Will you often check to see whether your children sleep well or not?

@youless (98990)
Guangzhou, China
August 7, 2008 7:57pm CST
Since my son started to sleep by himself the day before yesterday. I feel happy to it. On one hand he seems to be independent, on the other hand I am still worried about it a little. I am worried whether the temperature will be too cold or hot for him. Whether he covers the quilt well etc. I'm a little afraid he will get a cold since he starts to sleep alone. But I am unable to go to check it so often early because I'm afraid he hasn't fallen asleep now.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
hi youless.....that is very sweet and an accomplishment for your son to sleep alone. i had a co-worker who for the first time let her child spend the night at someone else's house. then at midnight they got a phone call saying. "do you know where your children are?" it was just a prank phone call and their child was fine. but she thot the odd's of that happening the first night he was ever away from then was a little spooky.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Aug 08
Those people are so bad to have such a prank. If I picked up a phone and told me this, I would be so scared to faint
• United States
8 Aug 08
me too. i'd wonder if it was more than a prank. what if they did something.i' d have to wake up the household they were sleeping in to put my mind at ease.
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8 Aug 08
That is a terrible prank especially if something did happen to that child!! If that happened to me then I wouldnt let my child stop at anyone house except my parents or someone that I could trust enough to ring me if something did happen to them. I would have rang the house up and asked to speak to my child even if it was the middle of the night!!!
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@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Hi youless, [i]I know there will be adjustments but the fact that he wanted it, I am sure he can manage well..Anyway, I am trying to imagine, if I will have a baby, I am sure I will be checking him often, LOL! I can't stop worrying and I can settle down if I will see him very comfortable and sleeping deep! Anyway, I remember when we were young..My dad and mom will always checked us...My sister and I will just pretend that we are sleeping already and they will watched us for awhile them kiss our forehead then leave![/i]
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Your parents are so sweet!
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 08
I agree, you have very sweet parents
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• United States
22 Aug 08
Thanks for the BR youless and happy posting!
@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
11 Aug 08
I will check on them once or twice a night to see whether they sleep well. Feeling cold or hot.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
@roniroxas (10574)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
not anymore for my children are all teens already. thats the nice thing about that. but during when they are still toodlers, i as you know am a singer and i work nights. i leave them before with my mom so nothing to worry about it. my mom sleeps with them in a same room so she dont need to get up that often. if you really want to monitor him if he is asleep or not buy something like this http://cgi.ebay.com/2-5-LCD-Wireless-Security-Camera-Color-Baby-Monitor_W0QQitemZ310073718756QQihZ021QQcategoryZ20435QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem. one of my cousins use something like this so she dont need to get up to see if her babay is okay. sometimes when she goes inside the room her child is always waiting for her to get inside so she bought something like this so she wont have to get up. but she still gets inside the room of her child if the child is asleep already just to check again.
@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Aug 08
I will look at this item carefully, thanks for your suggestion.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I checked on my son numerous times when he started sleeping on his own in his own bedroom. I still check on him from time to time because his room is on the other side of our apartment (lounge in between).
@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Aug 08
Thanks for your response.
• Canada
8 Aug 08
i check on all my kids thru the night, even my oldest who just turned 8 in june.i don't go to bed til like 2am and between the time they fall asleep and about midnight i will check on them at least once. then just before i go to bed i go around again and check on all of them. my baby girl gets checked on more often. besides the fact of being a baby, she also has a heart murmur that they are yet to figure out if its one that will go away or one she will have for life or if shes gonna need surgery, that will be decided when she has it checked again after she turns one (shes 10 months now. but i check on her 4-5 times once shes fallen asleep before i go to bed just to make sure her colours right and shes breathing right.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Aug 08
I can understand you concerns.
• India
8 Aug 08
When the little ones ( my niece's ) are there in my home.. i would be the last person sleeping.. they will ask me to tell some tales, interesting happenings, that which i would spin a yarn.. until they fall asleep.. like you said,after a while...i used to get up and check them, if they are convenient and are having a good sleep..
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 08
What a nice uncle
• United States
8 Aug 08
Sometimes, you know you are paranoid but you just can't stop. For example, I would walk into my daughter's room and touch her belly just to make sure she was breathing. As if she would just stop for no reason, right? Ah, but it may be rare but SIDS does happen. So, there I was checking. Did I want to know? I mean, if she had really stopped breathing would it be better to know at 2 am in the morning than at 8? Still, I checked. So, I think I can understand where you are coming from. :)
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 08
When my child was a very little baby, I would watch him when he was sleeping
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
8 Aug 08
I wouldn't worry so much. Kids have a tendency to self regulate. My daughter will kick or pull up the covers depending on how she feels. I check on her if and when I get up to go the bathroom. Or my hubby will. We are going to have alot of practice checking on our new baby when he arrives in December.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 08
Congratulations! I hope you will have a healthy and cute baby in December, isn't it the best Christmas gift?
@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
I always check my kids if they are okay even when i am far away. Not only if they are sleeping well but also if they are eating well and feeling okay. I always asks them if they have difficulties or problems in their day to day living. i want to make sure that I am always there especially during the times they needed me.
@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 08
You are a nice parent
@gabbana (1815)
• China
8 Aug 08
well , i don't have a chidren. but as a child of my mom, she often does this, to see if i am ok when sleep, like whether forget to turn off pc, close the windows, things like that. i bet if i am a mother someday, i will do the same.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 08
I am sure you will be a responsible mom
@intimate36 (1416)
• Pakistan
8 Aug 08
My wife is in a habit of visiting , children's bedroom ,before going to sleep.\ In fact , she spends almost 20 minutes , there , offering her prayers..
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 08
Mothers are always care about their children so much.
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
8 Aug 08
Hello dear youless. My wife and I had the same feeling and thought as you have now when we moved to our new house years ago. We used to get up to check how he was sleeping and all the other problems that you are worried about. But now it seems that it is ok since he has been used to sleeping alone for years in his own bedroom. So once in a while, I think that parents need to get up to check on the kid since he is still so young. Anyway it is good to know that he is learning to be independent by himself, showing that he is growing more mature now, which is good for him. Take care.
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Aug 08
Your son is already a big boy now That will be so nice both of you have the summer vacation now and you can enjoy watching the Olympics. Jia you
@CPMiller (21)
• United States
8 Aug 08
My wife and I had the same worries as well. Our kids were on a fairly regular daylight schedule but once we stopped doing midnight feedings and put them on a true nighttime sleep schedule were were a bit antsy. That which saved our sanity was the baby monitor, and just knowing which cries were for attention and which weren't. It'll take a lot of fortitude on your part to get past this. Just remember as small and fragile as they are they're pretty tough and can figure things out. If their cold they will get under the blankets and if their too hot they'll just kick them off. Good luck
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@youless (98990)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Aug 08
This is why parents can have many reasons to feel worried.