Why do people feel the need to be nasty?

August 9, 2008 11:45am CST
I checked m myspace a couple of weeks ago and received a message from somebody i didn't know.. here is what it said...."You are a fat ugly pig, I can't believe you walk around looking like that you make me SICK"This message was from some one who i don't know and who I have never met, so what right do they have to send abuse like this! I'll attach my myspace profile pic so you can see what this idiot had made their assessment on! It really upset me that someone thought that about me but even more that they had felt the need to spoil my day by telling me about it!! Why do you think some people feel the need to be spiteful just for no reason, i think maybe it is because they just want to get a reaction, what about you?
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@nic_knick (741)
• China
10 Aug 08
I do not understand why people like to talk nasty , I do not know so much about people in your country, but I have seen a lot from the movies, most of the people like to use the four-letter word a lot .
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10 Aug 08
I don't understand why they do either! and you're right people do swear a lot, both on the tv and in real life, am not a prude and don't mind languae but it has a time and place, i hate it when i see people (especially women) walking down the street and swearing! it's not nice! and children might here which is never good, they like to repeat things! hehe thanks for the response, happy mylotting! xx
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• China
10 Aug 08
sometimes we take talking sth nasty for granted coz we have heard so much of it. but when we keep alert on this, it is not easy to neglect this and it might take a long time to get over this. huh....
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10 Aug 08
It is definitely an easy habit to get into, especially when we hear so much of it all around us! still not nice though and definitely not ladylike, i do swear more than i would like to but sometimes it just slips out when i don't mean it to!! xx
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@p1kef1sh (45638)
9 Aug 08
I am afraid that there are horrible, petty minded people everywhere Munchkin and the Internet is no exception. I looked at your picture and all that I saw was a very attractive young woman. I have a daughter a little younger than you and I shall give you the same advice that I would give her. Do not let the nasties get to you. You are better than them. Be proud of who you are and what you have achieved. Treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself. Take care. I hope that you make a lot of good friends here. But not so many that you neglect to go out locally and do some serious dancing and socialising!
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10 Aug 08
Hi thanks for the advice and words of encouragement! i always try to treat others as i would wish to be treated and thought i could expect the same but like you said there are horrible petty minded people everywhere! Well even if people are nasty on myspace at least i know i have my friends here at mylot!! Take care xx
@p1kef1sh (45638)
23 Aug 08
Thank you for the BR Munchkin. Now, is he husband material?
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23 Aug 08
No problem! Unfortunately not, it was horrendous, i left ealry and was in my pyjamas with a hot chocolate by just after midnight!! oh well, you win some you lose some!!! xxx
@mands61123 (2098)
10 Aug 08
Oh i'm sorry hun but i wouldn't take any notice of it at all what so ever i have had similar comments and hence don't spend alot of time on myspace anymore. plus alot of my friend prefer facebook. These people feed of negative energy (sorry finding it difficult to type as my cats decided i'm not paying her enough attention and is putting her head on my left hand while i'm trying to type lol) they want you to be upset or respond this is how they get their kicks. I would just brush it off like water off a ducks back. If it helps i looked at your picture you don't look fat or ugly to me you look pretty and from what i have seen in discussions very sweet natured. Just ignore these fools in reality they are the ones that are probably lonely and low with little self confidence or friends and thats why they have time to waste lashing out at other people.
10 Aug 08
i responded before i realised it was a girl she's just envious of you cos your stylish and pretty and she obviously is not at all comfortable with herself feel sorry for her i would
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10 Aug 08
My friends use facebook more now too, i prefer it on there! Thanks for the lovely response! i just ignored it wasn't going to dignify with a reply! My cat does that all the time too, his favourite trick is to walk over the keyboard while i'm trying to type! Well i'd like to think that no matter how lonely or low i was i wouldn't say such mean things to people, but i guess we are all different and people have different ideas about what is acceptable and what isn't! Thank you for taking the time out for my discussion! Happy mylotting!
