husband might be fired again

August 9, 2008 11:05am CST
I love my husband to death, he is a great dad to our kids, very loving towards me, but the man can not hold a freakin job! He got suspended on for this Monday pending investigation, he and his GM do not get along and she accused him of cursing at her, it has been a battle with her from the beginning. Anyways, so he gets a call from someone who is not his DM ( district manager) and suspends him for a day pending investigation. I am so tired of this, he usually quits a job, not gets fired, he quits out of anger or frustration. Last time he was without a job for over a year and we just bought a house and I am so tired of this, I am frustrated to death! I am a teacher and I just went back to school for my masters and I just worry about how we will make ends meet. Hopefully he does not get fired! Anyone deal with this in their marriage?
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10 responses
• United States
9 Aug 08
Actually I have been the one that has been quitting their job, my husband has always been the one to hold one. I though am on the search on making extra money to add along with the house income and maybe open a small business, this might be something that your husband can do as well.
• Malaysia
9 Aug 08
why not you start a small business for your husband at home. if what ever line he is in and good at it maybe he can provide some consultancy services. otherwise you may also pack some snacks and distribute around your housing area or shops. just some small odd business. can he provide tution classes ? if you have money than you may venture into business. just look into small business ideas .. in yahoo then select one which may not cost you much. it is best that your husband work for his own
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
10 Aug 08
I sort of know how you feel. My hubby has problem keeping a job 99% of the time he gets fired for something ghe can not control. At his last job there was a complaint about contratcors on the job he was working for and they let everyone go. Normally we are okay but we moved and I quit my job. I can't find a new job neither can he. We are out of money! Is he the problem or is it the type of job he is doing? Has he looked into other types of work? Can you afford for him to go back to school and get a degree - maybe some soft skills?
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
11 Aug 08
Hmm. Does he enjoy his job? See my husband loves the tech field but the people who tend to be in charge of tech here are clueless to what is going on in the tech world./ They hire people with skills that really don't fit their needs or hire people for jobs that only require 1/8th of the work.
10 Aug 08
He has a degree in culinary arts, he is a chef and a great chef at that, that is his passion!
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Sounds like there are some deeper issues with him than just the job situation. You said usually he quits out of anger or frustration. I think many people feel that way about their jobs at one point or another but that doesn't mean it's alright to act on that feeling. Maybe your husband could use some anger management or stress relief courses so he can deal with the on the job anger and frustration in a more productive way. Your husband may very well be boss material if he could channel his feelings in a more positive manner. I like the idea someone else gave about finding him his own small business. He'd be in charge so he couldn't get fired and there's not much chance he'd just quit on something he started. Even if it was only a part time job, it would give you a little more stability while he's in between other jobs.
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9 Aug 08
He is not open to counseling, I have tried in the past. He works in the food industry, he is a chef, while I thought of trying to have a catering business, we need a steady income!
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• United States
10 Aug 08
I do not think you should have to pocket the bill if your boyfriend does start his own business and make sure that is what YOU want if you decide to start a business you both can go into because you risk him falling out of the deal and you being left on your own to run it, but your studying to teach (if I remember right, sorry)? My mother allows my brother and sister to live off her and I cannot stand it but I guess she likes the company, she's 57 but I just think she's crippled them. Just do not let your husbands bad habits hurt your future thats all Im saying, you always hear about divorces which leave couples so resentful, PLEASE do not have a joint account with this man.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Sounds like your husband has very little control over his temper. I have dealt with this with my hubby, to an extent. When on family outings he would reprimand my children without any regards to the lack of privacy. He's just loud. I would try and talk to him and tell him that you have to exhibit a certain amount of tact in public. His response is that he doesn't care with anyone else, he is raising his children. My response is maybe, just like a child, you can't come out in public with us. I really don't know what to tell you accept to keep talking to your husband until he realizes he has a problem. He should have plenty of time, in between jobs, to think about his situation and improve upon it. I know that you can't tell him to just not go to work. Maybe he can find a job where he doesn't have to deal with a whole bunch of supervision. Or, maybe he can come up with some sort of technique to do when people are working his nerves. Such as, don't say anything and mentally picture you and his kids and how much he wants to provide for you guys. Maybe this will keep him from reacting without thinking. Anyways, good luck. I'm thinking about keeping my hubby in the house, except to go to work.
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@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
If your husband has always been like this in his previous jobs. He is not fit to work in an office where bosses are always breathing down on his neck. I think he needs a business of his own. Maybe he will be satisfied with that idea. Try it.
@Annie2 (594)
• United States
11 Aug 08
If being a chef is his passion, is there any way he could teach others to become chefs? Is there a chef school nearby? Pass along his passion? You mentioned catering. That is a good possibility. What about coming up with some specialty dessert or something that he could market and sell online and ship out? Write a cooking book, a book about being a chef? A recipe book? Maybe he should be on Chef Gordon's show! Your husband's temper would be good for ratings! What about his own restaurant? Maybe he needs a sport or hobby where he can let go of some of that steam.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
10 Aug 08
This has never happened in my fiance and I's relationship. My fiance loves him job and would never leave it for any reason unless it is absolutely necessiary. I lost my job 2.5 years ago because of a car accident. I was hurt pretty badly and I am on disability now. Anyway everyone goes to work and has someone there that they just can't stand. But in your husbands case it is the General Manager. Someone you shouldn't be talking back to and your husband should wake up and smell the roses and realize that. He needs to suck up some feelings and aggression and let things go. If he keeps this up he will never get a job because of his temper. I think your best is to get him a home business so he is his own boss as he is not making it in the real world with others.
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@MZKUMA (705)
• United States
9 Aug 08
Hubby should know by now that he has to either e the sole provider or contribute. In order to maintain a job, you need to follow basic rules. If he has an issue with taking orders/instructions.........well he needs to have his own business. My husband was laid off and it took him almost 3 months to land another. (Living with a man who wants to work is a pain. You just have to encourage them that as long as he's looking it's all he can do. Can't make anyone hire him.) Now for those who simply WON'T work...I won't feed or support them. Send him packing
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@nutanjain (898)
• India
9 Aug 08
hi how are you micci i am not married right now but approximately same type of things are appening with my father my mother is not a workig woman but a house iwfe and my brother does a job as accountant in a pvt ltd firm and i ama bcmom 2 student earlier our work was fine and jus our home shifted from one sity to the pther and it was that time that things happend worse and somewhat same like yours