A wonderful younger sister

Yes over the years we learned to appreciate one another. I hope what my sister and I have stay forever. She is not married yet, but I hope even after marriage we manage to maintain this closeness. We don’t talk to each other often because she lives further away, but if I don’t hear from her for 3 weeks, I call her to make sure she is ok. My sister and I used to fight often when we were younger. Now I have only respect and love for this younger soul who has shown so much strength, wisdom and kind heart for me and my kids. She is only 3 years younger than I am but her maturity level is beyond my imagination. She even offered to switch her job in her city, and find another job in my city move in with me to help me with my mortgage, and picking up of the kids from school etc. (a long story short, she knew of my marriage problems) and wanted to offer a solution. She is the greatest. What more can I ask from an individual. I feel she was sent from heaven to be by angel and it took some time but by angel is here. There is 3 of us in the family, my sister and my brother. I am also very close to my brother until, but that has somewhat changed because he is getting married. When another individual is in the group, it sorts of changed this. But as long as he is happy, I don’t mind. I am sorry to hear that your brother is giving you grief after you have proven your choice has made you happy. Sometimes it takes time and I hope time can unwind and you will find the brother that you once knew again. Thank you for your response.

Hi Travi, Thank you for your kind words. I really hope that I have done my part as sister to her too. I don't know if I was as kind as she is now. But I realized how much my sister has grown and mature of the years and I am so thankful for having her in my life. I was in tears when she offered to relocate for my kids and me. I thank the stars everynight for the wonderful person she has grown up to be. It is great that you husband family is close knit and they do alot of together things. You would appreciate it later when you realized that it will also benefit that your kids are around other extended families that will love your kids and they have more people to turn to. It also lets them realize that love is unconditional and they will realize their biological dad has not kept his words. I miss the big gathering and family events because all my families are so far away. I wish they were closer so I can do more with them and the kids.

She really is your angel. It takes a really wonderful person to offer to move into another town so that she can help you financially, emotionally, and with the children. You are very lucky to have such a wonderful person in your family. I bet though you are just as awesome as a sister to her. You would have had to have been for her to love you and respect you as much as she obviously does. It is good that you and your siblings have remained close. I know what you mean about it being harder when another is added to the mix. My husbands family is tight knit and it has been hard for me to fit in. Especially since my family is not and don't do many family get togethers like his does(every week). I get over whelmed with so many people all at once.

Yes. MY sister really does care about me and my kids. At one time in my life, I worried about who I can trust with my kids in the event something horrible happens to me. Now I can be positively sure that she will do everything in her power to make sure my kids are taken care of. Both of my kids adore her so I am glad that my kids also learn to trust her. She is a great sister that I cannot ask for more. I wish I can be able to pay her back for everything she has done. But I know she is not looking for payback. She is only acting out of love.

I think you are right. She never wants to take my money when I try to pay her back She is always buying me stuff and for the kids too. She just purchased her new home and I wanted to buy more things for her but she refused to tell me what she needs. She is a great person and I cannot believe she is my sister.

When people love you, they will do things and not expect any pay back. I know I do lots of things and I would never accept any pay back. Thanks is enough for me. I am sure your sister is the same way.

HI Dragonfly, Yes I am very thankful to have a sister who finally came around. We fought all the times when we were young. I helped her alot while she was young. I never expected her to mature and be my rescuer. But she did, it took awhile but she came around and I am so proud to be her sister. She has accomplished alot, finished college, purchased her new home on her own. She is still single, but I think she is happy being single. I am so sorry to hear your sister is giving you a hard time. Yes I agree it all varies, sometimes we get lucky and have people in our lives that are a blessing to be around and other times not. My sister has been there to help me with my son who has become somewhat of a trouble teen. She keeps him in check and her example sets a promising future with college in mind for my son. She also listens when I just need someone to talk to. She reached out to me when she saw how my marraige was failing and offered a place for me to stay while I sort things out. I am so proud of her accomoplishment and she sets a very good example for my kids. She worked full time, and paid for her own college years and managed to graduate. She did it all by herself (with very little support from me). I been there for her to sign her apartment lease, her first new cars and help her through many times when tuition was due and she had not money. But she always paid me back.

Oh yes, I could not ask for a better sister and friend. We fought as young kids, but I am glad we did because that is what kids do. What matters is what happens when we all grow up. We also grew up and loved one another as sister and as friends. She also volunteers her time with helping the needy and offers to spend her weekends at the foster home. Yes she has been blessed. With such a big heart, her efforts have been notice and now she is a homeowner at age 28. I am so happy for her. She worked hard to earn her degree and worked hard at her job, finally it paid off. I have to thank my stars, when she needed me – I offered, though my help was nothing compared to hers. I am glad that I helped her by signing her apartment lease, so that she could get a place while attending college. Her success has not helped me through my rough times. Sometimes without speaking she can see it in my eyes what I am feeling. I read a lot about why helping your younger siblings set them up for failure. I am glad that it is not the case with my wonderful sister. I do realize that you get what you planted. That is what she told me. I don’t remember half of the things I helped her with, but she reminded me of them often. I still remember those words “You helped me before, and let me help you” I brought tears to my eyes when I heard those words. She is an angel sent from above to help me through tough times.

Sisters are a blessing. Your sister sounds like she is not only a good sister but a friend as well. So you are double blessed. We all need someone in our lives that we can depend on and there is nothing like having that be a sister. As a sister it sounds like she knows you and understands your situation and since she has the ability to help she does so without you having to ask for help. It's wonderful to have someone who notices what is happening in your life whether good or bad. She will be blessed.