10 Aug 08
just read your second bit! am not really sure if it was a boy or girl but eitherway they are clearly very sad! i don't know about beng stylish and pretty (thanks though!) but i certainly don't think i warrant that sort of abuse! lol xx
@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
22 Aug 08
Hello there Munchkin, it seems to me that these people are 'green with envy' for you or downright jealous. I'd say you don't bother them at all because they are just perhaps a bunch of nothing-better-to-do depressed people going around and labeling people and etc. I'd say to them to 'get a live' if I were you and that you are just happy the way you are and that you don't owe them a living. There are many nice people around us, but there are also that are truly jealous with us and they will make it a point to see us getting 'down and hurt'. Don't really bother with those comments that much, sweetie and I think you are gorgeous as can be. Like I said, they are probably "JEALOUS". This is my perspective as a guy for you. Take care and have a sweet day ahead.
22 Aug 08
Hi there! thanks for the response! i think they definitely have nothing better to do with their time which is sad for them really! Thanks for the vote of confidence! happy mylotting! xxx
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@zed_k4 (17624)
• Singapore
24 Aug 08
No problem sweetie ..
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• Philippines
23 Aug 08
very simple.,.,.they want to be nasty,.,do you have myspace.com can you add me up?... here is my mail,.,seriousman04@gmail.com thnx,.,.see yah soon.,. im not nasty,.,,i dont want to insult people that i never met.....those people who are very nasty,.,.they scared,.,.
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23 Aug 08
I guess they must want to otherwise they wouldn't so things like this!! I only log on to my myspace once every few months but i will add you!!! thanks for the response! xxx
@lloyd2002 (182)
22 Aug 08
All I can say is that person is obviously blind, because in my opinion you're far from being fat or ugly. i think you're right, they're just trying to stir up a reaction.
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22 Aug 08
well unless they use mylot and saw this discussion they didn't get one from me! lol i wasn't going to waste my time writing a reply! thanks for the response! xxx
@Chevee (5914)
• United States
22 Aug 08
Hi Munchkin. I am sorry someone did that to you. I feel some people has to make themselves feel good by belittleing others, evidently this person has a very big problem and is not happy with themselves for some reason. I won't let that mess touch me they nothing about you. I hate to put a labor on people but that is what you call ignorant and stupid. I bet some of our MyLot friends could give him a great big reaction.
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22 Aug 08
Whoever sent it obviously has too much time on their hands as i don't even know them i agree with you about them being ignorant and stupid, i hope they didn't send the same message to anybody else as some people could really take this to heart and get very upset about it! i didn't like it much either though! lol thanks for the response chevee! xxx
20 Aug 08
The thing with cretins like that is, they have a very negative image of themselves (probably with good reason) and the only way they can feel good about themselves is to try and do other people down. This loser probably emailed a whole bunch of people with the same message, so my advice is just to forget him - he's nothing. Besides, going by the picture you use on MyLot, I'd say you've got nothing to worry about. ;-)
20 Aug 08
Hello! and thanks for the response! cretin is certainly the right word! I can't believe anybody could be that openly malicious, but sadly there are people out there who do behave that way! Thanks for the compliment!! happy mylotting! xx
@donna22 (1120)
20 Aug 08
Charming lol. I would never dream of saying anything like that to anybody. Even if I thought it. Obviously beauty is in the eye of the beholder and not everyone finds the same thing attractive but you are not fat or ugly. This person probably said it purely for the sake of nastiness and to uspet you. I know that doesnt really help because you are probably wondering why someone you dont know and someone you have not given any reason to be nasty to you would be. Simple fact is they do it to amuse themselves and it doesnt matter who you are are the fact that you have not done anything to them. They have probably sent the same message to someone who is a size 6. Often people who say stuff like that dont really look at your picture to see if you re fat or whatever but will say you are fat, ugly to hurt you because they know you wont like it. Ive lost a lot of weight and still consider myself fat (Ive been told Im not buy hey Im a girl lol)but when I was bigger if someone called mr fat Id say ok cos all they were doing was describing me so why get upset? They were saying it to be nasty but they failed miserably. Another thing to remember is that people hide behind their computer screens. I know Im more chatty and opinionated than when I actually talk in real life and if this person saw you in real life they probably would not dare to say what they did to you.
