my brother.....i want him to stay...

@raclie (1732)
Singapore
July 31, 2008 9:37pm CST
damn.... really upset.... my school sucks yesterday.... and when i went home, my mom told me, the adoption for leo is almost going to be processed.... that, is a good thing... but the fact that we are not the ones adpoting him... and that he will be gone from our lives forever... suck.... i was soooo stunned and today, when i was in class, i started singing a song aloud.... "how do i live without you...."that is just the line i sang... and it is enough the floodgates opened happy for him, of course.... he will have a real family.... but does it mean that we are not real enough? it just scares me.... but he is just 4 can he protect himself? can he have protection by his family? can he have love what we give him???? can i say that i dont want him to be adpoted?? can we have a choice? i just dont want to let go just yet...
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Muelitz
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
1 Aug 08
I am sorry to hear that your brother is up for adoption. We can never really tell how safe your brother will be in the arms of the ones adopting him. The only thing that you can do is pray that he gets in a home of a very kind, caring and loving couple. In case they are going to be living somewhere near your area, you can probably visit him from time to time to see if he is well taken cared of. I hope him the best
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raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
2 Aug 08
well.... we are not allowed to visit him, but it will take up to 6 months, for him to be REALLY away from us.... so, i guess i still have time.... not as much as i want, but still...
maximax8
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
3 Aug 08
I am so sorry to hear that your brother is going to be adopted. I hope that it will be an open sort of adoption when letters and cards are allowed to be exchanged. In my home country some adopted children have contact with their birth brothers and sisters once a year. Other adoptions are closed with no letters, cards or contact. Why is your brother being adopted? He is four years old then, not a young baby? Good luck to your family. My toddler son is called Leo as well.
raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
4 Aug 08
he is a foster brother, so we have no legal hold on him... we are only his legal gardian only as long as we have him in our house and when we are being hired to look after him... so, once he is gone, we cannot contact him.... his parents cannot look after him, so we have to.... and so he is being put up for adoption.... leo is a very nice name....
lilaclady
@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
1 Aug 08
Oh that sounds so sad, I am not sure i would be able to cope with emtional stress as that, I am too much of a deep thinker and sensitive, i think it would all be too much for me...
raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
1 Aug 08
well... i am the most emotional one in my family, so, yeah.... it is damn hard.... i want him to stay and go at the same time... stay with us, go and have a new and better life...
honeydew82174
@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
1 Aug 08
Oh, Honey He will go to a good home where they will love him uncondtionally. It is hard to let go but when you think like that , think of all the happiness this new family will bring him!
raclie
@raclie (1732)
• Singapore
1 Aug 08
it is just so tought to not worry.... and to let go... we had him since he was 1 month old... and he is now 4... so almost 4 years.... he is our first foster child and has even been to oversea trips with us... i just CANNOT let go!!!! i cannot think what will happen without him, or without a younger brother at home.... and that, really hurts...