What can i get my mom who will be 77 for her birthday? i am at my wits end...

United States
August 8, 2008 10:34am CST
I don't have the faintest idea on what to get my mom for her birthday. She is going to be 77 and she lives with my sister. Her eye sight and hearing is going not to mention so many other health problems. If we give her gift certificates she'll buy something for the grandkids.We all take turns taking her out for walks,shopping out to eat but even then she's embaressed because she can't see too good and she thinks people notice that she can see her food so well, i told her people are not staring but she's stubborn-lol. She thinks flowers are a waste of money. Any ideas would be helpful.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
I was about to suggest making a scrap video for her, but remembered her eyesight and hearing are not in good condition, so it might not work. Just throw a party for her where all her grandkids are there. I think for grandmas its one of the most important thing, their grandchildren.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
i think so too. My older nephews don't really bother with her and it makes me soooo angry. i always yell at them that if they have time to go to bars,ballgames,the movies that they could come and see their grandma because once she's gone they will have to live with the guilt of never making time for her. thanks for responding.
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@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
8 Aug 08
Then it would be a great gift to organize your nieces and nephews for your mom. Good luck on your party and say happy birthday to your mom for me.
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@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
I don't think at this point in time any material thing would be of importance to her. Try to give her something intangible, something that she will not forget and will always treasure as long as she lives. Make her birthday a memorable one. You may gather every member of your family and celebrate her birthday someplace she will enjoy and cherish. If you would want to buy a thing, make sure it will be of use to her. Something that she can use and make her living comfortable. Try to listen to her in between lines also as you may discover what her deepest desires are and then give it to her. Good luck and happy birthday to your mom!
@kate635 (127)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
By the way, why not try to give those gift certificates to your family members to lure them into coming to the celebration. :) Tell them you won't be giving it not until they show up.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
Thank you so very much for your response. I think i will try to get the whole family together and maybe see if everyone could bring some old pictures from past holidays,birthdays etcc...also pitch in and have everyone make something that she likes to eat :) i'll tell her you said happy birthday.
@bmorehouse1 (1028)
• United States
8 Aug 08
How about a gift certificate to get her hair done? Since she lives with your sister a person to clean the house is out of the question. Maybe plant a tree and tell her its in honor of her birthday. Thats really a hard one. Good luck!
• United States
8 Aug 08
Thank you for responding. I think that the gift certificate for her hair is a good idea. Also making all her favorite foods,but the trick is going to be to get all her family and grandchildren together.
@shah62 (20)
• India
8 Aug 08
i think u shud give her a surprise party or something whch she can never expect u to do...u cal her old frnds/relatives and throw a party..or make her remember the best part of her life.....may be this can help u
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• United States
8 Aug 08
Thank you for responding. I think i'm going to get my family together and throw a surprise party for her. Another myoltter gave me the idea of making all her favorite dishes. Now the tricky part is to get everyone in my family together.
@gwoman2 (711)
• United States
8 Aug 08
Hi GrammaFood, you are to be commended for your actions! God bless you. I read all your responses and the party sounds like a good idea...if your nephews don't want to participate, let them be...youngsters seem to forget that they too will grow old one day... For the party you should incorporate a little dinner composed of everything she likes to eat or her favorite dish and make it a candle lit dinner with fancy smancie table setting...you can do this with what you have, no need to spend money...to make it extra special make table tent cards (with writing big enough for her to see them)with her name and all the children and grandchildren who will be there. You'd be surprised at how much she will appreciate this, especially being with all her loved ones. Remember don't fret over the nephews who don't want to participate...it's their loss. Happy, happy birthday to your Mom...And many moreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! :-) ~G~
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• United States
8 Aug 08
Thank you for responding. I like that idea of all her favorite foods,and she can eat them here at home with out feeling funny about other people staring at her. My nephews better be here or they will see my rath-lol. I will tell her you said happy birthday. God Bless You.
@sunshine4 (8706)
• United States
8 Aug 08
My mom is also 77. For her birthday, I gave her gift certificates too. The only thing is, I gave her one to get her hair done and one for a massage. This way she couldn't use them on anyone but herself. Does she have a favorite candy? Maybe you could get her a basket with a few of her favorite things in there...drinks, snacks, candy.
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• United States
8 Aug 08
Thank you i like the gift certificate for her hair,cany i have to watch she's diabetic though she don't like to watch. Thanks for responding.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
12 Aug 08
I believe with all her problems, you might buy her something that is either a real food type treat,like a very good ice cream or better yet gelleto(Italian ice cream), it is a taste sensation, and if you like tell her you will treat her to one lovely dish once a month for a year, or if her vision is going possibly a tactile pillow. It is made up of several different squares of textured material. she can keep it on her lap and feel all the different textures, I have heard of this sort off pillow for seniors and can see why they would be a lovely gift, because while her vision may not be great her hands and mind will be kept busy.as a calming agent. It appears that things that sooth the babies and very young also work very well with the elderly. I am sure you can find such a gift on the net.
@mimico (3618)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
My suggestion is to make her an online photo album with pictures that date back to the past until the present. Since her eye sight isn't that good anymore, you can show the pictures through the TV or a projector. That way, she won't have a hard time seeing people's faces. It would be a great way to bring back old but happy memories. Hope you'll like my idea. I love looking at pictures and sharing them with my mom. She's always happy to browse through my pictures on the computer.
