How am I going to handle this father thing?

well darlin, if you do the crime, you do the time...what i would suggest is go to the library. there are plenty of great books on parenting there that will be able to help you!

Be a good example to your child. Work hard to provide for your new family. Everything else you'll learn along the way.

well, it will come naturally i guess... once the baby is born, you have to take care of the baby eventually... so there is nothing to be scared about... in the meantime, there are many parenting books available in the bookshops or you can borrow them from the library... have a read and get as much knowledge as you can about parenting... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

It must a surprise for you both but now you will both have to responsible as you have a child on the way. You will have to tell your parents, and plan how you will support your child. You need a job to be able to do this! I have a friend who unexpectedly got pregnant recently and is now really happy. This could be a blessing in disguise, I wish you lots of luck!

There are a lot of people out there who have gone that road. My parents were your age when I was born, my sister was even younger when she and her husband had their first child. You need to step up to the plate and give your girlfriend your full support. The thing is - no matter the circumstances the baby is innocent in all this so he/she is just going to need a lot of love and attention. If you truly love the baby and want what is best for him then the rest will be a lot simpler.

Hey relax, technically you are not yet a father until the baby is born . But you really have to prepare in being a good father. What did you mean "girlfriend then", are you no longer together? I hope not. If I were in your shoes I would marry the girl and father the child. The problem you face is are you ready financially and emotionally. If you are it will be an easy task to let your parents know. They can't do anything about it anymore. The damage has been done. The reasonable thing to do is damage control. Think long and hard. It is ultimately your decision. I hope all works out well. Good Luck!

You are in deeper than you realize. Ofcourse the baby will come out! Ofcourse you will be responsible for it!You need to get a job so you can support this baby. When the girl's parents find out you will be in a lot of trouble, too. The best thing I could suggest is if you and your girl friend could find it in your heart to give the baby up for adoption. If you love your baby you will want him to have a good home. Give him to someone who can take care of him and love him. If you can't bring yourself to do this then you must be prepared to take care of him until he is 18 years old.

I know this is a blessing since God have the trust in you to have this angel but I think this is also unfortunate since both of you still doesn't have the plan or any kind of preparations for this new life. Though your both young but I guess at your age, you should be able to face your own parents and explain everything.. In every actions there is always an equal reaction. just face it and do it right.

Congratulations! I hope the birth all goes well and you are blessed with a beautiful, healthy baby. As far as your job is concerned, the theory is easy but in practice you have to work hard at it. But hard work should be quite normal for a man! First, you marry your girl and you promise to care for her in sickness and in health. You promise to care for her and, by extension, you promise to care for your children. Once you come to terms with that promise and the responsibilities that go with it you will be well on the road to a long and happy marriage. Marriage is great! I really recommend it. And years down the line, when the children are grown and flown the nest, the companionship of you and your wife is priceless.

In my opinion, the most important thing about being a father is to be there for your kid. Even if you make a lot of money your kid's not going to know from that or care about it. Although you should try to make money as well because that is part of parental duties. The first mature thing you need to do is tell your parents. They might be disappointed but they will get over it because they want to see their grandkid.

Well I was 17 when I found out that I was going to be a mom for the first time, and I was scared outta my head!!! Basically this is what I have to tell you, be the best father that you know how to be, these ideas come from Ideas that you have from how you were raised, how you saw friends raised, you take a bit of this and a bit of that, but most importantly you listen and talk to your girlfriend above and beyond anyone else. Everyone will be quick with advice on how to raise the baby...but while you listen to this advice, talk to your girlfriend about what you have heard, and the two of you together decide what is right for you and your baby. I commend you for staying by your girlfriends side...I was not that lucky. Every baby deserves a daddy to love and protect them. If you do right by this baby, by making sure it's basic needs of food, shelter, clothing and love are met, you will be a good father. Don't be afraid to change a diaper, to get up at night, or to help with the feeding when you can. As for telling the parents, talk with your girlfriend, decide when you are both comfortable (probably sometime before she's in labor would be good ;) ) and take the plunge... what I have learned is that while people may be upset or have a bad reaction when you tell them the news, they soon forget the hard feelings and get excited for the baby. Some take a little longer, but most times once they see the baby...their thoughts change, because every baby is a miracle of life, pure unadultrated innocence. You will be fine and so will your girlfriend, you will do the best you can do with that you have, and as long as that is the basics, and putting this baby first you will be fine my friend!

I'm sure you will do wonderfully. Just let your parents know, be upfront and hoenst with them. I'm sure they will be understand and supportive they are your parents they are there to love and support you, give them a chance. And as for being a dad I'm sure it will all come natrually. No one is ever "ready or prepared' but once you see your little baby your instincts will kick in and you will know what to do. Good luck with everything!

Honey, it is too late tourn back now. The parents are going to know soon, so better you face it and tell them yourself. It is not going to be easy. They may be mad at first. Hopefully, not for too long. Get a job if you are not already working and show them that you are really taking responsibility. There is government assitstance if your girl friend is not insured. She will need prenatal care. while babies do not come with a "how to manuel", I know you will figure it out. You will be a great Dad!

Oh well you seem responsible enough because you are asking for help. just be there for your girl. what her going through is a lot harder. be patient and try to understand her always. She is experiencing hormonal changes and maybe a lot moody now. And when the baby is born, well change diaper often and help on taking care of the baby.

The one thing that jumped out at me about your post is you said 'if the baby comes out' honey that baby is going to come out whether you are ready or not. Time to grow up, if you want to play you have to pay so get ready baby's ain't cheap. Theres nothing more exciting then that first moment you see your new born baby. Be there for your little one, take care of him/her, give lots and lots of love and find a good job. Love comes natural.

Try taking a parening class .. it may help you both ... I am sure your familys will be a good support system for you both.. Just work together and you both should be fine .. support groups are a wonderful thing ;) Best of luck to you both

Everyone here can give you an opinion as to how parenting goes and what you should do but no matter what they tell you, it will never prepare you for what you are about to experience. I remember how when I told my friends and family that I was pregnant they all had some sort of advice but I can tell you that it's all meaningless until your child comes, and it isn't "if the baby comes out" but when. I can only tell you that you and your girlfriend will just sort of wing it like all the rest of it lol. When something you try doesn't work, you try something else. Best of luck to you and your girlfriend and may you have a healthy happy baby.

Hello, I am 18 and have a 16 month old son. My boy friend (babys father) is 24. and it is scary to think that you are going to be a parent. it was really scary for me because i was never around babys or little kids. but we took classes at our local hospital..... i dont know if they really worked because they were more based on birthing and not raising. but i think for me after i had my son parenting just came natural. at times it is really frustrating because they cry and you might think that they are hungry or need changed when they just want to be held and comforted. I hope every thing works out great.

me and my guy went through the same thing you are going through. i was 18 and he was 19. It was really hard telling our parents, but after we did they were very supportive even thought they didn't like the situation. i was terrified about being a mother but so far its not as hard as i thought it would be. you'll be fine you just need to get into a routine after the baby is born, it will be hard at first but you'll get the hang of it and im sure you will be a wonderful father. good luck.

I have been in your position, well as a mother. First thing you need to do is tell your family, they may actually be more receptive than you think and once that baby comes your gonna need all the help you can get. Children arent all that bad, the intial cost of kids is the hard part. But watching them grow and change is something magical. You are having the jitters that all parents have, not just first time parents. But being a father is something great and before you know it your gonna have a child that looks up to you and wants to be just like you. My husband had the same fears but being a parent will come natural, dont stress and tell your family.