What is the thing that your partner does that hurts you the most?
By magojordan
@magojordan (3252)
Philippines
August 11, 2008 1:11am CST
When we have our arguments, usually I get hurt when my girlfriend raises her voice. However that is not what hurts me the most. What hurts me the most is that when she has to do something all by herself and I couldn't be there to help her. It is not that she refuses my help, it's just that there is really nothing I can do about it. Now tell me what are the things that your partner do that hurts you the most?
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
I was moved by what you've wrote in there.. that were the exact sentiments always given by my boyfriend.. by that, I feel how I've hurt my boyfriend.
thank you for informing me.
What is the thing that your partner does that hurts you the most?
Whenever he took blame himself whenever we argued of something.. he will just point himself that "OK, sorry.. I'm wrong..".. and he'll do everything for me not to get mad.. that hurts me the most because he's blaming himself over something which I know is my fault.. he's so kind that sometimes kills me and feel guilty whenever I am so bad at him..
I too always do that.. raises my voice especially if I am not in the good mood and he's trying to comfort me. I can't help it. but now, I am learning to handle my anger for him not to suffer also.. I just don't want to blame him for having this kind of attitude.
I sometimes don't want him helping me.. now I am facing lots of problems, and I just don't want to get affected and to suffer also.. but he always insist to help me.. that is why we sometimes argue.. Oh! am I so selfish?..
thank you for informing me.
What is the thing that your partner does that hurts you the most?
Whenever he took blame himself whenever we argued of something.. he will just point himself that "OK, sorry.. I'm wrong..".. and he'll do everything for me not to get mad.. that hurts me the most because he's blaming himself over something which I know is my fault.. he's so kind that sometimes kills me and feel guilty whenever I am so bad at him..
I too always do that.. raises my voice especially if I am not in the good mood and he's trying to comfort me. I can't help it. but now, I am learning to handle my anger for him not to suffer also.. I just don't want to blame him for having this kind of attitude.
I sometimes don't want him helping me.. now I am facing lots of problems, and I just don't want to get affected and to suffer also.. but he always insist to help me.. that is why we sometimes argue.. Oh! am I so selfish?..@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
That's really the dilemma when it comes to loving someone. We tend not to make our partner be involved in something that we know that could hurt them. Maybe that's what love is really all about.Although some may think that this is selfish, I say that it is just mainly love and concern. Well in love, it shouldn't be just about sharing the joys but also sharing the pains with each other. Thanks for responding 
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@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
yeah. that's what I sometimes forget.. "that we should also be with one another in pain, not just in happiness.".. but like what I've said, I just don't want him to suffer with all the problems and trials that I am up to..
and thank you for the best response.
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@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
11 Aug 08
What hurts me the most in my relatinship is when my boyfriend is sarcastic whenever we fight. Or he rolls his eyes. When he messes up and gets really defensive hell be like "okay, cause YOUR so perfect" *rolls eyes* Thats what I hate the most whenever we fight. Drives me nuts!
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
Yup a sarcastic partner makes you really feel bad. Thanks for responding. 
@lovelyvon (75)
• United States
11 Aug 08
for me, the thing that makes me hurt by my partner is that when he always promise and never do it...thats all!
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
That's really bad I hope he would change that habit. Thanks for responding,
