When and How To Accept That a Relationship Has Ended.?

@acevivx (1566)
Philippines
August 12, 2008 7:42am CST
It is really hard to end a relationship especially when you are the one who is at the losing end or the one who is being left behind for another. It is a reality that has to be faced but it is so hard to face reality and to end a relationship since it would hurt so much. When you still love someone but you know that he/she has already fallen out of love with you, you tend to cling to the hope that the love will return and everything will be alright so you pretend not to see all the clear signs that love has ended for him/her.So when should you take the initiative to end a relationship that is clearly dead and hopeless and how sshould you end it? With tears and recriminations and no pride at all or retain your pride and pretend that the hurt is not there? Have you ever experienced the hurt of ending a relationship which you still want to continue?
2 responses
@makaira (1159)
• Philippines
12 Aug 08
being on the loosing end in a break up is really really hard, you'll get and cry... but if you know that it has already ended, accept the fact that it has already ended. take note that your world would not end without him/her. remember that you have existed in this world without that person. let it go and accept the fact. you cannot do anything about it. you cannot force yourself to be loved back by the person and forcing the person to love you back is for me more hurtful that just letting him go... learn to accept the truth. cheers!
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Good advice makaira, there's no use crying over spilt milk. Best thing to do is to face up with reality accept it has ended and go your separate ways. It will hurt deeply especially where you have truly loved but c'est la vie. You won't stop breathing and life has to go on. But it would be quite normal to have a good cry over it and to feel pain and regret but one has to move on. Thanks for sharing.
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
12 Aug 08
yes,i don't accect the friend that will laugh with me and always at my side will end a relationship. i will very angry to him at the beginning ,then i will find i lost a precious thing,i will very regret why has happend this thing,is my wrong? yes , i lost it,and don't gain it again.so don't end the friendship with only a small things.
@acevivx (1566)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
It is quite true that it is hurting to end a relationship especially when it is the other party who does the ending. Aside from the hurt of losing someone close to you or whom you have loved quite dearly, there is an added element of feeling insecure or guilty and asking yourself what did i do wrong or An i the one to blame. This compounds the hurt feelings but I guess we have to face up with reality and make the decision or move to just let it end without begging for another chance. Cut deeply and cleanly and the healing will be faster i guess.