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• United States
9 Aug 08
Having older parents myself I know what you mean. My mom turns 80 in just a couple weeks. Being in that same dilemma myself, I broke down and asked my mom a few weeks ago what she wanted. Her response was, my family together. After having thought about this for a time, I remembered a conversation my parents and I had some time ago concerning holidays and birthdays. They both feel they have lived full lives. They want for nothing, and have more than they need (is what they told me). When I get my parents gift certificates, they too spend them on me or one of the grand children. Their "excuse" for doing this is that they gain enjoyment from giving the gift which is more important to them than buying themselves something. My parents feel getting them things is wasting our money. I chalk it up to the generation they grew up in. So though I wish to get them something, I have consoled myself with the fact of how they look at life and give them the best gift they desire. The family's company on special occasions. It seems to mean more to them than anything else. My suggestion, get everyone together and give her what she desires. The surrounding of love from her family. Took us a long time to realize that its the little things that we do for them every day that matters more to them than the once a year bigger gifts. Have fun, and Happy Birthday to your Mom :)
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Maybe a pretty quilt for her bed, or a throw for when she's sitting - possibly a pretty nightgown or robe - something just for her. We used to give my Grandma gift certificates with her favorite hair stylist to have her hair cut/styled or for a perm. We lived in a small town and there was only one taxi-cab, but we would give Grandma gift certificates with the taxi so that she could go places she wanted without having to ask family to take her - it gave her a little more independence even after she could no longer drive.
@coolblu (54)
• United States
9 Aug 08
what about a massage or a family picture.
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@coolblu (54)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Here are a couple of ideas I thought of that would be nice. a massage or a family picture. Tina
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• United States
9 Aug 08
if she doesnt see the grandkids very often how about a picture of all the grandkids together you can take the picture yourself and have it blown up to the size you want so that its not to expensive. just an idea cathy
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@vampoet (825)
• Singapore
9 Aug 08
maybe you might want to consider a bouquet? i guess old folks like that sort of thing. or maybe you can make a photo collage. that sort of thing can be done in minutes provided you have the photos on the comp. then it will just be a matter of placing them together via photoshop or picasa software. i guess it doesnt really matter hw u d it. just so long as she has the memories to reminiscence on.
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@Theresam (1180)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Like the others have said, probably a nice family party. Does she like coffee, tea and any treats. Maybe make a gift basket of some of her favorite things. My MIL is of a similar age and we got her some nice teas, some Dunkin Donuts coffee and a large print book for her birthday.
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@lazeebee (5466)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 08
Hi, my mum will celebrate her 76th birthday next month; however she's in relatively good health, and she loves eating and shopping! Other than the usual birthday dinner that my siblings and I will have for her, we intend to buy her a pair of gold & jade earrings. It's something she'd like, so it's easier for us to decide on a gift. So, if you know what your mum would like or enjoy, then it's easier shopping for her gift!
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
9 Aug 08
When my mom was still here and her health was failing, I did things for her like have someone come in to the house to do her hair. On her last xmas with us, I had a woman come in to do her hair and I bought her a nice outfit and helped do up a bit of make up. And then we had the family come over for a home cooked xmas dinner together. She didn't have to do a thing but sit back looking pretty and enjoy. We did all the cleanup and all the cooking. We kept it fairly short as she tired easily but she absolutely loved having everyone she loved around her. She too, was in her 70's and did not really like going out in public. She was on oxygen and very self-concious of it. well, I hope this helps you come up with some ideas.
@pam210 (345)
• United States
9 Aug 08
The best advice I can give is give her time. Go over on her birthday, make her dinner or just eat dinner. Does she have a favorite resteraunt that you can get take out - that way she won't feel like people are staring. Does she like to go for a ride - take her for a drive through the park. Talk, share stories, laugh and enjoy each others company. Yesterday was my mom's 70th birthday and my sister and I took her out for dinner and a movie. She really enjoyed it because her girls took her out to do something she never does. We took the time away from our husbands and kids to just spend time with her. We also bought her one of the small fountains that she could put in her living room but she enjoyed the time much more.
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@jillhill (37377)
• United States
9 Aug 08
How about a set of cards...greeting cards that are stamped and ready to go so that she'll have them all ready for birthdays etc. My friend just recently gave a set of cards for a wedding present with postage and the couple just loved it.
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@manunulat (605)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
When was the last time you thanked your mom? Hugged and kissed her? It's her birthday, I'm sure if I am in your shoes, I would be more difficult as in I am not so close with my mother but at that age, a person's psychosocial need is different from ours and I guess when she's more attentive to her grand children... let her be. If there are any existing friends of her or relatives, make arrangements for them to have a get-together. This will be healthy for them. Allow your mother to confabulate about memories of the past. It will surely add up to her self-esteem. At this age, people are more spiritual and they are after some non-material needs. Always be positive when she conveys something of the past you may not like coz it's always been repeated. You might notice some recollections, try to listen once in a while. When was the last time you asked her wisdom? Try to get a short conversation. The most treasured and genuine are often the best of her. Get her to a medical check-up so that you'll know what are her additional needs... Good luck and Happy Birthday to your mom.