Were You Financially Stable When You Got Married?

@mjmlagat (3171)
Philippines
August 3, 2008 9:53pm CST
I wasn't financially stable when I got married. I was just a fresh college graduate then who was so head-over-heels in love with my husband now that although we didn't have savings yet, we agreed to be married. He has newly gotten his license as a Civil Engineer but worked in another field of his expertise, teaching Music (keyboard/piano). It was his income that sustained our livelihood for that year, until I got employed as a teacher the following year and he got hired to work in a bank that same year. It was a pretty challenging life experience for both of us knowing the fact that we were still very young when we got married and eventually got kids, and we truly learned from it. How about you Friends, were you financially stable when you got married? What were your the financial circumstances during that time? Thanks for sharing and Happy posting!
10 responses
@eagle_f15 (2051)
• Malaysia
29 Jan 09
My husband and I both were financially stable when we got married. We both work from home - my husband has his own tech business, I teach music classes from home, we both sell online and I am active in Tupperware. All this is work from home. But although we are financially stable, we do have challenges as well as life for us was not always smooth sailing. But thanks be to God, we manage to overcome the challenges. Although we were financially stable, we did not throw a big wedding. We had a simple wedding in church with close friends and relatives only. We did not even take a wedding photo album like most couples would. We felt it was a waste of money as to take an album is very very costly and after that the album would be kept in the cupboard. We'd rather use the money for something else more worth it.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
29 Jan 09
One unique experience! Thanks for sharing, God bless you!
• United States
4 Aug 08
Oh, we weren't even CLOSE to be financially stable when we get married. We had only graduated from high school three months prior. We had planned on a long engagement followin graduation, but I was pregnant, and we gave in to the familial pressure to get married before the baby was born. It was a long hard road, and luckily we had our families to help us. Now my husband is in the military, and while we're not rich, we're stable - most of the time. We have nice things and a fairly comfortable life.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
16 Mar 09
I'm so happy for you! Stay happy as ever!Thanks for the response!
• Philippines
15 Mar 09
I dont think so that marriage can help two people become stable in financial I disagree with that.What if you got married early then you even not finish your study.What should you do?You will be dependent in your parens because they can make your life easier with them.No, it is better that finish school first and then find work then if you have enough savings that you think there will be no problem in the future.Then you got marry whom you are happy with.Because being a married person is a big responsibility,it is not always that you feel happy all the time.Those who are youngster out thier like me marriage is not a solution.Unless your husband to be will be rich as BILL GATES.
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
29 Jan 09
No I was not. I was still studyinn still a university student when I got married. I graduated two year later.But I think it was the best decision for me even thought I got married at a young age. It was challening make your ends meet but it makes you treasure your relationship and material things more.
• United States
15 Oct 08
My husband and I were so far from financially stable. We were 20 years old and both already in debt. My husband was in the military and we lived overseas. We were so happy to spend money we didn't have! We got ourselves more into debt until we realized how bad our situation was becoming. We finally started to get ourselves together, until we moved back home to California (where we couldn't afford to live) and our problems just kept getting bigger and bigger. Now we're in Texas and five years after we got married are just now starting to get our finances into order!
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
We were not financially stable when we got married. In fact, we were even in debt that time because we started two businesses that went bad. Our wedding was just a private events with only a few close friends as witnesses. I think a lot of us wasn't really financially stable when they got married. Waiting to be financially stable before getting married might not be that good for the relationship either coz it might take too long and one of the mate might get tired of waiting. Besides, I think its more fun to be growing together as a couple even in our financial aspect. Though, in our part, I think it would have been better if I didn't get pregnant immediately. It would have been easier for us to focus on rehabilitating our finances but then again, every child is a gift so I am still thankful no matter what the timing is.
• United States
4 Aug 08
No even close.. we aren't financially stable now.. We got married 4 month ago and we are still arn't... I never expect to be financially stable when i got married.. that is a part of life..
• India
4 Aug 08
Same here. We were 23 when we got married. We fell in love at college and married the moment we landed a job…it’s the main reason why none of us have a very rewarding career now. We did not go into further studies as we just wanted to get married and so started looking for a job. It was real struggle and in the midway, both of us lost our jobs (not together of course) and the hardship brought us closer. Don’t you just love those memories? We do, we often talk of those days, its like our joint secret, our joint pledge to something sacred. Its been 11 yrs now and our only child is 9 yrs, but time has only brought us closer. We truly believe that we are the other half of each other and I wish the same fulfilment to both of you in your life.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
4 Aug 08
I'm not yet being married, but you know sometimes, living in a married livehood can get our luck's getting bigger :D Especially when you have a kid
• United States
4 Aug 08
No we were not. I had just started a new job, a decent paying job, and hubby was working but his trade is not very stable, it involves construction so weather and other factors can keep him from working at times. We only had one car to get both of us to work, but we managed, we alawys have in the 10 yrs since, and its made us stronger. We still dont have a house, we rent an apartment, but we have two cars, and are making it on one income so that i could be home with my son since we had him 5 yrs ago. I will be going to work out of the home again this fall when son starts full day kindergarten, so things will be more stable...took long enough..lol