I think I just felt love for the first time...?
August 12, 2008 10:12am CST
Lately I've been sort of confused because the person I really like (I mean REALLY LIKE) doesn't like me the way I do. I found out though, that one of my friends liked me more than just friends. At first I didn't know what to do or say, because she just wasn't my 'type'. I always thought of us as just friends. But one day, we went to the movies together (as friends) and she was doing these things I never noticed before. Like she always waited for me, she talked to me, laughed a lot, things I never really thought about. She also seemed beautiful at that time. She even held onto my hand... For some reason,I felt this tingly feeling in me, and I think it was because she really liked me and cared for me... I think I'm falling in love with her?
• United States
12 Aug 08
The problem with only dating people who seem to be our "type" is that the type we are attracted to may be all wrong for us! I think this is what happens when people get married and divorced over and over again (or go through serial monogamous relationships without the benefit of marriage), they keep looking for the same type who is not suited to them at all! By limiting ourselves to "our type" we may be shortchanging ourselves out of a true, deep, meaningful relationship. The happiest couples are also best friends. Getting into a romantic relationship with a friend can end badly and ruin the friendship or it can be the smartest thing we've ever done. We don't really know unless we're willing to take that chance. I've also noticed that the better we get to know someone, the more physically attractive they seem to become to us! I thought my husband was kind goofy looking when we first met but now I think he is a handsome man! Of course, I've put some weight on him over the years, but not too much, just enough to fill him out a little! BTW, we've been married 20 years. So why waste time mooning over someone who doesn't seem to care for you, when your friend is apparently the one you will fall in love with? I say go for it, but proceed slowly! Let her know you have romantic feelings for her, and if she says she doesn't return those feelings then don't push the issue. Stay friends, and time will take care of the rest. She may surprise you and tell you she's interested in you "that way" also. Best wishes!