Homeschooling

@pehpot (4762)
Philippines
August 7, 2008 5:42am CST
I am homeschooling my two sons ages 3 and 5. I am very new to this concept but we are enjoying it. Some people I know have already accused me of overprotecting my kids because I am not letting them into the "real" world. some told me that I am jeopardizing my kids learning abilities. Some says that I am blinding them their social development. I don't know how to respond to these people, but the kids are enjoying and they are really learning, for me it's all that matters. Though i can't help wondering, will my kids be defective because they are home schooled?
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11 responses
• United States
12 Aug 08
Hi, pehpot ~ What a coincidence! We also have two children, ages 3 and 5, that we are homeschooling as well. One resource that my wife finds invaluable is "The Well-Trained Mind: A Guide to Classical Education at Home" by Susan Wise Bauer and Jessie Wise. We run into some of the same arguments, but they are groundless. What is "less real" about the world of homeschooling than the world of public schooling? With social development, there are good social skills that a traditional schooling offers, but I would dare to say that there are some bad social skills that can be picked up in that setting as well. Is it possible to jeopardize your children's learning abilities? It is possible. It is equally possible to jeopardize their learning abilities by sending them to a school. My five year old reads at the level of a third grader. What would that do to his "learning abilities" to put him in a classroom of children who are still trying to learn their alphabet... when he could read (very well) the content of this entire post? And what would it do to his learning abilities to stick him in a third grade classroom - where he is completely developmentally out of line with the rest of the children? And none of this even mentions - regarding his learning abilities - the one-on-one attention that we are able to give our children, where the traditional classroom teacher's attenion is divided at a 1:20 and sometimes 1:30 ratio. If you are able to homeschool your children, enjoy the opportunity. Find the available resources, so that you can teach your children well and equip them for the years ahead with the best tools that you can give them. Best wishes!
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• United States
12 Aug 08
It is great to get a response on the homeschooling from a father and the wonderful things he said about all the possibilities for homeschooling. He and his wife certainly have a very positive effect on their two children!!
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
your response was very reassuring. Thanks so much! you have a genius kid there, my 5 is not that good but still he is way better than kids his age. While my 3 year old have a different way of learning and I think the school really won't cater to their needs. and what do you mean 1 is to 30 ratio. here it's 1 teacher to 50 students. Imagine that!
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• United States
14 Aug 08
1 to 50? I can hardly imagine such a situation. I believe that the individualized attention is so important for a child's growth and maturity. A teacher can hardly afford to give that sort of attention in a 1 to 20 situation, let alone 1 to 50! One "problem" with homeschooling that is often cited is the inability of parents who have "not been trained" to teach. I agree that this is a problem, and there are helpful resources out there that parents can use to overcome this problem... but how can a teacher - who actually has been trained in education - effectively expect to reach each child when there simply is not enough time in the day - especially if you are talking about dividing a teacher's time in 50? I would say that I am speechless, but I think that I've already given a speech...
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8 Aug 08
I am not home schooled by my parents but I experience being over protected. Iam not allowed to play with our neighbors. I'm just ordered to stay home watch tv and read comic books. That's why I can say that I haven't enjoyed my childhood days because of that. now I am very dependent and very inferior. I am afraid to face the world by my own. I am in fear of living alone. I can even cross the road by myself (I am 22 now). Do you want your children to be like me? Or do you want them not to enjoy their childhood days? They may look like enjoying but imagine when their friends are sharing stories of passed days. Do you think their friends will be interested hearing stories that they are just at home all their lives? Please take into consideration on what would they feel tomorrow. I'm speakin by heart and by experience.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
my kids ages are 3 and 5 and i can see that they really are enjoying their bonding together. Sometimes they would act out father and son. Sometimes they would pretend bus drivers. I am thinking and thankful in a way that age difference are small. And I am counting on some support groups for the socialization part. but i feel for you and trust me not to overprotect my kids. Thanks for sharing your story.
@callyw (191)
8 Aug 08
I don't think that homeschooling necessarily means that children will suffer socially or be over protected. Of course it is very important that children socialize with their peers and learn social skills, but this can be achieved in many ways; clubs, groups, hobbies or just letting them have friends round and letting them play outside.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Actually I have been thinking of enrolling them in a music class or sports class. We have here some support groups already, I just haven't find time yet to contact them. but as I have said before their age difference has been an advantage ( years ago I never thought it would).
@callyw (191)
7 Aug 08
I am a teacher and didn't use to agree with homeschooling, but having worked in schools for a number of years I have changed my mind. I think that as long as your children are happy and they are learning then there is no problem. If I had children I would seriously consider homeschooling them. They are your children and you know what is best for them, not these other people who say you are jeopardizing their learning and social development. You are doing the right thing for your children and I think that is great.
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
you know what, the one who told me that i am jeopardizing my kids learning abilities is a teacher, i am very tempted to answer her back that if homeschooling boomed, you of all people will be the one to suffer, you're gonna loose your job. and now a teacher agreeing to homeschooling is very refreshing. please share the reasons why you changed your mind. thanks!
