Do you believe in love @ 1st sight,or is it posibble to fall for sum1 u jst met?

Philippines
August 5, 2008 5:07am CST
Can't believe it is possible,until it happened to me.It was so disgusting on my part because it very unlikely of me to easily fall in-love with someone i do not really know too well.Besides,i was raised in a country where most families are conservative,so for a lot of people..it would be a shame for you to be in a relationship with a man whom you don't really know and that never seen courted you by visiting you at home.It's like that here,majority of the people judge you the way you talk,the way you move,the way you behave,the way how you make friends,the way how you entertain suitors,and more for the way you live your life etc.But don't get me wrong,majority of the people here are very nice,friendly and hospitable..its just that,they are not that liberated and broadminded like what i think most people from other countries are.[though there are also some people here who are liberated and courageous enough to do what they want to do regardless of what other people might say and think]I actually don't have problem with that,i mean..being conservative of the people here are fine.The problem is myself,since i grew up to believe the same.We were taught by our elders to act accordingly with our culture and to the standards of the community we live in.It's like we should always consider what other people might say before we decide to something in contrast to the standards set by the community...which i've grown to believe.So now..i feel so bad about myself,and its not easy.[coz the man i fell in-love with is already taken]
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• Philippines
6 Aug 08
hi enihpesoj_zetroc... yes "lust at first sight" do happen...lolz i say "lust at first sight" not "love at first sight"... because i dont believe you can "love" someone just at first sight, or love someone you never met or just by chatting with them online...you can be attracted to someone in those scenario...as the result of "lust at first sight" you will get to know them better... and then as relationship progresses love eventually develop...its the proper course of thing i think...and this kind of love last longer...^_^ anyways...very nice topic you have i've been inactive for a while and you 2 posts makes my mind think again lolz SMILE ALWAYS...^_^
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
i appreciate the effort metal_monkee.but i was really disturbed about that lust thing you are talking about..[lol]..because if you are right,then what i feel for him is just lust not love..Gaaaah..can't believed it..i am really confused now..[lmaO]..never knew that side of mine u know..hahahaha..
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
haha no worries la... i put "lust" because its the same four letter as "love" the proper term should be "attraction at first sight" i say attraction because you are attracted to that person at first sight... love and attraction are two very different thing...because attraction can lead to "love" when its reciprocated. or "lust" when its not reciprocated... hmmm anyways...based on your other post you have a bf already ryt?! then why look for other?
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
yeahh,i have a special someone already metal_monkey.. but i don't remember myself telling anybody or even insinuating it thru my my comments or discussion.so, i really wonder what made you ask that??..hmmmnn,[LOL] heaps dear..="^_^"=
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
I believe in love at first sight. It happens to me and I tried to supress the feelings but it is really hard to so I decided to let my feeling free. I agree with your observation about the conservative culture and the standards that we should hold. But I don't think we should always go on that culture, anyways, its just for me, cause I think before we consider the thoughts of others we should first consider our own happiness as long as you did not hurt or aggravate others there's nothing wrong in falling in love so fast.
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
If that's too complicated then you must really control your feelings and go to what morality dictates. Goodluck!
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
thanks ayessa..have a nice day today!
• Philippines
6 Aug 08
thanks s0,ayessa.i agree with ya dear,its just that..mine is kindda c0mplicated.[lol]..i d0 kn0w y0u understand what i am trying t0 say.huGz!
@gwoman2 (710)
• United States
5 Aug 08
Hi Enihpesoj_zetroc, Love at first sight, yes it can happen. Like you the man I fell for was already taken but I didn't know that at the time and of course, he didn't let on about that!! I fell in love and out of that love and about 8 month relationship, a child was born...she is my youngest who is now 18...he is an absent "father" and always has been...has never been a "Dad" to my baby...I am her Father and her Mother and she is ok with that, now!! It really doesn't matter what nationality one is or what kind of family one comes from, when the love bug hits, it hits, period!! I was so much in love with him that since our breakup, I have never fallen in love again...nor do I want to! ~G~
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
yeah,y0u c0uld say that again gw0man2.when luv bug hits..it will hit ya big time.[LOL]..anyway,i'm glad y0u manage to raise y0ur baby just by y0ur 0wn..that's really a t0ugh j0b but y0u did it..thats make ya a remarkable w0man.i must be lucky c0z my sitwati0n didn't came to that p0int,[LOL]..i d0nt kn0w h0w i'll handle if it did..Gaah!..thanks heavens..[hehehe]
• China
7 Aug 08
I believe it although I have never meet this situation.LOL I know that in my country the people are very conservative,but is it the same in philippine?
• Philippines
7 Aug 08
yes it the same here captainodie,in fact..majority of the people or the families here are conservative.sometimes,i feel a bit pressured by what the people around me would think with my actions.though as much as possible,i try to do what makes me happy regardless of what they will say.but then,there are still some instances that we cannot just ignore what the community dictates and it's not easy...="^_^"=
5 Aug 08
i believe in love at first sight.
• Philippines
5 Aug 08
h0nestly,bef0re i really d0n't.i was n0 even convinced that it does really exist..untill that day i met him.[LOL]..thought bef0re,when 0ther pe0ple say ab0ut l0ve at first sight,they are just exaggerating..but i was pr0ven wrong.