did you ever hide your relationship?

Philippines
August 10, 2008 9:19pm CST
have you ever had a relationship but your family doesn't know it? sort of "illegal" relationship.hehehe if you had one what was your reason for hiding? was it difficult? does this kind of relationship lasted or do you think this are just foolish thing to hide? share your opinions..thanks..^_^
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@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
all of my relationships are legal, i came to the point that my parents doesn't like my ex boyfriend, it's like 'me & u against the world' even my cousins doesn't like him too.. yeah, we didn't last long coz their intuition is right.. he's a player..
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
at least you have caught them early..^_^
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@jinxky (2251)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
yeah im still lucky about it..
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@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
When my wife and I were still dating we tried to keep our relationship just to ourselves. We hid it from our officemates to avoid being teased. My wife and I were officemates and we were actually being paired by our peers. I kept telling them that I don't like her and she also said I am not her type. However, somewhere along the line we ended up being good friends and learned to love each other. So to avoid all the things our peers will say, we decided to keep things secret. We would meet somewhere and date but we would act as if we don't talk to each other in the office. However, it became known after 3 months and then we did not have to hide it anymore. We did not have to hide it from our parents because we were at the right age then and our parents respects our decisions. Just Sharing, SFC
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• Philippines
11 Aug 08
It was natural thing to hide in your office..it is just sort of protecting your relationship from "issues"..thanks for posting
@jammyt (2822)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
At the very start of my relationship with my boyfriend (now husband), I never kept it. I was of age already at that time. I was 18. Though my parents thought I was still young to be in a relationship, I kept nothing from them and told them I would rather like it that they know than find out that I go out behind their backs. At first they gave my boyfriend a difficult time but eventually, they changed their ways toward him.
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• Philippines
11 Aug 08
wow congratulations..^_^ is your husband your first boyfriend?
@jammyt (2822)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Hi there! Yup, my first and last. LOL!
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
wow..that's so cute..^_^
@kun2349 (23473)
• Singapore
20 Aug 08
SOme of my past relationships are partially hidden while some are totally hidden.. hehe =D Though it's unfair to my ex gfs, but they do understand it too.. hehe Partial hidden means my parents know that i have a gf but they have not seen her b4, but they know because i'm always on the phone.. hehe As for totally hidden, my parents dun know about her existence at all and all the more my parents wun see her for sure.. lol =D BUt too bad, most of the relationships only lasted between 6 months to 2 years and thus they dun have any chance of meeting each other ^_^
• Philippines
22 Aug 08
why did you hide it? are you shy to your parents? or you just do not want them to know that you already have girlfriend?
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@kun2349 (23473)
• Singapore
23 Aug 08
THe ones i hide is partly because i dun wanna my parents to scold them.. Because there was once i was talking to my gf till 3am like that and i had school the next day.. I was talking on the phone in my room, when suddenly i heard my mom's voice over the phone asking us to sleep and stop talking.. I then realise that she pick up the phone in her room to evasdrop on our conversation.. I was so angry, and my gf was upset too.. So since then, i decide not to tell my parents about anyhting because i dunno when thety are gonna embarass me again by doing such things..
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
12 Aug 08
Unfortunately I have had many relationships that I have had to keep secret from my Mother. Not because they were illegal, just because she never like anyone I dated ever and it was easier to keep it from her and not have to listen to her negative comments. I am now 55 and I still have to keep my relationship from her. She is 77 and hasn't changed a bit! She doesn't even know my boyfriend, but is sure that he's no good etc. So things don't always change just because you grow up. As far as my Mom is concerned I am still her "little girl" and will always be! How crazy is that!
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• Philippines
12 Aug 08
your mother just loves you so much..
@sisco100 (2344)
• United States
11 Aug 08
ya for the reason tht my mom and dad didnt think she was good for me. i loved her and didnt care wht they said, but i hated having them talk crap about her. it got to a point tht i didnt tell them i was still dating her. i would tell them tht if i got back with her and they were still like tht then i would not be a part of their life and i would drop off the face of the world and they wouldnt know anything about me. she was 18 and i was 22.
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• Philippines
11 Aug 08
that's sad i hope your family can accept your girl..your age is not that far from one another.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Well mine wasn't really illegal it's just that I don't want my family meddling with my relationship. I just didn't tell them but I didn't hid it from them. They just found out quite late already that I already have a girlfriend. Of course they were a little apprehensive at the start because they expect a lot from me back then and they thought that being in a relationship would be bad for me. Well I proved them wrong and I'm still with my girlfriend and we are both very happy
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
congratulations on that..^_^ sometimes they do think it will be a hindrance for us but they are wrong right? they serve as our inspiration and not distraction..
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• Philippines
4 Sep 08
I have a BF right now and my parents didn't know..my reason is that I don't want my parents to say that "you have nothing to prove to us yet and now you're busy having a Boyfriend?"...I am still a student and I planned to tell my parents about our relationship after I graduated...we are 5 months now...
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12 Aug 08
Because I live in a 24/7 TPE most people dont understand so most of my day to day relationship is consistant with hiding and trying to keep from others seeing or hearing what they already dont want to see. neither my suubie's family or mine know fully about our relationship.
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@karjyo (830)
• India
11 Aug 08
I have never lied to my parents....If you really love somebody, what's the need of hiding it???
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@bestie (1458)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
yeah I did.That was when I'm still in school in which I'm not aloud to enter a certain relationship.Well'it's not really difficult for me.It really last,we're still on until now and we're more than a year already.hehe That was 4 years ago when I hide it.hehehe
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@misty99 (736)
11 Aug 08
Had my first boyfriend kept.But as they say no secret can be kept forever.When my parents heard this.........you'd be shock!!!They ask me to choose between my studies or having a boyfriend.Parents before are like that.They're maybe thinking i'd get into trouble and end up getting married early.But since then i never kept any secret specially to my mother.I made a promise to finish my studies which is what i really did.Keeping relationship like this is hard and i knew then that they will not like it that's why i kept it.
@kissie34 (2295)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
Yes, I experienced hiding a relationship to my family especially with my dad.. That 7 years ago when I was still in my 2nd year high school.. I know that my father will really get mad of me if he found out that I have a boyfriend, so I told my boyfriend to keep it secret especially to my parents.. Since, he doesn't do anything so then he just agree to keep our relationship secret.. We keep our relationship for more than 2 years but we broke up due to immature reasons.. Then same what happened with my 2nd boyfriend.. We also keep our relationship since he I know that my parents don't like him especially his physical characteristics (i mean his looks).. We keep it for more than 10 months then we also broke up because of his insecurities.. Then, my present boyfriend actually during few months we keep our relationship but since I am already at the right age and since my parents knows his family, then we just let our parents knows that we have a relationship.. We are together for more than 3 years and we are still happy together.. I hope he will be my last..
@vaishalik (237)
• India
12 Aug 08
I don't think there is any need of hiding you relationship if your love is true. You must not keep it secret from your parents. Otherwise you have to lie to your parents every time. Main thing is that you have find new reason every time & keep record of every lie in your mind. So be frank & be happy.
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
I think they hide it because their parents doesn't agree on the partners that they have chosen.