Would you take back a philandering husband for the sake of your children?
By Jenaisle
@Jenaisle (16568)
Philippines
August 12, 2008 6:20pm CST
You still love him but you have doubts whether to take him back or not, because he has done it twice already (flings only). The children are still young and would surely need a father. This is not me, by the way. My friend has this dilemma, I know she alone can decide for herself, but perhaps we can give her some valuable inputs to help her decide correctly. Let's show how much we care for other people by adding our comments/support/advise or whatever we can contribute as MyLotters. My hats off to all of you.
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5 responses
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Aug 08
I think it has a lot to do with why he was cheating and what kind of relationship they have. If he really wants to stay with her and he's willing to make the effort to change (which would probably involve going to counseling) and if she can get past it and forgive him then it might be worth staying together. But she shouldn't do it just for the sake of the children or just for the sake of finances. She has a right to happiness and if she can't be happy with him and with the thought of what he did, then she should leave.
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@jillhill (37353)
• United States
13 Aug 08
No.....I wouldn't. I didn't....and would never take someone back that has betrayed the greatest trust in life....the vows you make are a committment that should last forever. I think if she at least should give the relationship time to see where it goes...seperately. If he can date her...and she can forgive him then good for them. But for me...nope wouldn't do it!
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Aug 08
well i guess i cant let him enter again in my life...he had cheated twice ..so i guess he will do it again..i guess ill move on ..and find my own happiness..with regards to the children..he is still the father of my children and still allow him to do his part as a father..
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
If my husband already pushed me to the wall, and we separated, there will be no other reasons for me to take him back. It is final. I will move on with my life without him forever. I only make major decisions when I Have to. And never did I thwarted it.
@cjmobxnc (137)
• United States
13 Aug 08
I probably would do it if the children were really young, but if the children were of the age that I would feel comfortable with them in being in day care part-time, maybe school age, then more than likely likely I wouldn't. Of course, if the husband decided to leave, then that's a totally different story.
