And since we're talking about it....
By arkaf61
@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
August 11, 2008 7:51pm CST
Why do people tend to think that their opinions and views are the only right ones and anything different is wrong?
Isn't it possible that two completely different opinions are both right? Does one have to be the right one for everyone?
Isn't possible that one truth is different things to different people without any of them being wrong?
Can't we co-exist with our differences?
Why do some people seem to want everyone else to think like them and believe the same things? Have they such little confidence in what they believe that they need everyone to think the same way? - Kind of eliminating the competition?
Why do some people believe they should restrict other people's opinions because they are different.
Why does the skinny girl at the fast food store feel she has the right to be rude to the bigger woman buying a burger?
Why does the lady that goes to the gym every day feels she needs to give a lecture to the one that doesn't?
WHy does the adult without children think that he/she has the right to tell the one with children what to do? And how?
Why is so many people suddenly acting as if they are everyone else's parents?
WHy is suddenly everyone so much better than everyone else?
ANd why are we getting to a point where everyone thinks we need babysitting? That the government should rule what we can and can't do = for our own good?
Are we really this proud of going backwards? After fighting to hard for rights, we are we so close to loose them - for our own good - ?
I'm ranting a bit, I know. But I am really getting fed up with a lot of things I see every day. It's time for a big number of people to get of their hight horses and let others make their own mistakes.
If they're beliefs are that strong it's great, just don't impose them on every body else, please - even if it's for our own good- !
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13 responses
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
12 Aug 08
I think that people often fear the unfamilliar. They can not see beyond their own noses, OR they reuse to see beyond their own oses, because they are afraid of the unfamilliar. It is human nature to think that we know what's best. Ignore them!! Just becaue it's best for someone doesn't mean it's best for someone else.
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@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
12 Aug 08
All I can say to this is, Amen, sister!
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
12 Aug 08
Well regarding parents I feel they have the right to tell their children about what is right or what is wrong as parents are the persons who have the best interest of child in their heart,but for other peoples even I think we all are separate individuals with own specialities and thoughts so no one should try to guide anyone for doing or acting like wise.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
12 Aug 08
It feels like suddenly everyone was promoted to judge and it's just way too annoying. Yesterday I went to get a sub for my son. There was an older lady in there also asking for a sub. I know her. She's the grandma of one of my son's friends. She often goes there and gets a sub for her grandson because she knows he likes them.
Yesterday there was a new girl in the sub place.WHen the lady asked for extra cheese the girl kept going " Of course I am not going to give you extra cheese, it's bad for your cholesterol .. what you should be having was a lean sub not all this... and blah blah blah blah...."and to the other costumers she was making signs about the lady's weight!Now the poor lady doesn't understand english that well, she hardly understood what that girl was saying but she just wanted to make sure there was extra cheese because it's how her grandson likes it.I was fuming!
I had to interfere and tell her to give what the lady asked and once she was finished to go and get the person in charge for me to talk to, I am getting sick of this general judgmental attitude and the fact that somehow now it's ok to have and to act on - for other people's own good!
@34momma (13882)
• United States
12 Aug 08
it's not about right and wrong. it's about perception. we create the world we want to see. with our positive and negative thoughts. so if there is a conflict with right and wrong, it's a conflict that we have created. people are mean and nasty when they don't know who they are. when they don't know who they want to be. when they live in yesterday and dream about tomorrow, forgetting all about right here and now.
there is no such thing as right or wrong, just the meaning you give a situation. it's all about pereception
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
12 Aug 08
it's more about fear then manners. that skinny girl fears being the big girl so to make herself feel better she thinks it's ok to be mean. people are mean and nasty not because they have no manners, but becasue they live in fear and have no idea. there is no reason to be nasty when you are not afraid.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
12 Aug 08
YOu know, I understand we all tend to think that our opinions are good, or else we wouldn't have them or hold onto them. But the mind has to be open to the fact that others can have different ones, and that doesn't make them wrong. More than that it doesn't gives the right to be rude and sarcastic around them, even if we firmly believe we know better.
The people that are the target for these " holier than thous" often feel embarrassed and don't talk back... i think maybe it's time to talk back. It's time to star calling managers and telling people to mind their own business, It is even time to tell the governments to take care of the serious childcare business and leave the babysitting for children instead of adults - it's not like they really care about our well being in the first place , they care about the money in their pockets. Or else there would be many issues that they would deal with , that they don't.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Aug 08
well i guess its how life goes here..very complex..(complexity of life)and uniqueness in everything ..such as behavior, opinions and the like..its how we are ..its so boring i guess if no one reacts on anything..so plain and dull ..its how i perceive on things here..and sometimes i always think same as yours but feel frustrated that i had convinced myself that maybe its how life really means..
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
12 Aug 08
I think that everyone has different points of view and it each person's perception that tells them that they are right. I respect other people's decisions and understand that people have different interests and traditions that are part of their culture. People should be kind to one another, communicate clearly and compromise rather than argue. It would be boring if everyone looked the same, a person doesn't choose what they look like. A person that is overweight might have tried every diet and so their self esteem might have been shaken. I wouldn't have an abortion because I feel it would be wrong for me but other ladies have them so I respect their choice. I love animals and do all I can to care for them but not everyone shares this interest. That is fine. My top hobby is traveling and not everyone enjoys this activity. Perhaps the worst thing in life is war when people are killed and injured. If peace was part of everyone in this world wishes then our planet would be in a much better situation. Respect one another, care for our world and be the nicest person you can be is what I teach children.
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@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
13 Aug 08
Ha ha ha ha ha... like I said in my previous posting, it all boils down to character.
If the person is brought up like that, they are like that.
Takes all kinds of people to make this world.
Sad to say, many of them are not the nice ones.
Just don't sweat the small stuff. Ignore them if you think your opinion is right.
Otherwise, we be fretting at every little thing, we would be too busy fretting to get anything else done!
@drannhh (15219)
• United States
12 Aug 08
It is just ignorance. I used to know an obnoxious (and a bit crazy) person who loved to preface many of her opinions with the same statement. She said "I may be ignorant and I may be stupid, but..." It was as if she was proud of not having an education, but after the "but" there would always be an opinion that she was right and the other person was wrong and it never entered her mind at all that one person's reality is not necessarily the final solution for another person. Overbearing, that is the name for it.
Sometimes when we have to be around people like that and they get to us it is a good idea to get away for a while. Change of scenery...even if it is just an afternoon in the park. (But take mace, heh, heh) 
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
12 Aug 08
You're back !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :):):)
Missed you LOL
Yes, it's just ignorance, but annoying, really.
I know a someone that always starts with " I'm probably way off, but...." If she realizes she's way off... the least she can do is to spare us from the rest LOL
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
12 Aug 08
I think that what you are saying here makes perfect sense. We all are different and have different opinions about lots of things. It is always going to be that way so why don't we all just agree to disagree.
There isn't any need for confrontation and the like. Nobody needs to lecture people on topics that they have really no wisdom or experience in. And I do agree that people do tend to impose their ideas and opinions on people. Sometimes those like myself don't even invite the advice given by those on high horses. Thank you for your insight. Point well taken.
@Mash99 (364)
• Pakistan
12 Aug 08
This is a very interesting subject and I personally believe that each one has the right to have his own opinion and if the two person have different views they both could be right and one should not emphasise to accept his logic. Lets ourselve accept the thinking of other people if they are right or create a tolerance if you believe that some one is not right in his belief or thinking. Let our world be a safe and peaceful