@callyw (191)
8 Aug 08
I've worked in quite a few classes where some children have been abusive and violent to other children and staff. I have taught children that I wouldn't want my neices or my own children (if I had any!) to be in a classroom with. Also I think class sizes are too large and (in the UK anyway) the National Curriculum is too prescriptive. If you are teaching your own children at home, you can tailor their education to their needs. You can also teach them values and social skills. I have also found that children who are homeschooled have a much rounder education, they enjoy learning and do better academically. However, I do accept that school is a better environment for some children. Only you and your children know if homeschooling is the best option for your children. I don't think that anyone else can tell you that what you are doing is wrong.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Thank you, thank you so much. That is one of concern, the type of education that they are getting in the school may it be private or public.
@manalove (65)
20 Aug 08
I have been told that I am over protective and that my kids belong in school. Many great people have been homeschooled. I think you will do just fine. Good luck.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Thanks so much. People really think that the main reason why parents home school their kids is because they are over protecting them. Some just can't accept the fact that parents can do what teachers can.
@carabear (167)
• United States
18 Aug 08
Why are you homeschooling? Do you homeschool just to keep your children isolated? Most parents don't, most parents involve their children in their normal daily lives. This involves things that range from paying bills, going to the store, going to the library, doctor's offices, nature walks, tons of field trips and other activities. Unless you are putting your children in a plastic bubble when you leave the house they are socializing with others. Children in school are the only group who are confined to only interacting with others their exact same age. If you go to the grocery store are you only permitted to talk to others your age? As adults we interact with people from a huge array of backgrounds, ages, genders, religions and ethnic backgrounds. This is what socialization is all about, interacting successfully with everyone. My children are 4 and 5 and they go everywhere with me. I am homeschooling them as well and while my youngest is a bit shy at times, my oldest is one of the most outgoing children you would ever meet in your life. Ignore those that say you are overprotecting your child. Successfully homeschooled children do wonderfully in the real world and are much better able to actually interact with people than their peers who are confined to a classroom for 7 hours a day.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Thank you so much for that response. I am home schooling them because I can't seem to find any school that I can afford that would cater to their needs and learning abilities. Some would think that I am just over protecting them, but that is not the case. I believe in what you said about socialization, it just that it's hard to explain to people questioning my decision, but I think I really don't have to explain right?
• United States
12 Aug 08
Hi: I just started on MyLot today and had started a discussion on home schooling. I just want to tell you that you are doing a wonderful thing for your children. I am a grandmother who just started in January homeschooling my 13 yr. old grandson and my 4 yr. old granddaughter. My daughter was a stay at home mom and she had home schooled my grandson for 3 years and made that choice because of the very poor schools that he had been in. The violence while he was in 4th grade finally helped her make up her mind to go ahead and do it. I am doing it now because she has gone back to work full time. Your two boys have each other to interact with and when they get a little older you can get them into something where there are with other children that they can play and communicate with. More and more families are home schooling and you may be able to find some parents who you can get support from. One thing you could do is check the internet for all the support links because there are many and you will feel better about what you are doing. Good luck!
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
I already found a support group in our country and so far they have been a great help.
• United States
8 Aug 08
You know what? You only get one chance with each child. If your kids are passing the yearly tests and up to speed, who cares? The only time they really need to go to public school is in high school. Highschool offers a wealth of educational certification and college credit you DO NOT want them to do without. The people in highschool are much more accepting and mature than middle schoolers and elementary students, also. If they meet your kid they will probably say "Oh you were homeschooled? Kewl I wish I was!" and thats that. Just keep the kids on a schedule so they arent totally shell shocked when the time comes that they must go to highschool.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
That is also what I am thinking, but were not yet really prepared to home school them until before they enter high school.. my husband still thinks that we will be depriving the kids if we continue homeschooling them through elementary years (he's up to preschool level only) I am still finding ways to convince him. The real issue is still socialization (for him). That is why I posted my question. I want to hear stories from people who experienced it and are experiencing it. But of course comments from those who are not into home school are very much welcomed.
@valeria1 (2723)
• United States
7 Aug 08
Of course not! You just have to use the right tools and knowledge, always use dictionary with them will be a great help!
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Thanks! I think dictionary would be a great help. I am planning to buy one. Is there a dictionary that is suitable for 3 to 5 year olds?
@salonga (27835)
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
Well it is you choice that matters not other people's. You know what is best for your children more than any one do. If the kids are enjoying the homeschooling then I find nothing wrong. Once they reach the age that they desire socializing then you can always transfer them. For the meantime that they seem to be enjoying I think there is nothing wrong at all. So just go on with your decision. You have all the right.
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@Khunben (88)
• Thailand
10 Aug 08
Good for you, I wish I could find something like that where I live, the state education system here really sucks, I send our nearly seven year to a private school and the level is a little better. Your children are still very young, and as they get older, you may find that you have a small problem, and I'm sure you have already taken this in to account, the problem being able to play, and interact, not only with other children, but society as a whole. I think the best advice that should be taken on board, is maybe run the two theories of education along side each other, because as I'm sure you already know, being socially expectable is more important then any thing else, what good is a degree, if you cant mix with any one...
• India
7 Aug 08
there is no wrong in home schooling, as soon as u give your kids quality education
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