u and ur husband have lot of argument ?

India
August 8, 2008 6:57am CST
Hi me and my husband have lot of argument bez we have different thinking and mentality u all suffer with same problem ?can u pl tell me what we can do for avoid it?
4 responses
@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Paul and I have been in this relationship for almost three years and we are still getting to know each other. due to age difference, (he's 21 and i'm 24), we constantly argue about his being addicted to video games (yes, he is still somehow stuck in his boyhood days) and my being too strict on things. although we share the same views on almost everything, there are still things that we argue about. but of course, being lovers means that you have to be very, very patient about each others bad sides and try to understand the other person. communication is the key, my dear. just always talk about your problems, bring out in the open what's bothering you both and reach an agreement which will satisfy both of you. also, when you fight over something, do not sleep on it. as much as possible, resolve your conflict within the day. problems get worse the longer it is not resolved, especially relationship problems. if you're the one who is at fault, be humble and recognize that you are the one to blame. say sorry if you are in the wrong and encourage him to do the same. loving someone does not mean that you do not fight. having arguments is a normal part of a relationship. loving someone means that your partner may not be perfect, but you understand and love him all the same. i hope i helped you out somehow :)
• India
8 Aug 08
Thanks for advise :)
@kayedanda (1850)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
you're most welcome ^^
• Malaysia
10 Aug 08
me and my husband have differnce of 10 years and still he behaves like a kid by the way he is 46. we used to argue alot before but now it is almost none .. and it is because of me .. the age difference and maturity plays a big role in a relationship. it has also been proved woman mature earlier than man and we get old earlier than them too. i know of all the habits of my husband which i do not like .. list it down. dont try to change him as they feel really treatened by our move adjust your time according to his mood swing .. the days he wants to go out .. please do your woman thing .. enjoy your alone moments .. i love my alone moments pms in us .. analyze your pattern .. as this time we are really moody and touchy . plan the days well .. do not let your mood to take control i do not want to offend you .. but try changing yourself first learn to adjust and suit your self to him one last word .. it is very difficult to understand man .. but you have to use your superior intelligence for a successful relationship
• India
11 Aug 08
You mean to say that girls have to scarifies ?
• India
8 Aug 08
See when you and your partner will have age difference then there will be arguement also. there will not be any husband and wife who doesnt argue. Argueing is not bad. But be careful when you feel that the argue is going out of track then you should stop. agree at that time that he is correct. later slowly you can tell him what exactly you meant. may be he will agree with you. With most of the guys you should not go to argue rather than that if you tell them in love language they will understand very well. all the best dear friend..
• India
9 Aug 08
we both are same age and i have love marriage so we both knw each other well still we ave this argument but main problem is that if i stop argue than he fill he is always right and u told me that slowly tell him but after that he never agree that i was right and he made mistake :)i knw male have more ego than girls
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
hello i agree with u! we r the same problem in my husband. now i realize that one thing to say is u wanna go out of that place to be call.be respect each other thats all.
• India
9 Aug 08
But its not case of respect we both respect to each other but in so many things we have different mentality now i tiered from this argument bez it effect on our child