Celebrate their life or mourn their death?

@fpd1955 (2074)
United States
August 6, 2008 7:31am CST
August 6. This happens to be the anniversary of my father's and my partner's grandmother's death. Different years. Dad passed on in 1970 and her grandma in 1997. Of course I was very angry at the world, and God, when my dad died. I was only 15 and didn't know any better. My partner still suffers from her loss. She woke up crying today. I knew what she was crying about, gave her a hug and reminded her to celebrate the life her grandmother lived and not mourn her death. I am not saying we should not mourn when the death of a loved one occurs, but through the years we must get over that part of someone's life and remember only when they lived. I know this is easier said than done, especially when someone loses a child that passed way too young. And I am not saying that I don't sometimes get emotional when I think of my dad. There are times I just want to talk to him, face to face, instead of earth to heaven. Every year, on his birthday, I figure out how old he would have been. Weird huh? I never knew her grandma but from what I have heard from alot of people is that she was a very lovely and well liked person. I have heard my partner tell many funny stories about her grandma. Just as I have told her about my dad. These are the memories that we should always think about, when we think about them. Otherwise, we cannot fully live our own lives and carry on their legacies. So, after the initial mourning period, do you celebrate the life or mourn the death when you lose someone very important to you? PEACE
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
6 Aug 08
When someone passes on we are saddened of course, but we celebrate their life. this helps to bring smiles to everyones face as to what a great life they may have lived. Sharing funny stories or experiences is healthy for you. Of course the person will always be missed, but I am sure they do not want they loved ones to always be sorrowful about them leaving this earth. Talk about the good times and how special they were to you. Surely tears will be shedded, but look at them as tears of joy because you were so honored to know this special someone. Be blessed
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I would celebrate the life of the person. It was worth the journey. The person would not want us to get all upset and mourn. We will join them again one day!