May-December Love Affair

He might feel more insecure than you since you are 9 years younger than him? I guess if you liked each other in spite of the age difference, why would it matter?

Hi, morenscute, A 9 year gap in age is not a large gap at all. Not like a 20 or 25 year gap. But what makes me wonder why you think the difference in age would cause the insecurity? Would you care to explain? What matters most is how well you get along with each other, if your goals, likes, dislikes, and views on life fit together. My wife and I are best friends, lovers, companions, and have been married for 22 years now. When we met she was 22 and I was 31. We dated for four and a half years before getting married. She is now 48 and I am 57. Life as been great with her. Sure, we've had disagreements and arguments, but we are still together and will be for a longtime to come. So, ask yourself what it is about the difference in age that bothers you. Discuss this with your boyfriend. Hopefully, your friendship between the two of you will grow through talking over your insecurities. Best wishes, celticrogue

I dont see any problem with your age gap. Relationship is not based on age, but on how you both carry your relationships. Same age relationship is not an assurance that a relationship would last. Although, age would contribute on how a person can handle relationship due to maturity... it should not be a hindrance toward two people loving each other. So don't worry too much about your age gap. If you love him and he loves you... age doesn't matter.

I don't think that age really matters that much at all. Compatibility matters far more. As people get older I think a nine year age gap is fine but if you were 16 and he was 25 that would not be acceptable. I would be happy with a boyfriend up to 12 years older than me or up to 5 years younger than me. You probably have similar music tastes and talking about what your boyfriend did at different ages would be interesting. Your boyfriend is mature and sensible at his age. I suggest letting the love work and getting clear communication between you both. Good luck with getting on well with your boyfriend.

Well, I am also into that kind of situation, I am 21 and my boyfriend is 33, that is like 12 years age gap... I am definitely sure that I love him, what I am having problems with is that he is the one who feels insecure because he said I might find a younger guy who I will love more and I might leave him.. What I am doing is that make him feel loved everytime and show him that I can be trusted..

i think you should evaluate the feelings you have for 9 year older boyfriend.

I don't think nine years is a big age gap. The older you get the less of a difference it will seem. Think of yourselves in future, being a happy couple at the ages of 60 and 69 - then it will not seem to matter at all! Why don't you discuss it with your boyfriend, tell him how you feel, and he may surprise you by telling you he feels insecure about having a younger girlfriend.

I wouldn't consider a 9 year age gap as a May-December love affair. If the person that I was in a relationship, was equally matched with me on most levels and we had a lot in common, age would not matter. My partner is 9 years older than I am. We have a lot in common and get along perfectly. We share the same idea's and goals. Our life is perfect for the 2 of us.

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