How do you handle misfortune?

United States
July 31, 2008 3:38am CST
Sometimes I can be cool as a cucumber. When things are going bad, I'm really focused and energetic and full of good ideas. And after the crisis passes, I have a mini break down and have to sleep for days. Guess that's my way of focusing on the problem and getting past it. Suppose it would hurt worse if I freaked out over every tiny turn of event or misfortune in life. My attitude is whatever happens, just happens! Maybe it happens for a reason to bring me to a new and exciting destination that I couldn't have planned for. Life is a lovely roller coaster ride. How do you handle adversity or misfortune?
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@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
As for me I take a deep breath and then focus on the things that are positive. Sometimes it also helps not to think of the crisis anymore and let it take care of itself
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• United States
31 Jul 08
Sometimes I am the Commander of the sea of fury, conquering the waves. But just like a flip of the coin I can be the cowering turtle who wants to hide away with only myself as company. How I do prefer to be in charge, for when the turtle in me comes out it brings out so much more. And I truely hate the negative.
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@LittleMel (14033)
• Canada
31 Jul 08
I can't complain I do have sometimes rare good luck, but I can also recall many times of unbelievable bad luck - so unbelievable that if I told you now you would think I was born a liar. It's almost like debts are bad lucks or whatever bad things happened to me, and the good fortunes are the way I got paid back. I don't have a fixed attitude towards misfortunes, but usually I will find it if it is intentional or real mistake. I learned that sometimes people do stupid things not because they are but because they are not and just trying to ruin somebody else's day or probably life. For these people I would try to ruin their day or life just for the sake of fairness, but if this is not possible I guess I would leave it as is because I will get a payback some day it seems the longer I wait the more payback I receive, almost like interest - if only I had the patience to wait for this payback to be sent my way
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@gemini_rose (16268)
31 Jul 08
I sulk, that is what I do, sulk, brood and bounce. I sulk because life went wrong AGAIN, then I brood on it, why did it happen and what can I do to change it or what can be done instead. Then I bounce back because I have thought of a better way or I have got over it!
• United States
2 Aug 08
Well when it first happends i guess you cpould say i slip into a slight depression. i just want to sleep. my body automatically just feels worn out. then when i wake up im more refreshed and ready to thnk about what is going on and how im ganna handle it... depending on what it is. i can just si tthere and be like okay whatever happends happends aint nothing i can do about it. and even somtimes i cant be like i dont care or its out of site out of mind. so really theres diffrent things for me i gues sit qall depends on the severity of the problem
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
1 Aug 08
I am a person who is very laid back and my feathers are not easily ruffled by external matters happening. So, even when everybody is panicking beside me, I would still remain calm and tell people to relax. I learn this from a very early age. When one is worked up and panicky, one cannot concentrate on what is going on and cannot think clearly. Even when things are right in front of you, and you are panicking, you will not even see it. How do I handle misfortunes? I handle it with calm and work things out rationally. And things will eventually work themselves out.
@roberten (3131)
• United States
1 Aug 08
I often times meet misfortune head-on but sometimes I avoid direct confrontation. I become paralized by the fear of the unknown and just do nothing until it is far too late to be effective. I prefer to meet it head-on and get it over with and under control quickly but life sometimes doesn't play out like that. It makes me sad when my fear gets the best of me.
@subha12 (18449)
• India
1 Aug 08
i would rather say these are really nice ways of facing the crisis. its more mature way. in my case, initially i become so much nervous. tensed and it seems that tension will kill me. later i try to find out ways to face it and resolve it.
@1grnthmb (2063)
• United States
1 Aug 08
When things would go bad for me I would work hard at correcting the problems and then like you have to spend some time to recuperate. It seems like I worked my best under pressure but it was not the most enjoyable work. It is amazing how we can look back on our lives and see something good that came out of a bad time.
@izathewzia (5139)
• Philippines
1 Aug 08
I cry first to release my disappointment. I easily cry actually. After crying, I feel slowly getting better. It is the time then that I slowly think things all over again. Trying to figure out what is the best thing i can get out of it. Balance things to see if i made a mistake or I just need to wait for the right time.
@Shaun72 (15965)
• Palatka, Florida
1 Aug 08
It all depends on what the misfortune is with me. If I am low on money. I figure eventully some how things will get better and I figure out a way through it.A family or a close friends misfourtune would be different.
• Philippines
31 Jul 08
Well, if possible i dont take it as misfortune when something comes bad at all in my life, because the more i focus on it, it will just bring more sadness and pain. Instead, i think of positive things that could cover up and things that could make me happy. What u think?
@Hatley (164170)
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jul 08
hi beauty queen sometimes I can stay cool too just depends right now I am not quite freaked out but close as my son, the breadwinner for my husehold of 2, lost his job on Friday and seem not to be doing much towards looking for a new one. this is freaking me out as I am 81 and handicapped and no longer wo rking, feel so helpless. I know he will find a new job only wish he would be a bit more proactive right now.