Kids and Divorce

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When you find that special someone, the last thing you ever expect is that it might end up in Divorce. And when there are kids, It turns your life upside down. After all, at that point, you may be thinking of how hurt you are. But your mined always goes back to "What do I tell the Kids?" Well, I am a kid of Divorce. And also a mother of Divorce. I was only 6 years old when My parent got a Divorce, and even now, at the age of 46 I still remember the hurt I felt as a child. I was very close to my Dad and when he left, it took a part of me. I remeber crying at school all the time. I was in the first grade and I could do the work! but, the teachers felt that mentially I should be kept back a year. Do to, me being so upset all the time. My mother agreed and kept me back a year in school. And as I got older, I felt as if I had been punished for there Divorce. During that time, My Dad packed up and moved from California, to North Carolina. I didn't see him for years. My mother remarried and we moved to Florida when I was about 9 During that Marriage my life had become HELL . Now I had a step father that tryed to take advantage of me. I told my Mother, what he was doing to me, She asked him about it. He swore on a stack of bibles he had never toucht me. And sence she was raise by a preacher she felt if someone would sware on a stack of bibles then they were tell the truth. And she beleived him. So here it is again, I was being punshed! Now my mother thought I was lying. I was only 8 years old when I told her this. The hurt just kept getting deeper. Even though I had not seen or heard from my Dad in all those years. When I was 11 years old, he remarried And My Dad and his new wife came to pick me and my brother up for the summer. After we got to North Carolina, I didn't want to go back. I didn't want to ever be around my step father again, so I told my mother I wanted to stay with my Dad. She was upset and hurt at me. But until she finally realized the truth, that I didn't lye to her. Was when she seen this Devil for what he was. Then she understood, why I would not come back. It took her, finding out that he was having an affair for her to realize that she had put her children into arms way. After she left him and Move back to California, she found out that he had takin advantage of my younger brother as well. I move back at the age of 14. We sat down and talk about the whole thing. She told me, she was sorry for not beleiving me all those years ago. But that didn't take away the hurt and the disappointment I felt. What I am trying to get at here. Is that When getting a divorce, remember! Your children are your blood. If something is wrong you need to get to the bottom of it. Yes, sometime your child will make something up just because they don't like the one your with. But, sometime a child can see into the soul of a person and know there bad. Watch your child, If they seem to be scared of someone, don't blow it off! There may be a reason. You have to look at he whole picture. And learn to read between the lines. After all what you do in your life, affect the child you have.