MySpace users are you having this problem too?

From a woman who is married to a music man. We come from different worlds. Far apart in life work and how we must interact with people daily. I must dress each morning in a suit, briefcase brimming with reports and laptop full of applications only a project manager and software geek could love. I jump on airplanes and am gone most weeks to client sites near and far. Contact with my husband being early morning and late night phone calls to say "I love you, I miss you, the bed is cold without you, my arms are empty without you to fill them". His life is laying drum beats and keyboard riffs for sounds he hears in his head. His life is playing with the band(s) at gigs across town and sometimes across two or three towns. His life is searching for that perfect band that will take him somewhere. His life is searching for that opportunity to work in the studio with bands that are recording. In the meantime his life is also working in the Pro Shop of the premier Golf Club in town so that he can take lessons and play the course for free, his other love! Sometimes we don't see each other but for a brief minute, even on the weekends when I am home because he has a gig. Sometimes those gigs are in places that he doesn't think it is safe for me to be. We live in Texas remember. We are a mixed race couple. Add to that the disparity of our ages, I am 19 years his senior and there are some places that he plays that we just are asking for trouble. Do I support his music? Yes absolutely. Do I want him to be successful? Yes absolutely. Does it sometimes interfer? Yes absolutely, but then so does my life. We both know that and accept the consequence of who we are and what we do. He also has a MySpace page, I simply don't look at it because the one time I did it offended me (for the same reason your girl is offended). Do I know there are women comming on to him at gigs? Yep I know. He is handsome and a musician - receipe for disaster. Issue is that he is my husband and I can either believe in him or not. I choose to believe in him and believe in our dreams together. I choose to believe that he is the person who I married; a man of ethics, morals, and character. Not the man that others would make of him. Women will be women, if they choose to show themselves in public forums they will do so, my husband cannot change this nor can I. If they choose to come on to him at gigs they will do so whether I am there or not, seen it with my own eyes. I cannot change this nor can he. His response is his own. My response is to believe in him. He has never given me any reason not to do so, in the 11 years we have been together and the 9 years we have been married he has always proven to be worthy of my faith and my trust. Jealousy is nothing but personal insecurity. My husband loves me. I love him. Others have no place in this. Their behavior is their own, can't change it. It is not disrespectful, what you are doing. Her insecurity is disrespectful of you and demeaning of herself.

If you just cant respect her feelings then just leave her or leave your music thing or whatever it is. She must come first for you after all this. Sort it out and tell her tat u really are a clean artist not a butt naked thingy!

I have to admit I don't understand the jealousy thing. I never have. I don't think you should block anyone to satisfy your girl friend. Still, I don't know what the point is to showing your body on the internet. I really don't care to see it myself, but I wouldn't block anyone over it. I just laugh and think "You won't be dressing like that in 20 years." Personally, I don't think it is your girl friend's business but if you really like her and respect her, keep the peace. I agree she should being handling it better though.

You need to be understanding about your girlfriend's feelings and try to be patient with her. I have a myspace and a facebook. My youngest son was in a metal band for about fives years. They practiced at our house and I helped them book shows around the state. I also helped them with the business end of the scene. I promoted them bug time and understand what you are saying about friends on myspace. I have a ton of metal bands and promoters as friends on mypsace!! Since they practiced at our house and I never missed a show, I was around with the girl friends all the time. Your girlfriend needs to become a bit more mature and if you really love her you will be patient. Young girls tend to be groupies and your girlfriend probably sees and knows how they are but is not yet confident enough in herself or your relationship to overcome this. Try doing something extra to let her know you care... and don't have an attitude when she worries over your myspace