What do you do if you know someone is lying to your face??

I completely understand your situation. My mom used to be this way over everything. Unfortunately, a year ago she passed away. But, I dealt with this all my life with her. I pride myself on honesty so it really fried me everytime she would lie. She lied about everything and then sometimes tried to involve me in her lie. I used to try to just ignore it but then I found myself not wanting to talk to her or be around her at all. Finally after years of this situation, something happened within our family and she almost went to jail because of her lie. It was at this point that one day I finally had enough. I told her that I was upset and wanted to talk to her. I asked her not to say anything until I was finished and I would give her time to talk to me uninterrupted when I was finished. I began by telling her how much I appreciated the way she raised me. Always teaching me and helping me to know right from wrong. I shared with her that I had a great sense of the truth. I then told her that I was confused by some things going on with her. I shared with her how my feelings had been hurt by every untruth she has told. I shared with her that she didn't need to deny any of these things because she and I both knew the real truth. I told her that I didn't judge her for the truth no matter how bad the thing she did was. I was hurt that she couldn't confide the truth to me and that I was capable of hearing the truth and loving her anyway. After all, I had loved her anyway because I knew the truth!! I told her that the past untruths that she had told me needed to be put away. I needed her to tell me the truth from now on and that I could handle the truth. But, I could no longer handle the lies. I told her everyone has told a lie-everyone including me. I shared with her that I found my best asset is honesty. She taught me that because of her dishonesty. I told her I knew she was not perfect but also that I was not a fool and felt foolish when she would tell me these lies. I shared with her that I knew she was not perfect and neither was I. I also told her that the lying had to stop if she wanted my respect and companionship. I was honest but kind as I myself have lied. When I was finished she was quiet and then she cried. I had to take the chance that my telling her these things would damage our relationship but then again, it was already damaged by the lies she was telling. I guess what I am trying to say is I would rather have a relationship based on the truth than a lie. If you let the person off the hook in a loving way they are more likely to respect you and you will respect yourself knowing you did what you know is right. I was worried that my mom would run away from me too. But she didn't instead when she did begin to tell me a lie I would smile at her and then we would laugh. Sometimes she would say well, if I could have done it that way thats what I would have done. did she never tell another lie? I can't say for sure but I know that I developed a trust with her when she passed away there were no more unsaid issues between us. Hope things work out for you.

I got a friend like that myself. Everytime we talk she always lies about something and it is irritating. If I were you just go with honesty like everyone else had said on her. Just tell her look i know that you are not being all the way honest with me but if you need someone to talk to I am here for you. If you are consernd about her relationship do keep pushing the issue. You keep doing that it may turn her away I know it would for me.

My brother in law is like that. He lies even if he doesn't have to. and you could be holding the evidence right in his face and he would still try to come up with a lie to get out of it. He and I were close until I discovered he was doing that. I talked to him about it and thought that he wouldn't do it to me because we were close. but I caught him again and again so finally I had just had enough. We still talk but not like we used to. If you are worried about her relationship, just tell her you are worried and that if she needs anything she can come to you and she can tell you anything. She'll either do it or she won't, there isn't much else you can do.

I would go for honesty just tell her that you know she is lying, as simple as that!

once a liar always a liar,if she doesnt have the repect for you to tell you the truth,why waste your time trying to make her?

I just let the conversation die down then stop talking. In the case of her and her boyfriend, just give them some space. She will tell you when she's ready. If you push her to tell, she won't tell you. Just let her know you are there for her if she needs anything. If they aren't being truthful to you, why bother trying to communicate with them?