Has anyone raised a child with Aspergers?
• United States
9 Feb 10
We recently found out that my 15 yr old daughter has Aspergers. This diagnosis only came after a year of trouble with her running away, disappearing etc. She had always had troubles in school with work and social settings but we could never get any help. It seemed no one helped her or understood us. She had become quite abusive in outbursts around the house and with her younger sister. It was a nightmare. I hardly slept either thinking she would hurt her sister, burn the house down or run away again. Finally, she was admitted to a hospital that had an on campus school situation. Through that she was then accepted to live in a group home run by the church. THIS is where the light came in. She has a WONDERFUL counselor in charge of her and she is the one that first introduced Aspergers. After her diagnosis things changed dramatically. We are all in constant therapy and behavior learning mechanisms. Our lives have changed so much since we have specialized help. The key is DON"T give up! Also remember that with this syndrome often the outbursts or harsh things they do/say are not because they are bad or don't like you it's more about the fact that they are having trouble expressing their feelings/thoughts. Get into a support group and remember you are your child's #1 advocate! Good luck!
• United States
25 Aug 09
The best thing you can probably do is see why she might be acting out in this way. People with Asperger's, from either gender, have a tendency to act out in a different way than most kids might. I can't say much without knowing the precise behavioral problems. I would guess they would be not wanting people to touch her, not wanting to do homework or fixating on a particular topic and exhausting discussion of it. Those are the ones most common. It could be that your daughter finds her class boring and therefore is trying to entertain herself. I suggest this because I know exactly what she might be going through, though from the male perspective. I am 23 with Asperger's, and I have just a few words of caution. A person with Asperger's is only as confident as their support base might be. If there's just you and a teacher, it might not be enough. Aspies, as we call ourselves, tend to have difficulties in expressing our emotions properly. This causes us to become frustrated, especially when we try to articulate what we are feeling and are misunderstood in our translation. Tantrums are a fairly common expenditure of energy that builds up from frustration. In some ways, it might be therapeautic for your daughter to have these. In some cases, repression of these blow-ups can cause high-blood pressure or other difficulties. This creates a problem later on when they're on medication. If your treating a person with AS with one medication, but it is counteracted because of the high blood pressure, conflicts will arise, much more destructive to both the physical and mental health of the person in question. My advice is to do your best to be supportive of your daughter. Perhaps have a child psychologist speak with her, as they are trained to handle these blow-ups. Families take the blow-ups harder, especially if they occur during the teenage years. Again, I speak from personal experience. I hope you can make it through the coming years with minimal difficulty. I will pray for you.
11 Sep 08
My son has similar problems, he finds it difficult to make friends with his own age. He began by repeating after his teacher, making fun of her in class. Than he started repeating after his classmates. He did not have any friends in class. The school teacher brought this to our intention. We took action sought professional help and although he is not the popular kid in the school he has made a friend or two who can help him cope in school. Try to involve your child in scouts or brownies or a similar organization.
4 Aug 08
hi turtle girl how are you i am sorry to hear that your child has been sufeering iwith an problem and i do not know much about the disease that your daughter is going through but as you have said that she had some behaviourial disorders therefore i can make a suggestion that this might not be a genetic disorder so might her grandmother or grandfather might not be suffering from same disease or similar disease