How much of you is there in your books?

@Essie119 (673)
Canada
August 10, 2008 1:26pm CST
I was looking through my pictures the other day, and made a discovery. There are very few pictures of me with the kids, or by myself. There are a few from when the kids were first born and we are still in the hospital, but after that they are scarce. I love to do layouts of my children and husband, there are ones of grandparents and aunts and uncles, but I want my children's books to include all of us. Do you think it would sound dumb to ask people to take pictures that have me in them, instead of me taking all the pictures with everyone else in them? Do any of you have the same issues?
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@jands1 (835)
• United States
10 Aug 08
I have exactly the same problem! I have oodles of pictures of my son, friends, family, etc. Heck, I have a bunch of pictures of a dog I dog-sat. But for myself, it seems, I am the one looking through the lens, capturing the moment. Granted, when my son was little, it was more of a staged moment as I gritted my teeth and hissed, "Just hold still for two minutes and smile." LOL I have been thinking about all the times I am out and about with family and friends. I feel so awkward about asking them to take a picture of me. Just me. I think my solution will be to enlist the aid of a third person as I get pictures with myself and another person. Perhaps it has to do with being raised to not be vain. However, is it really vanity to do a scrapbooking page that features yourself? I don't think I could bring myself to do that. Between it being a vanity and me beingwho I am, not because of myself, but because of so many others. I think they should be included.
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
I wonder if it is a "not wanting to seem vain" thing. That could be what holds me back from asking for a picture of myself. As far as the layouts about myself sre concerned, I really want my children and grandchildren to know how I feel about things. I wish that I had scrapbooks or diaries from some of my female ancestors.
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@jands1 (835)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I thought about this conversation last nite and discussed it with my s/o. And it is odd, we thought of ancestry and then I see this comment from you today! LOL Basically, I've decided I will have more pictures of myself. It is selfish of me to deny my son and any that may follow in my bloodlines, about myself. Everything from the Civil Rights work I did to how I constantly work on recipes so my Type 1 Diabetic s/o can eat "normally". In the end, all those things matter. Who am I to say that my son's children(s)' children won't wanna know all about the strange woman they are descended from? I'd rather let them have the truth, than the wild myths that seem to spring in families when there isn't any real proof. LOL So, now I will do at least one scrapbooking page a year that is just about me. I really hope I can do this and am not overcome with the anti-vanity bug. :D
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
There is so much about you that your granddaughters will want to know. For instance - you are living in a city that is rebuilding after a disaster. Many left, but you are there to help bring her back to life. Good for you! Take time to do a scrapbook page of how you feel about your home.
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
10 Aug 08
Yes.....since I was the one that was always doing the picture taking so the pictures of my kids when they were younger alot of times don't include me.....but now my sisters and I cover for each other..and if I am on vacation and see someone taking pictures of like their family I'll offer to do a picture with them in it too...and you would be surprised how appreciative they are!
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@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
It;s very nice of you to offer, because many people would not ask. My husband remembered to take pictures of me with our children this year on Mother's Day. I was thrilled that I didn't have to ask, and I did the layout yesterday evening. My sisters can rarely find their cameras so they are kind of lost causes. LOL
@SukiSmiles (1998)
• United States
21 Aug 08
Same problem at my house. I am the photo taker, have been all my life. I am not comfortable in front of it - although I am much better now. And am more prone to asking me to take pictures of me than I used to be. My husband will grab the camera every once in a while and take pictures of me with the kids. He has done it more now because he looks back the scrapbooked photos and noticed that I wasn't in there.
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@ebsharer (5516)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Oh thats funny! I was thinking the same thing! I guess its because we are always the ones taking the pictures! I know a few times I will ask my husband to take a picutre but you know how men are I get that grunt and a fine. Then I am annoyed so the pictures aren't the best. Also I am going through a I feel "fat" stage in my life so most of the pictures that are taken of us I don't like anyway. Most every picture in my scrapbooks are my jsut my daughter. There are a few with daddy or grandma even the dog but most are just her.
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@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
Too true. If you ask and they make you feel that you are taking up their time the pictures never turn out good anyway. And, never you mind about feeling fat - try having three kids in three years and then tell me about feeling fat! I'm trying to convince myself that I just look "mothery" in pictures.
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@ebsharer (5516)
• United States
11 Aug 08
LOL - I like that 'motherly' I'll keep it in mind!
@ebsharer (5516)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Jands - your funny! I love the discription of a not so ready face!
@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
10 Aug 08
That same thing crossed my mind a short while back. I'm always the one taking the pictures, not in them. We have gone camping numerous times, and I have done layouts of them, but, I'm not there lol. So last time, I set the timer, my s/o was still sleeping in, and took some pics of me at our campsite. I have also traded pics with my daughter, when we all did something together and she had pics with me in them. But, for the most part, it's pictures of my s/o, my daughters, family and our dog (she has her own scrapbook lol). And no, I don't think it's dumb to ask someone to take a picture with you in it. Several times that me and my daughter went somewhere on a day trip, we would ask someone if they minded taking our picture.
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@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
I try to swap pics with my Mom, too! She is a scrapbooker and my Dad likes to take lots of pictures. They ususally have some with me in them, and I always have some including them. I need to remember to bring my tripod so that I can do your trick of taking my own picture when camping. BTW, thank you for the website. I just checked it out and signed up. What a great resource.
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• United States
11 Aug 08
You're welcome, I love that website, I found it and signed up about 3 years ago when I started scrapbooking. It has so many resources, and I love looking through the layouts. I also get ideas from some of those, or I might like one small element on one and incorporate it into one of my layouts. I also love the resources, the titles, quotes, and poems are great. You can check out my profile there, longhorn.
• United States
11 Aug 08
OOppss, I just looked at my own profile, didn't join until '07, guess I thought I had been there longer....since I always looked at that site for ideas, even before I joined lol
@dani27 (545)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Of course that isn't dumb. I noticed immediately that I was the one taking pictures so now we make sure I am in some with my daughter. Of course There are more of my daughter alone or with her daddy or others but still I am now in more. Go ahead and ask people. People would love to help you out.
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@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
12 Aug 08
I think that the first time I noticed was the first mother;s day after the birth if my son. I wanted to do a scrapbook page only to find that there were no pictures. My husband felt really bad, but he still mostly has to be reminded to pick up the camera.
• United States
15 Sep 08
I totally have this problem... i love taking the pictures but lately i have been making my Hubby takes some too so that we can have memories with all of us in them... and no i dont think its wrong to ask others to take your picture if you are out somewhere..
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• China
11 Aug 08
i think it is a good idea to have some pictures with you and your children because this will give happy
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
You are right. It makes not only me happy, but when I complete a scrapbook page it makes eveyone who sees it happy too.
• United States
11 Aug 08
The only pics I have of me are when we went and had pics made professioally and when I was in the hospital having my babies. I look worse the ever but that is when people want to take over the camera. 3 hrs after giving birth to my 2nd child the camers came out. I never looked so bad in my life. But I do have a few that aren't so bad. But then again I was paying attention and she did tell me to say cheese.
@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
That's funny, but I know what you mean. My first baby took so much puching to get out that I burst blood vessels in my face! There are so many pictures of me from that day, and I look like a teenager, because it looks like acne in the photos.
@buggles64 (2713)
• United States
13 Jan 11
I have this same issue! I thought I was the only one..lol. I think I will have to start asking my daughter to take some pictures of me, and get myself in some of these scrapbooks....or the pictures at least. I want them to have something to remember me by. Thanks for posting this discussion!!