What will you do if you were I?
By Anne19
@Anne19 (300)
Philippines
August 8, 2008 10:18pm CST
I am so pissed off. I just opened my account on a certain website. Routinely, I checked those people who viewed my page, I've seen that my ex and one of his girl friends viewed it. So I checked both their profiles as well. That girl's page has a shout out like "what are you proud of an abandoned child?? loser"... so I've realized then that she was directing it to me (By the way my shout out was something like "My child completes me", and I am single proud parent anyway). So I message that idiot to stop pestering me and saying nasty things about my child. Actually, this was like the third time she was posting out things pertaining to me. Though she's not dropping names, her wording's were directly an answer or a comment to what I am posting on my account. I'm really mad right now, coz if we have like a trouble, then she shouldn't include my daughter. I dunno why she's doing that, well aside from the fact that she was my ex's friend. By the way, the ex I'm talking about, happens to be the father of my child. Really they are getting in my nerves now.
If you were on my shoe what will you do?
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5 responses
@nanciem (1105)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Hi Anne,
Ok Sounds like she is jealous first of all; if she mentions your child in any way while she is with your ex, it is jealousy. Does she have a child with him? Does she want one?
I like your shout out, my children complete me as well.. very cool! But anyways, don't message anymore.. did you know that it is illegal to Harrass people online as well as on the phone? Here in NY anyways, I know it gets to you but ya know what? You have a beautiful baby to take care of, don't mess with them, by you responding, you are giving them what they want. I know it is hard, I have been in a situation where my BF (now Hubby), his ex called me and said "I hope u like F*ing my husband".. I was sooo pissed but I realized, she's not worth my time, I am, my sons are and my husband is.
Be proud to be a single parent I was one for a long time, you'll get through it, and forget the ones who think you can't do it, you can!
@Anne19 (300)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
Thanks. Actually I don't know if she was the girlfriend or just a friends. But she's really annoying isn't she? But you know what, I appreciate your time and effort for advising me... Thanks a lot. I'll try to be very patient with her and I'll try not to visit her site. She really know how to makes me mad, by saying nasty things about my daughter. Just so mean.
@nanciem (1105)
• United States
9 Aug 08
If you don't mind me saying so... I know you will visit the site agian, I know I would.. we have all these 'good" intentions, we know what we should and should not do, but ya know what? Reality is that we will do it. We want to know what others think about us, good or bad.. it's like a temptation, and I am sure you will be tempted to go visit the site, if you must, and you do reply, just say like I said "stop Harrassing me"! She is very annoying I agree, quite a pain in the butt if I might say!She is so mean, to bring your daughter into anything.. I'd wanna bust her lip! LOL.. try to stay calm, if you visit, just take any nasty comment from where it comes from, a nasty person who tries to hurt people. Be good to yourself and that child, as I can tell you already are!Frig her and her nasty ways, you are better than that!
@polaris714 (607)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
If I were in your shoes I's just be too proud of my child to waste my time visiting some nasty ex-girlfriend's site (ex's exgirlfriend). If all their site contains is nasty write-ups about me or my child, why let them have traffic on their site by visiting it?
I'd say, concentrate on your baby, take good care of her and raise her in the best way you can. Work hard so you can provide the things you need (since, as you say, you are a single parent). Find supportive friends who can help you. Don't waste any of your time and effort on sources of negative energy. Good luck, Anne.
@Anne19 (300)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
Thanks for the well said advice, polaris. You are right, I just don't know how people could be so proud of their irresponsibility. Imagine having the guts to rub into my face what his friend has created for me and my daughter. Some people are not really meant to be called human after all. But you are right, actually I am doing my best to give her a good future and to raise her well, so she won't end like her dad. I just feel so bad when that friend of my ex talked nasty things about my daughter. But thanks to you and nanciem, I'll try my damn best to ignore those losers.
P.S. Isn't I'm obviously mad?? lol
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Hi Anne,
[i]Wow! that is very rude..Great that you drop her a message also in response of her indirect message for you..She needs to get a life!
Is it possible for you to block them in your account so they can't view it or anyone not in your list has no access in your account?
I will do that if I am in your situation and will just ignore after sending a message since she is totally bored and lifeless![/i]
@Anne19 (300)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
I'm trying to research how to do that as of now. Actually, I don't plan to argue with her over the net, I just want her to know that I can also speak if she's being too much. And being too much means getting my child involved with her craziness. That b**ch is really pathetic,but she's really irritating as well.
@jojuana (311)
• Jamaica
10 Aug 08
Does that idiot have a child? i guess she has nothing to hold against you so she use that stupid phrase. i feel like slapping her across the face right now and i don't know her, i bet she does not have a life,tell her to get a life and a child if she does not have one. ask her if she is that jealous and is always thinking about you that she have to write mean things about you all over the net. Say boldly "i can just imagine your diary! my name must be all over it" She would feel just as stupid as she is.
@jojuana (311)
• Jamaica
10 Aug 08
Does that idiot have a child? i guess she has nothing to hold against you so she use that stupid phrase. i feel like slapping her across the face right now and i don't know her, i bet she does not have a life,tell her to get a life and a child if she does not have one. ask her if she is that jealous and is always thinking about you that she have to write mean things about you all over the net. Say boldly "i can just imagine your diary! my name must be all over it" She would feel just as stupid as she is.
@Anne19 (300)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
She seems to have a child according to what her picture shows. (If it's her real photo in the first place). We share the same sentiments my dear, that is actually what I wanna do to her right after reading her post out. I mean, she can always say nasty things about me and I can let it pass. But not with my child, that's why I send her a message telling her to back off. I like that thing about the diary thing maybe I'm gonna use it... I totally liked it!! cheers!!
