Father and son, is it a more stable relationship than mother son?

@Jenaisle (3803)
Philippines
August 8, 2008 1:20am CST
With divorced parents, the child is usually trasferred from father to mother. It is usually a painful process and an older child is sometimes left to "select" between father and mother. What about you? what are your thoughts about this?
6 responses
@roysville (496)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
While I am a father, I honestly believe that children, whether a son or daughter, would be better with their mother.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Point well taken, But what maybe your reason? It is mostly assumed that mother-son relationships are favored than father-son, but I honestly think that mother-son tend to be more emotional so the father -son is stronger because of this.
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
well, for one, I have a wife who has a very strong spirit. and we all draw our strength from her.
@jillhill (37377)
• United States
8 Aug 08
That depends on the people involved. A good parent would make any transfer as easy as possible for the kids. I was divorced and my ex didn't want the kids. For the first year he came and got them occasionally but after that he only came on holidays. So I would say that it clearly depends on the people involved in the situation. There is really no cut and dried answer to this.
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@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Point well taken. I guess it does depend upon the persons involved; a case to case basis. That was a clear and helpful input, I appreciate it.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
8 Aug 08
I think divorce plays a huge impact in children's life. They are the one'swho are most affected. the worst question that is being asked to them is to choose between their mom and dad which is emotionally very difficult. I think this should be avoided the most and try to be together as a family always.
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Yes, it is extremely difficult and painful, but parents can't sometimes avoid this. The child is between a tug of war with him as the object. Parents should realize this and stick to their marriage vows. I appreciate the input.
• India
8 Aug 08
depending upon my personal experience i think mother son relations are much stable when compared with father son relationship, because i think father son relations are unpredictable
@Jenaisle (3803)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Thanks for the input. You say that father-son relationships are unpredictable, I wish you stated your reasons. I would have thought the opposite as a Father figure speaks of authority, but I appreciate your input.
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
I was fortunate to have parents who loved each other until the day God took my father. It's true that the children suffer the most when parents divorce. My first boyfriend's parents separated and he stayed with his father. Because he had no mother to care for him, he never really learned how to treat women. He wasn't really a bad person, he just didn't know how to handle women. It's sad that couples separate that easy. I hope they will take into consideration the welfare of their kids.
@snowy22315 (82482)
• United States
9 Aug 08
I dont know if you can generalize aboutany family relationships but speaking for myself I know that I have been the most consistent prescence in my sons life. He is living with his dad now but that's becasue I dont think he has ever really gotten to know his father. It is an ok relatisonship apparently.