if your husband cheated on you, will you forgive him?

United States
August 5, 2008 7:45am CST
How can you be sure he is not gonna do it again
3 responses
• United States
5 Aug 08
My first instinct would be to say NO! But, as much as I love my husband, how long we've been together, and how much we have been through already, I might forgive him...eventually. I might. It would all depend on the circumstances. I dont believe in once a cheater always a cheater, so that wouldnt play any part in my decision. I would take many things into account like, was he honest about it/meaning did he come to tell me about it, or did I find out on my own? Who it was with would matter. If it was someone close to me, that I knew, or a family member I dont know if I could accept that! It's so hard to say without more details. But, I know one thing, trust would be damaged, and there would be so many hurt feelings that it would take a while to recover.
• United States
5 Aug 08
I been married before. So this topic hit the spot. We got married and the next week I caught him cheaten. So for your question. No! I can not forgive him. I left him and I never turned back and said anything else to him. He was cheating on me with more than one girl. It took me til almost a year ago. To forgive the girl. I don't think I could ever trust him. That is why I got a divorce. So no you can never be sure they want cheat again. You either trust them or you don't. I don't so I went on with my life. I am over him and I am about to get married to the love of my life.
• Canada
5 Aug 08
you really can't be sure, but you have to ask yourself if you love and trust him enough to stay and iron it out.