Should he pay?

United States
August 12, 2008 10:36pm CST
A week ago a very nice young man asked me out on a date, when we went we hada very nice time, but I noticed that this man wanted me to go half on everything. Now, I don't mind going dutch every now and then, but i feeled if you initiated the get together you should at least take care of the expenses, I mean come on, it was our first date!
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12 responses
@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
13 Aug 08
Hi! Lets keep it short and simple. He is not willing to pay, he is not worth it! Dump him! Take care, Margajoe. P.S: I found my right partner at the age of 41. There are a lot of men out there. (partners).
• United States
15 Aug 08
Thnk 4 the encouragement
@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
30 Aug 08
Hi Giggels,It has been 3 weeks ago, and how have you been doing? Hopefully everything worked out well. Take care, Margajoe
@Tianna2 (1273)
• United States
13 Aug 08
If some guy did that to me on our first date it would also be our last date. I mean come on!!! Did he at least tell you this before you went out or was this a complete surprise. I dont think I would mind paying my share once in a while if I knew it was coming but if he waited until you got to the restaraunt I would really let him know how I feel, especially because it was his idea. Hugs, Tianna
• India
13 Aug 08
how come evrygal expects a guy2 pay all the time? dont u gals have a wallet? u too pig out with him on the date..but wen it comes2 payin u start cryin....seems this is common fr gals worldwide...lol watch a gud similarity
@Margajoe (4718)
• Germany
13 Aug 08
Sounds to me, you have not been out with many girls. A man who does not know how to respect a women, is not a man.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
13 Aug 08
As a guy, I have to say that your date is confused a little. If he asked you out, he should pay, period. Now, if he asked about going Dutch in the beginning then he would have been okay. What would your date had done if you had no money?
• United States
13 Aug 08
I know what I would've done... dine and ditch (just kidding) LOL
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
13 Aug 08
Dine and ditch? Hee hee hee..."Excuse me while I go to the restroom" I think that would be a date he would always remember!
• United States
13 Aug 08
He is the one that ask he should have paid for everything... Men are supposed to pay for everything... That wasreally rude of him to make you go half on everything... I would hae got up and left... I think a man should pay for everything that how it should be...
• United States
15 Aug 08
Good suggestion, but he drove LOL
@dpk262006 (56761)
• Delhi, India
13 Aug 08
You have not mentioned whether you actually paid half of the amount or not. If you did, then there is no use of thinking about it now. If you did not, then you need not worry about it. If that fellow asked you for half of the share, it appears to me that it was not in good taste and was unexpected. If he had invited you, he should not have asked about half of the share. But you take a positive leaf out of this experiences, this gestures of his could tell you that how he actually is and how he is nature wise. I feel - he is not upto your expectations.
• Malaysia
16 Aug 08
ha ha... at the first date he wants to go dutch? imagine a life time of dutch meals! I've nothing against going dutch but it only shows his generousity. It'll be a negative sign for me.
@Elixiress (3887)
16 Aug 08
I am all for guys paying, but I will be willing to pay if a) I know he does not have much money b) I invited him on the date Also another reason for him wanting to go halves is that maybe his ex-girlfriends took it as an insult if he offered to pay for the whole thing and now he expects everyone else will want to go halfs.
@rbailey83 (1400)
• Canada
13 Aug 08
if it was just out as friends i could understand, but i think your right, if it is a date especially the first date, then yeah i think he should have paid for everything, even if you were the one to initiate it
@sunshinecup (7880)
13 Aug 08
I hope you didn't go on a second date after that, LOL. Who ever asks, pays unless they say it's dutch in the invitation. I had one loser try that with me once, but he didn't want dutch he thought I was going to pay, after he asked me out and we had already had dinner. He even tried to say he left his wallet at home. I said, "really? Aw that's terrible". Then I excused myself to the bathroom and left. The jerk didn't realize I could see his wallet in his back pocket just fine throughout the evening.
@rkrish (3003)
• India
13 Aug 08
You can show your interest, but express your inability to take the expenses to him well before. Nominally the inviter will take care.
@keepklose (127)
• United States
13 Aug 08
yea if he asked he should of paid. i mean i would pay every time into we get on the next level.
@Feona1962 (7527)
• United States
13 Aug 08
Hi gigglez21... Since he invited you then I would have assumed that he was going to pay... Or he could have asked in advance if sharing the bill would be okay.... But I definitely think he should have paid....