child spanking

hitting children was banned here long ago and i can understand the reasons.. You hit a child for being naughty and then if still naughty, what you do.. hit the child even harder? you see that is what happens, where do you stop? it can get out of hand and also a child grows up thinking its ok to hurt others, i seen where when a child is playing with a doll, and its quite frightening. she be hitting her doll REALLY hard saying you bad girl, because she thought it was normal as her mum would do it to her. And obviously a child looks up to their parents.. I do not agree with hitting a child.. child needs to feel safe and loved.. Shouting can do just as good or to take privilege away but not to inflict pain on child. That way you teaching child about life.. if bad or do wrong at a job can loose it, similar to loosing a privilege. My step father used to hit us, REALLY hard, and i later find out that his mum used to hit him.. I seen documentary, was a chat show of parents that hit their children to the extent that it was almost abuse, looked into the past of these parents and they had also been through it with their parents.. It becomes a mental thing, how you are bought up to believe that violence is ok I am strongly against hitting children.. you know, its more upsetting for a child if him/her sees that their mum or dad is very disappointed in their behavior especially if you always showed love and warmth..

I don't have a habit of spanking my son. I usually use words to try to pacify or help my son when he is being a bit insolent or disobedient. I know that some places condone this and some places don't like it. Some people like to abide with the bible in stating that if you spare the rod, you spoil the child. I think it depends on individuals what they want to practice as long as there is no abuse.

I am not a parent yet, but in a way I believe in spankings when it is appropriate, but I wouldn't spank my child. I just believe there are other ways of disciplining your children.