Distance Love

Singapore
August 12, 2008 11:42pm CST
Anyone experienced distance love relationship? Or in this relationship? How you manage it?Do you find it's hard and suffer for you?? Share with me and everyone here.^.^
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9 responses
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
13 Aug 08
Long-Distance Relationships.. I have stopped believing in them somewhat until and unless they turn out into real life relationships as soon as possible.. I had been in one relationship which ended up after 3 years but we could not see each other even once in 3 years.. I met a girl online, about 5 years back. We had a nice chat and we continued to chat on alternate days for about one month. By that time she had given me her phone number so we started talking on phone. We exchanged our pics and did like each other. I even proposed her after 2 months or so and she accepted my proposal after another month. We went away nicely. But unfortunately couldn't meet each other ever. We loved each other(as i hope) and everytime i could think of meeting her(we lived in different cities) some or the other thing happened which won't allow us to meet. Situations were turning against us.Then after 2 years or so, some incident happened with her due to which our relation started deteriorating. She was not allowed to talk to boys. And i kept on asking her for time so that i can come over to her place to see her. But unfortunately we ended up and i still don't know the reason..WHY?. I still try to contact her, but she doesn't picks up the call because she can't talk to me in the presence of her family. I ask her to give me a miss call whenever its possible to talk, but hardly she does that. So as far as i m concerned, i used to believe in long-distance relationships, but i am afraid to take any chances now. I have seen a 4 year cloase relationship ending up in 4 months just because they got separted after 4 years. So you really can't belive.. Whats gonna happen?
• Singapore
15 Aug 08
Hi there, Thanks For the replied. Im Sory to heard that. Anyway now u learnt something and u r moving on . =D Well.. im in long distance relationship now.. Sometime i found its hard to relieve the missing and our relationship not strong enough in communication and trust yet. we just been together for 1 month and he went back to his country and said that he don't know when he will come back here, maybe next year.. i feel very bad cause all of this happened in sudden.. he wish i will understand him. But i still don't feeling good with this. I always think alots of negative thoughts.And being suspicious. I don't know what should i do??
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• India
18 Aug 08
Ah !! I just wish if my ex-gf could have thought the same way for me? Well, its exactly the same what i wanted from my gf. In ur case, if i were to advice then i would definitely say that you talk to ur boyfriend straight forward about this issue. Though he asks you to trust him, but for how long can you stay away. Personally, i don't want to be in a long distance relationship, unless there are hopes of it converting into a close relationship soon. So the choice is urs.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
yes i do suffer my love for my husband. its too far , im always only waiting and calling for him.when im not checking him he always believe and hoping that even if he is not calling me im here to call him. thats why its hard to understand why? and why only me is always waiting him and calling. im tired of that relationship.
• Singapore
26 Aug 08
Try to talk to him. Let him undersdtand how do u feel?! he is your husband. u need to trust him more than this.
• Norway
13 Aug 08
I am so grateful. I met a boy frm otheq city on net,i found that he is so nice. After one year,we found that we're intresting eachother.So we try to met face to face. Then it flow like a river, we fell in love. And he decided to marry me. After 2 years mariage,we still stay separated,he stay at other city to work,and i stay with our daughters. Long distance doesnt matter 4 us. Love always need sacrifice.
• Philippines
24 Aug 08
i agree on that yes love is sacrifice but not too much.becoz there are times that we my self is try hard to them. most especially when we got seek you face to think that you r hoping ,we need a helping hand.ist hard to make a decission when the times is over.
@lixiaos77 (1030)
• Shijiazhuang, China
13 Aug 08
If you are very busy you can relieve the pain of missing.
• Singapore
15 Aug 08
yeah, but its kind of hard... Thanks For the replied. ^^
@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
26 Aug 08
yeah i know this has happened to me and its relly hard.. and expensive haha
@zeny_zion (1284)
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
well, i know one. i for one can prove that it can work. i have a story its about this girl and a boy who is a korean. did everything to get the girl. what i mean is he went to do the challenge given by the brothers just to prove to them that his feelings is real and true. they are 5 mena who tried to do the challegne for one girl. the korean made it until to the end ofthe challenge. now, after 4 year they are still together. they havent seen each other they just talk over the computer see each othe by webcam. exchanging gifts everytime friends come to korea and go back to her country. i think its impossible but its possible cause i know the gir. shes my daughter.
• Philippines
14 Aug 08
long distance relationship? i think it will work as long as faith and trush to both parties... theres nothing wrong about it. just keep every line of communication active and the realtionship will work.
• Indonesia
13 Aug 08
Last time I was in a long distance love relationship with a guy who lives in different countries. First time he and I did not believe that a long distance relation can make feelings like longing to each pother, or need to meet in hurry. I did the relation by on line chatting as it will take high cost to talk on phone between countries. For up to the first 2 years, we were happy as we can spend few times to meet. I visit his country of he visits my country. Those were great moments between us Then after few year, now we are already going to 4 years in relation it seems that the business in works is the heaviest burden between us. I myself never say anything for ending up the relationship, neither has he, but at the moment, we simply do not know of what would be the ending of our long distance love. Will this end up with tears and hate or end happily? I do not know. I wish I can predict so I shall make my own decision. It is hard, it is suffer but it is sometimes also fun to feel that you are longing for someone in far away, and when the meeting is set up, at the time of meeting the joy and the romance become greater. But one thing for sure, the fact that chatting communication can also build up the romantic side of both parties in love, is amazing. Before, I never believe that chatting can build the feeling of missing someone.
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
13 Aug 08
Maybe it depends on the persons involved.If they are contented with just staying connected and not ask for more than what each other can give, then, they have no problem being away from each other. But long distance relationships are possible, though as we know it, there are no gurantees in love. Being in love is taking chances and risks. You have to be brave to face the consequences that goes with it.