Should you let your boyfriend/girlfriend go to strip clubs and clubs without you

Canada
August 3, 2008 8:51am CST
Okay, so I guess this is the question Im asking. Is it appropriate for a significant other to go to one of these places (or any environment similar to this whatsover) without you all the time? Me and my boyfriend arent perfect but we never put ourself in the situation where we could possibly hurt eachother. If one of us goes, the other does too, that way no ones feelings are hurt or no ones worrying. But on the other hand, I know someone who goes all the time without his girlfriend, as if its no big deal. When she gets hurt/upset, he thinks is rediculous. What do you feel about this situation. Should it be okay to constantly go to these types of places alone without your boyfriend or girlfriend. Assuming the trust is there, is it just something thats appropriate in a serious relationship? Give me your input.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
3 Aug 08
In my own humble opinion going period could destroy a relationship not to mention a girl's self esteem. However, as the question asks,I do believe that to be fair a man and a woman should go together therefore no worrying can be done. A man doesn't have to worry that his wife or gf is going to go and hook up with someone else and vice versa. I think it's wrong of your friend to go without his gf and then get not understand why she is upset. In my own humble opinion the girlfriend should just break up with him. Well, I appreciate the discussion. I hope you are having a wonderful and lovely morning like I am!
• Canada
3 Aug 08
Lovely? Well I have to go to work so not so much. But you're right. I think that if you are going to go out like that you should be with your partner so no one can feel insecre or uncomfortable. I know people need to have their girls/boys nights. But you can pick a different establishment for that, especially by different reputation. I dont know about clubs in other areas, but the ones here are pretty much considered cheater's central. If you're guy has self control, thats amazing, but unfortunately not to many do these days.
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@SomeCowgirl (32255)
• United States
3 Aug 08
I had to read again and then my own discussion to realize you were commenting on my well wishes for you. Work can be bothersome, but I hope the day goes quickly for you. It's sad that there are a lot of clubs that breed the cheater where you are, for me there aren't any clubs here in the first place, but the one's i've been in other areas I can believe host cheaters. Anyway, thanks for the reresponse!
• United States
4 Aug 08
I don't think that it is totally wrong i have ask my husband if i could strip he said that he had to think about it.. I would do it if he would agree to it.. but if your partner doesn't agree with it that you shouldn't do it. It all about what your partner thinks about it.. I wouldn't do it unless my husband said it was alright.. I don't think he would be alright with it if i didn't ask him.. I still don't think that he would be okay with it even since i asked him.. if he let me i would let him be my personally body guard..
@ngaspero (851)
• Italy
3 Aug 08
No if she does it usually, yes if it's for a special occasion..