Expecially when it was around Christmas. They can't demand life to be lived their way. The kids arn't going to know each other. It's very sad. My husband tells me its not worth it. He would know more because it is his side of the family but still... I just wish things could be different. Pride has built up and there is no way around it. I have heard that there will be contact again when the kids are in their rebelious teens so that trouble will be created. It is very sad that the intent is to cause trouble and not for a chance at peace.
2 responses
@teka44 (3420)
• Brazil
30 Jul 08
Hi hug, first of all welcome to mylot and have a happy stay here. Well, if I would be you I never call them again and don't talk with them any more. You had tryed to know them and they did not wanted so keep the things this way. It will keep the troubles away from you. We don't need to know all the family, only the near relatives that you and your husband have relations. It always is better. Don't try to bring to your life people that will cause troubles. If they try to know you say that now are you that don't want and is better to each one stay in his place. Don't allow troubles to get in your life.
Cheers and welcome dear.
@mlh8087 (368)
• United States
3 Aug 08
You know, there's not a whole lot you can do about family that don't want to be family. That's why most of mine live somewhere else but not near me. My family would include mother and siblings. My husband, daughter, and I are very different from all that mess my own mother called family. Yeah, if they don't want to include you or speak with you-write 'em off. But just wait until they need something from you....
