religion.....???

United States
August 11, 2008 5:42pm CST
Whew... sigh!! So.. I was having a conversation with my son's father (also my fiance) about our 3 year old son. The conversation was about my Dad is taking a trip up to Iowa for a week from Arkansas which is where we live and Iowa is where we moved from. Anyways, I said something about our son going with my Dad jokingly because I know my Dad is going for work. Anyway, my son's father (Josh) says wouldn't that be nice? I said what, he said to not have to yell at him, or tell him what to do, or chase him around, or feed him, or wake up early with him for a week. I told him, ummm NO.. and that he needs to be careful what he says. He said why? I said because GOD could take him away from us at any moment in time. And he said No.. he doesn't make them decisions. I was like WHAT!!!.. I asked him who he thought made those decisions then and alls he could do was SHRUG his shoulders.. He doesn't know if there is a GOD and doesn't want to beleive in him or that GOD is the higher power and when we die we go to Heaven. I know everyone is entitled to have their own opinions and beliefs, but what do you do in a situation like that? I don't want my son to be raised around someone who isn't a believer in GOD. I honestly don't even want myself around it, but is it the right the to do, to not be with someone for that reason? Or what are you suppose to do?
1 response
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Raising a child is very special. The Bible tells you to raise a child in the way he should go and he would not depart from it. It doesn't mean that he will always go the way he's raised, but, if he does stray, one day, he will come back. That raising is always in his mind. But, when a child is not raised in a Christian home, or had access to Christian teaching or the Bible, then he has nothing to base his life on but what he sees in the secular world. Marriage is also something you need to think about before plunging ahead. Marrying someone just because you have a child is not the best reason to get married. It is not even a good reason. You need to be friends, then in love and vow to treat that child as an extension of yourself. If you are a Christian, you are already seeing his reactions without being married. He seems to think it's better to get rid of him for a week rather than watching after him yourself. And he doesn't have even a belief in God. Those things right there would make me think twice. But you have to make up your own mind. It is between you and God what your decision will be. Wishing you well.
• United States
11 Aug 08
Thank you! Sometimes the truth hurts, especially when your hearing it from a stranger. But I value anyone's opinion. I think I am just scared of being with someone who doesn't have the same beliefs as me. I am a Christian. I love GOD. And I definately want my child to know him and love him as well. So I am not sure if him being in a place around someone, someone so close to him, being his dad and all is good for him when that person is a non-believer or doesn't know what he believes in.
@Barb42 (4216)
• United States
12 Aug 08
I would never want to hurt you. I just think you do need to think things out before marrying someone that you don't have any idea what his beliefs are. Have you tried getting him to attend church with you? Or, maybe just sitting down and discussing what God means to you and have him open up and discuss why he feels like he does? Are his parents Christians?