pseudo-relationships

Philippines
August 6, 2008 12:13pm CST
i have been in a "relationship" with a guy for the past 7 months. we've been going out, making out, and everything... he frequently says he loves me and wants us to get married someday. he kept on saying that its me he sees in his future. but the clincher is, we're not even committed. he said that he's still fixing some things in his life, and when he's ready, he will tell me. it went on for 7 months. then, one day, he dropped the bomb. he's inlove with someone else. but, he said, he still loves me and now he's confused. and that he still sees me in his future. though its really difficult for me to end the "relationship", i did, eventually. it hurts me more everyday, since i see the guy and his "new love" everyday in the office. i have to grit my teeth and stand tall everytime i see them pass by. it really hurts to be letting go of someone you've really learned to love... i still love him.. sometimes i wish he'd come back to me..
3 responses
@IInsanity (290)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 08
how could u still hav any feelings towards the person that hurt u so badly? that guy is obviously a jerk and u'r better off without him. i know this sounds cheesy but u will find better guy ok? =) keep strong!
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
i know... i guess its easier said than done.. hehehe... i need major therapy...
• Malaysia
8 Aug 08
no, i think what you really need is a friend. a listening ear. or a distraction. go out! have fun! =D have a wild girl's night out. it always works for me =)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
i have friends.. i mean bona fide friends... i guess im just getting bored with my life... and i know its pathetic, but sometimes i feel bad if i dont receive any emails or text messages for a day.. hehe
• United States
6 Aug 08
My thing is...if in doubt...get out! He will never make a commitment to you. You have to up your price. You are real valueable, girl. Start acting like it. Accept the relationship for what it is. You are never going to change him. He has clearly shown that he is not ready for commitment. You are not Dr. Laura. Your job is not to counsel him through this. The ball is in your court. You are the belle of the ball. You get to pick who you want to dance with in life. Don't be afraid to go out there and spread your wings. There are guys out there who are mature and together--too many lonely guys out there who would give their eye teeth to be with a gal like you. Cut your losses. It's not worth it.
@soulist (2986)
• United States
6 Aug 08
Hunny I know it hurts. But he needs to figure out what he wants and get his act together. You don't want to be in a relationship with a guy who is confused and neither should the other girl, but that's her business. It takes time for some to love another, so my question is how did he know he loved this other girl? Could he have been with her while you? If that's the case then you really did the right thing.