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20 Aug 08
You're probably right but like you say us girls take things like that really personally! I am more chatty online too, i guess it's easier to be honest etc when the person is not face to face with you! xxx
@sisco100 (2344)
• United States
10 Aug 08
who knows why people do the things they do. but ya i think tht ur right i do think tht he wanted a reaction out of u or just on there to piss people off. persoanly i think tht ur a very hot looking women. ya i've gotten messages like tht on myspace before, i just report them and block them. its just sad tht someone life is all about putting people down like tht. u should set up ur account so tht only friends can send u messages. u should really get upset if someone says tht to u when u dont even know them, every one has their own opinion, it dosent have to effect u. if it came form a friend thts a whole different thing. dont let things tht people u dont even know effect u, ur better then tht and theres alot of other people out there tht would think other wise.
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10 Aug 08
Hi! thanks for the response, some people must be very bored to send messages like that! I didn't know you could do it until you started this discussion but i'll definitely be changing my settings so only friends can message me on myspace! happy mylotting! xx
@sataness (321)
9 Aug 08
It's pathetic that's what i think. They do it because they have nothing better to do with their time than be a stupid bully. And they do it because they know it's going to make you upset or feel insecure and perversely strange people out there get satisfaction from bringing people down. If the pic tht was on your myspace is the one in your dp atm then i suggest you ignore the idiot who said tht, basically because they're blind. Best thing you can do with people like that is to just not care what they think as long as your happy with yourself. If they are intentionalyl trying to wreck your spirit and your confidence then they aren't worth the thought. Hard to ignore but if you don't then the bully wins.
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9 Aug 08
Thanks for the response! i agree they are just very sad people who have nothing better to do with their time, there really is no need for people to behave like that! maybe it is because they feel insecure themselves so they want to make other people feel the same! it is a different pic, i'll try and attach it again, it didn't work last time! not that it would make any difference what the picture was or what i actually look like, even if i was as unattractive as this person made out there is no excuse for his behavious! thanks again for responding and happy mylotting! xx
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
9 Aug 08
girl relax, you'll get high blood pressure with that. (just trying to make you smile) i checked your pic before making this response. and i was surprised that that someone labeled you that way and the only thing that comes to my mind is that, s/he must be wearing some eyeglasses and that needs to be corrected already. s/he should pay a visit to her/his optometrist if there's a need to increase the grade of the eyeglasses. oftentimes people who could say nasty words are the person who felt the same way or perhaps it was them who they are describing. they're just trying to put the blame to the others and they are those who are attention deficit individuals. i always have this principle in me that if my happiness doesn't depend on that person then who cares. that person is not worthy of your attention and your time is not worth going to her/his level. don't do anything or make a response, you will make that person boil up and be happy for what have s/he caused you, just hit the delete button in your account and ignore. geezz, if you are not committed i would love you to be my girl. you are just damn gorgeuos.!!
10 Aug 08
woohoo go sirrob get your thang on lol you hear that GORGEOUS!!!!!
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
10 Aug 08
ssshhh, 'ey mads, keep it low. someone would hear you and i would face competition here. so, let's just make this between the two of us, alright? hahaha but thank you for backing me up. hehe
10 Aug 08
geez guys you're making me blush! thanks for responding! i like your principle, i think it's a good one to have! I think you might be right that they are just doing these things because they feel bad about themselves! i didn't reply, i didn't want to give them the satisfaction, and apart from that the response that i wanted to send was not the sort of thing that a young lady should be saying!! take care, happy mylotting! xx
@LOULOU323 (214)
10 Aug 08
There will always be some who will take great pleasure from making the lives of others miserable,and that is something that we have to learn to accept in life,but it does not make it any easier.The best way to deal with this kind of unpleasantness is to just ignore the situation,do not rise to it,they will then get their kicks from seeing you made mad.
