My newest lesson from the school of hard knocks

United States
August 11, 2008 8:25am CST
I had taken a friend into my home, well, someone I thought was a friend, to help her get her life together, well, she had just been kicked out of her apartment, she told me the landlord was unreasonable and nosey and I took her word for it. Well, we let her an her boyfriend move in for a while, she soon started invading the whole home, waking us up from our sleep for silly things or from them having the TV too loud, made one huge mess, refused to help clean, was useing our electricity, smoking our cigs, eating our food, all this without any gratfulness, didn't contribute to our home, basically was freeloading, well, we were willing to try and help her break that habit, tried talking to her about it kindly, tried giving her many chances, and what does she do? Threaten to kill me sun conure, Vergil, we kicked her out and she turns around and calls the cops on us! Tells them the bird attacked her! Now Vergil is only about the size of my hand, sweet little hing, beak isn't even strong enough to break skin, well she suddenly has a mark on her head larger than his beak and clams Vergil did it to her! So needless to say this has been a very stressful night, the cops escorted them from our home, they are coming to retreive their belongings today (which I know there is going to be a fiasco when they come get their stuff, thus why I'm going to have my phone in hand ready to call the cops if needed) This almost makes me want to stop helping people! But I won't do that, I won't stop helping people, however, I will no longer give second chances, if someone messes up then that's it!I'm not going to repeat this mistake. I guess my father was right, it is possable to care too much........
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@kareng (55579)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Oh so sorry this lady did this to you. It is sad when you try to help people that just want to see how much they can take from people and society. I hope all goes well today when they return for their belongings. You may want to call the cops to be there when they arrive and stay just to make sure things remain calm. I'd be tempted to pack their stuff and put it outside the door.
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• United States
11 Aug 08
Sadly, accordng to what the cops said, we can't move their stuff until it is consitered abandoned property, and this only happened last night......I'll just be glad when their stuff is out of here and we never have to deal with them again. I know she's going to try to get her friends (the few she has left) to come after us, but thankfully Louisiana law allows us to defend ourselves with whatever force we feel is needed.
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11 Aug 08
Hi victoria, We have the biggest fault, caring too much and this is a learning process, it happeded to me twice, I let some that I knew stay in my home till she find someway of her own,sooner said then that her boyfriend started to stay here and then fights started in the middle of the night whilw we were trying to sleep, she didn't pay us any money either so my husband kicked them out. Then my brother found himself homeless after his girlfriend kicked him out and landed on our doorstep he stayed a while and started having arguments with me and my husband, he never liked my husband anway, after he went he came bacvk in the middle of night and pour black gloss paint all over our car. Now I will never let anyone to stay in my home. I will help people with food and blankets and that is as far as I will go. I hope those people won't give you anymore trouble. Brigh Blessings
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@MOMMASAM (1004)
• United States
12 Aug 08
i agree, it is possible to care too much. i often think of the children's book by shel silverstein in this instance. it's called the giving tree. a tree gives and gives and gives to the point of self-extinction ! first, it is fruit, then limbs, then branches...on and on and on. then there is nothing left but a stump. that's how i feel sometimes. i always try to "learn" from my mistakes. i hope i've learned to make better choices in friends. this is awful that you tried to help this woman and she just abused her friendship. that's all she did..use you. i'm always too trusting and giving. which i think is how i was raised. i hope today is without any incidence at all !
@4magoo (396)
30 Aug 08
If you allow her to destroy your good deeds then evil has won. What you did was a good thing. It is very hard for the good person to guard against the evil person as the evil is willing to do anything to get to their end. What my suggestion is is don't let this change you. You are good and stay good. Just learn from it, pick up, move on and be good to the next person. What goes around comes around.