Parent of a child actor

United States
July 30, 2008 3:19pm CST
Hey everyone, I'm a parent of two kids who are aspiring actors/models. Before you jump the gun, this is their choice and it istreated as a priviledge not a right. We have standards - good grades, homework completed, chores done, respectful behavior... the works I'm looking to see if there are any other parents out there that canshare their experiences with me
2 responses
• Canada
30 Jul 08
I was in a lot of plays as a child and loved doing them dearly however i started to realize once I hit highschool, all the days I had to miss for rehersals and late nights performing to then try to make it to school the next day. I was beat. My body couldn't take any more and my friends were dwindling away as I wasn't able to go out as much. I tried to keep up with my school work which just added to the not being with my friends as much. I finally started to see my grades slipping and I couldn't do anything to get them back up (I'm used to being an A/B student, anything under a B is bad for me). I finally had a choice. Accept having C's and D's, have no life and study every spare moment I have or I could quit the plays and be a normal child. I ended up quitting and my grades went up. I didn't struggle to do my work and I got to see my friends more. Although your kids want to act and model, they will start seeing what it does to their life and will most likely want to quit or quit school. Just watch them carefully and don't let it control their life. Believe me if you have to stop them from doing it, it will be for their own good!
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• United States
30 Jul 08
Thanks lil. I see your point. My son is soon to be twelve and an athlete. Baseball to be precise. When ball season came around this year he had to make a choice - baseball or auitions. He chose baseball and only auditioned if a game was canceled. Baseball season is hard - he has practice several times a week and it is not very close to where we live. He does his homework in the car most days and we don't usually get home until 9 - time for bed. But he is up and ready every morning by 6 am for the bus at 7:30 even though I offer to drive them the 5 miles to school so they can get more rest. Ky carries a heavy school load already but handles it better than any adult, including me. I have to put my foot down when he takes o what I think is way too much. He's such a popular kid in school and in Little League - he was voted sportsman of the Year, and nominated as a Sports Embassador to Holland for People to People. He learns quickly and tutors others in his advanced math and science classes. Frankly, I do not know how he does it, but he prioritizes his activities. Mikki on the other hand is a natural born chatter box. Although great in school now, I worry that things will get too hectic for her as she grows up. Although, she handles her classes and 5 dance classes a week, little league and acting classes. We have a busy yet structured lifestyle.
• United States
30 Jul 08
While I'm not a parent yet, I participated in musical theater, classical music, and pageants from a young age. I had the full range of lessons and auditions. I think the most important thing is to always support your children. Don't turn into the critic. It sounds like you are on the right track with your high expectations. Lastly, I would caution you to help your children experience other careers. They may not end up in acting/modeling and need to know there are other great options out there. Good luck to you and your children!