Why Couples Choose A Very Long Engagement?

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Philippines
August 1, 2008 4:13am CST
An engagement is a special time in a couple’s life, whether it will be only for a few weeks or if it will last for months or years. Wedding planning resources offer plenty of information for planning the actual ceremony and reception, but celebrating an engagement is also a momentous time in a couple’s relationship. By consciously working together to enjoy this period in their lives, a couple ensures that their married life starts out along a happy road. Couples choose a very long engagement for a variety of reasons, and dealing with an extended courtship can be a strain not only for the bride- and groom-to-be, but also for family members and friends who are eager for the impending nuptials. To deal with this extended engagement takes a strong relationship as well as a healthy dose of patience. Why Have a Very Long Engagement? There are many reasons why couples choose an extended engagement period. Some of the more common explanations include: [i]1. Military service including possible deployments overseas 2. Finishing a college degree at a distant university 3. Saving enough money to pay for the wedding independently 4. Serving a religious or humanitarian mission 5. Moving to a new home or buying a house 6. Not wanting to coincide with another friend’s or family member’s wedding date [/i] Whether the couple plans a very long engagement because of personal, financial, or social reasons, they must be prepared to weather questions and concerns from well-meaning people who want to see them finally wed. Being prepared to deal with those questions and knowing how to plan through an extended engagement will help the couple draw closer during their courtship than they might during a whirlwind engagement. http://engagementrings.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Dealing_with_a_Very_Long_Engagement Have You Been Into This Kind Of Situation? How do you go about it? Did you encountered problems along the way ? How did you handle it? Thanks for sharing!
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4 responses
• United States
2 Aug 08
I was engaged for over two years, for really none of those reasons. I just wanted a longer engagement to be sure I really wanted to get married. I never had any of those problems, either. In fact, most people either ignored my engagement or discouraged it. I had very little support. No one was eager for my wedding. Hardly anyone even showed up when I did. I enjoyed the extra time, though, to study, research and try to get the best deals I could. The wedding industry is very cutthroat and they do anything to extort a few extra hundred dollars out of an unsuspecting bride.
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• United States
4 Aug 08
Well, we're not starting a family, really. And their attitudes did ruin my wedding. It was one of the most miserable days of my life. I try to put it behind me and just enjoy my marriage.
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• Philippines
4 Aug 08
it is good to think a lot of times before entering into having a family.,and i guess having that kind of thinking is good! well, if they don't agree with you in your engagement then don't get affected.,it is still your decision.,just ignore them.,and do what you think is right and will make you happy.,thanks for responding! have a nice day ahead! and best of luck to your wedding!
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
1 Aug 08
My fiance and I are on a long engagement. He officially proposed to me in January but in all intent and purposes we were engaged in November. My fiance and I are only on a long engagement because of number three on your list, which is to save enough money to do it independently. We plan from time to time but we have a basic layout and know how much it will cost to do the wedding, and know where it will be. I appreciate this discussion! I hope you are having a very wonderful and lovely day today!
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• Philippines
4 Aug 08
thats a good preparations! thanks for responding and best of luck to your wedding! thanks!
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
7 Aug 08
I appreciate the wish for best of luck and I also wish for luck and joy for you! Have a wonderful day!
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• Canada
10 Aug 09
I never really understood the point behind a long engagement. My husband and I chose to have our small wedding ceremony right away, and plan for a bigger one when we could be together in the same place. At the time I was living in Canada, and he was working in the USA, so we waited until he could come to Canada for the ceremony, but got legally married a year before.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
4 Aug 08
i always think it depends on individuals. also the points you have mentione dhere are really very true.there are so many reasons peopel try to adjust many other aspects in life before finally taking the vows.
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• Philippines
12 Aug 08
yes, we really need to take a lot of consideration before deciding to take a vow or settle down.,and for me one of the biggest factor now is to be financially stabled! Ü thanks for responding! have a nice day ahead!
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