what is the best things to say when your partner asks "Am I fat?"

my dad flatly tells my mum..no you cant but that top you would look awful in it with your belly. bearing in mind shes a size ten with the smallest tummy after quitting smoking, and for her age looks fantastic. she doesnt mind one bit and has even laughed it off. my partner is possibly the perfect size, shes not really thin and shes not fat, i absolutely love how she looks but she disagrees with me. i told her i dont want a barbie i want you at least i have somethin to grab onto and cuddle up with not a bag of bones. some people no matter what you tell them will always think they are fat anyway

Being fat is really doesnt matter in a relationship. Yet people want to look good for each other and thats why they want to be as fit as they can or as beautiful as they can for their partner. I was fat myself with 105 kgs, However I wasnt engaged with anyone or had any girlfriend people never said that I am fat, yes my father did but i took it as a positive remark. The best way to tell them that they are not fat even if they are, is to just smile and kiss them on their cheeks and say I love you for who you are and not how you look , make them feel your love themselves deep inside their heart and minds that yes, you love them. There is no need to tell them what they look like and change them like that. Just make them feel that you are really that person who would always be with them. Actually this feeling comes from insecurity of the other. The other partner must think that they would loose their love because of their obesity or what so ever the reason it maybe which shows their negative feature outside in a relationship.

It's really hurting to hear when someone, specially your partner tells you that you are fat. Maybe, you could tell someone "you're chubby and cute" (LOL)

Hello Me and my partner both have meat to us LOL . He is very active so its all good , and well i try to be . Anyway , we know how we look , but its nice to hear you look good and you can look good too . I think he looks cute as is and well he loves my curves . And well you know what we all have bad days LOL . sometimes i know i look bigger , or maybe i just see it . Just something to say i guess . Some clothing items hide better , ya know what i mean ? Take care and happy mylotting !

i know truth really hurts but for me it is much better to be frank than pretend that you like his/her figure.

I will never be able to figure out what's the intention of asking that question. You will not get any problem if the truth is your partner is not fat (or overweight). However, if she does, I will ask her back "what do you think? I wanna know what you think about yourself first before answering your question. But I promise to answer it afterward". Then you see what she say about it. Most probable that she will say that she think she is fat. Then, you can say gently that you are agree with her, but try to use word "overweight" rather than "fat" although she was using the word "fat" before. After saying that, just make sure that you comfort her by saying that It does not matter to you, you never have a thought in mind to ask her to loose weight, and you will always support her in any decisions she made in case she decide to loose weight. If she decide to do that, make sure that you give your best to support her.