In The Act...
By lisa0351
@lisa0351 (303)
United States
August 13, 2008 12:18pm CST
I guess I just don't see the point of this without causing drama. A friend of mine has hard evidence that her boyfriend has been looking and hooking up with women online. She bought a computer program that records keystrokes and shows which sites he was on and what his screen name is. So instead of just busting him out with that evidence, she asked someone else to pose as a woman online, flirt with him, and ultimately arrange a date with him. Then his girlfriend would show up on the date and bust him out. He is a violent and very agressive man, and we have all had suspicions that he hits her. I wouldn't want to confront him myself if I were her. She didn't want to hire a group like Cheaters. What I don't understand is why you would involve another party to play the bait, when you have enough hard core evidence to bust him. Something just isn't right with this situation the more I hear about it.
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@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
13 Aug 08
I think that she is doing the right thing by getting someone else inolved... Maybe this will help her bust him out... I would want to confront a agressive person myslef either... I would be scared that he would do something to me...
@angelia286 (2029)
• Singapore
13 Aug 08
As you had already mentioned, he is a violent and very aggressive man, and you have suspicions that he hits her at times. I can understand why she might hesitate to confront him with what she knows. If it is me in that situation, I would just pack up my bags and leave quietly and not even want an explanation from him, for fear of the confrontation between me and him. 
So, did the bait work in the end? Did he agree to the date and did she crash the party and bust him out?
That would be the best solution if that had really happened. If he is caught in the act, and the lady happened to be the bait that the girlfriend had arranged for, there is no way he could deny nor squirm his way out.
If she were to confront him with the information that she had on hand, and not caught him in the actual act, he could easily squirm his way out by manipulating her and twisting the story all around. 
It's actually all very simple and logical the things that your friend is doing. And I would have to say she is a smart woman to be doing what she is planning to do. Well, I hope that all went well, and she is finally free from such an abusive partner! 
Please help me to pass this message along to her and also tell that I wish her well in everything that she do. She has my support!
So, did the bait work in the end? Did he agree to the date and did she crash the party and bust him out?
That would be the best solution if that had really happened. If he is caught in the act, and the lady happened to be the bait that the girlfriend had arranged for, there is no way he could deny nor squirm his way out.
If she were to confront him with the information that she had on hand, and not caught him in the actual act, he could easily squirm his way out by manipulating her and twisting the story all around.
It's actually all very simple and logical the things that your friend is doing. And I would have to say she is a smart woman to be doing what she is planning to do. Well, I hope that all went well, and she is finally free from such an abusive partner!
Please help me to pass this message along to her and also tell that I wish her well in everything that she do. She has my support! 
