Yours, Ours, Mine : Whose is it?

Hi SOmeCOwgirl, That is very true! it should be called "ours" and not just money but almost everything that you have! ANyway, in our case, we decided to have a joint account as well as individual account! Those individual accounts were our old accounts when we were single and we just decided to just let it be and have some plans for our major projects in my Country!

Personally, I think that there should be his, my, and our money. Most of the money should be in a joint accout - our money - from which bills are paid. But each individual needs to have access to money that is his/her own. Having to ask for money is not something any person should have to endure. (I know. I've been there and it's quite demeaning.)

i have my own money, my hubby has his own money and we have our money as well... :-) weird isn't it??? but that is how it works in my house... i just feel safe if i have my own money instead of putting all my hard earned money in joint account... in case something happened, then i won't be penniless...take care and have a nice day...

Well, me and my daughter married men that belive money he earns is HIS, money I earn is OURS. When OURS doesn't cover everything, he'll pitch in, but what isn't needed is his to spend as he wants. We have to ask for money and he decides if he will give us any. I promote to anyone that cares to listen....keep yourself your own accounts. Don't merge everything. Have a joint checking account for all the house hold bills and such, but have your own account and keep some money in there for yourself. Even if it is just asavings account, keep it for yourself. You won't be sorry. Plus...if at all possible, don't let him know you have as much as you have. I scrounged and did without and did coupons to stretch the dollars and literally saved pennies until I 'd saved a hundred or so. THen I was proud of what I'd done, told him about it, and suddenly the next month - boy oh boy, we were short that exact same amount as I had saved! And he didnt' know how we were going to pay the bills. Knowing that I put myself last and everything else first, he knew that I'd offer my savings. I tested this several times, just cause I couldn't believe it myself, but sure as God created little green apples, it happened 3 times in a row. So I stopped telling him about my savings. Hum...suddenly we weren't short to much any more! Love and all - fine and dandy but look out for yourself. Love has nothing to do with it. It's about yourself and just because you are married and love and all, doesn't mean you can't have something for yourself.

Well I do not work but any money that comes into the house is our money. All the money earned in a month goes into our joint account and then I am responsible for making sure the bills are paid and shopping and that. Whatever is left gets split between us. We have always been like this, it is more easier for just one of us to be in charge of finances.

hi somecowgirl we had three account,his,and hers,and ours, ourswas to pay household bills and the mortgage and all 'that went into up keep and gas of course. His was his own money and hers was my own money, we never fought over money as we had it set up right . other things maybe but not money.

In our home it's "our" money. My husband works while I am a SAHM, but he insists that it's "our" money since I take care of the household, our sons and him. We share everything, bank accounts included. A couple that we know has been married for 6-7 years and they have their own money. She has her account and he has his. He pays certain bills from his account and she pays others. If one of them runs short on a payday, like when she takes off work because she or one of the kids are sick, they actually borrow money and pay it back to each other. My husband and I think it's weird, but they're happy that way. They both say that since they got burned by their ex's so badly when they had joint accounts that they prefer it this way. It's a trust issue as far as I'm concerned and if my husband wanted to have his own accounts I'd get the impression that he doesn't trust me. Some people are happy having "mine" and "your" money, but when my husband and I got married we went into everything as a couple, so there is no "mine" and "yours". It's ours.

Im going to sound old fashioned here,but the money is OURS ..what little there is of it!lol and theres no such thing as mine and yours in a marriage,if you wed then you become one and work as a couple,otherwise theres no point!you have to pull together,go through the rough and the smooth together,that is married life,and it makes you stronger.

I have seen several people on here who have said my money or his money or her money instead of their money which is wrong if you ask me,if you are dating,engaged,or married to a person then it should not be his and her money it should be their money because it is the right thing,and I agree the money we make we call our money,just like the stuff we own we call ours,since we are together and are going to be wed sometime next year,and I think you are right that when it comes to the wedding it is only proper to say our money,because it is our wedding,and yeah we used to have a joint account but we closed it,and now both have an account at mine and my parents bank so that we the bank is closer and we both have an account to draw the paypal money into,even though when we get married we will put both our names on one account instead of having two accounts,I love you.

Good day.... I agree that there should be a joint account and separate ones so one can have his/her account from which they can use from time to time to buy the things that they want or needed. It's hard to have money matters or arguments.

Hello SomeCowgirl, All the best for your forth comning wedding, I had my own bank account years ago but when we got married I never bother to change it but now tha I am unable to work my disablity money goes straight into my account. Myhusband pays for the and all the bills so I buy the weekly food. I like to have my own money as I like my own independant, if I want something I don't have to ask him and he does the same but do help each other out if we are short. Tamara