10 Aug 08
I agree it's a shame that there is always people like that! i didn't reply, was not going to waste my time on someone like that, not a nice thing to receive though! Thank you for responding! happy mylotting xx
@duranv (517)
• Honduras
10 Aug 08
The thing is I don't understand why you would let something like that disturb you, from your picture I can see that you are a very pretty woman and whoever wrote that is only a person who must have some big personal problems and is probably being offensive to anyone he or she can.
10 Aug 08
Thanks for the compliment! i think they must have been doing it to other people as their profile got deleted so i guess people nust have complained or something! at least i won't be hearing from them again! thank you for taking the time to respond! hapy mylotting!xx
@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Usually the reason someone would say something like that is because they are jealous of you. That is just a stupid way of showing that they want to hurt you and make you feel bad because they feel bad about themselves. Yes, people can be very mean at times. I don't know why, but I have experienced this many times myself. You need to ignore them because when you do that it makes them angrier then when you show them that it is upsetting you. Just make like you don't care, and it doesn't bother you and I'm sure they will leave you alone.
10 Aug 08
It's sad that there are people out there who are so miserable they think this is a way to entertain themselves. i didn't reply and haven't heard anything since,their profile has now been deleted so that should be an end to it! thanks for the response! happy mylotting xx
• China
10 Aug 08
sometimes someone will make us feel unhappy .in this place we should keep our temper and donnot think it .that is ok
10 Aug 08
I always try to keep my temper although it was rather upsetting to log in to find this in my inbox! thanks for the response! happy mylotting! xx
10 Aug 08
Unfortunately, this question seems to get asked a lot, which shows that a lot of people must get upsetting, nasty answers. I guess it's down to cowardly cyber bullies venting their frustration with their own lives by taking it out on strangers, while hiding behind an avatar. And some are just childish. Best thing is to ignore it and not take it personally. They probably do it to everyone not just you. You often see that they get a few thumbs down, so it shows that there are a lot people willing to say 'hey - that's not on!'.
10 Aug 08
The person who sent the message has just been deleted so i guess they must have been doing it to a lot of other people too! it is very childish and cowardly but unfortunately these people are out there, am just glad i'm not one of them! thanks for the response! happy mylotting! xx
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
10 Aug 08
i never understood why people feel the need to be rude and mean, i guess its cause there unhappy and miserable and they want to make other people unhappy to iv been on other sites where people have been mean, and rude to me and had never met me to i just try to ignore it and not let it get to me because that's what they want.
10 Aug 08
i agree that getting a reaction is exaclty what they want so by ignoring it you did the right thing, it's exactly what i did! sad that there are people like that out there though! thanks for the response, happy mylotting! xx
@myklj999 (34321)
• Olney, Illinois
10 Aug 08
What a beautiful lady - The infamous myspace photo
I have no idea. I've already told you what I think of the way you look; thgis picture only makes me feel more strongly that I am right! Maybe just jealousy? (Thought I'd copy and post it for you since you couldn't get it to work.)
10 Aug 08
Hiya! thanks for copy and pasting it for me, don't know why it wouldn't work for me!! the tag line you put under it is much more complimentary than the other one!! thank you for responding, at least there is only one person who sends me nasty messages, you guys send much nicer ones!! happy mylotting! xx
@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
10 Aug 08
Ohht First of all let me tell u you are so beautiful....and cute .....One who said such ugly words must be a mad .....just remember that on this earth there are very few good people than stupid ones....otherwise this world would have been heaven. I dont know pic in your mylot profile is your real pic or not....but its very cute pic....yes...even you are really good person by heart....you are broad minded....and you are courageous also to tell whats in your heart... So pls dont listen to few mad person...just ignore them Thanku Ganesh
10 Aug 08
Thanks for the response! of course it is my real picture! if i was gonna put a pic of someone else up i'd make them a bit better looking! lol thanks for such a lovely and encouraging response, you guys on mylot are making me blush with all the nice things you are saying about me! thanks for the response! happy mylotting! xx