This question is to all the ladies out here on myLot..
By brisk123
@brisk123 (2823)
India
August 13, 2008 1:33pm CST
even guys can comment too..so,my question is would you leave your husband if they continuously lied to you and stayed out all night, every night, making silly excuses?They don't work or help you in paying any bills either?What would you do or your reaction?
5 responses
@Humbug25 (12540)
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13 Aug 08
Hi there brisk123
I was with a man very much like this though it does run a bit deeper than that. He smacked me while I was holding our child on my hip and then he trashed the house so I fled because I was scared he would turn on me, or even worse, the kids. He was a big time gambler, put us through a bankrupcy, didn't work and generally made my life hell. We are still married but I fled over 2 years ago and I am very happy now with my kids!
@brisk123 (2823)
• India
13 Aug 08
You are so brave to put up with him for so long.I really am proud of you.You fled from there,that was the last option you had that time.I feel bad for you, I wonder how you must have put up with him and at the same time am glad that you have learn to live life again and that you are happy with your kids.I am sorry to say this but what I feel is, it is better to leave a man who doesn't love,care,respect and treat you and your kids well.
@Humbug25 (12540)
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13 Aug 08
We were together for 10 years and yes that is a long time to put up with such things but he once said to me when I was pregnant with our 3rd child and were arguing that I was free to go anytime I wanted but without the 2 eldest and he would kill the person who took his children away from him. Those words ring in my ears to this day and that is why I never left before as I knew if I did leave it would have to take the kids and run and therefore that would make me the person who took his kids away from him! Don't be sorry by what you say, you are very right! Life is great now and we hardly ever look backwards on what was!
@brisk123 (2823)
• India
13 Aug 08
Life must be so much like hell for you that time, I can't even imagine how you must have had gone through all these years with your kids.You had suffered a lot and your kids are the witness,I just hope and pray that you no longer see this day again in your life and live happily.
@achinthya (1216)
• India
27 Mar 09
I guess I am lucky in this matter.My husband comes back home early and pays every bills.He is responsible and dedicated to us.But, if he turns out to be exactly,they way you had expressed just now,I am sure he will be out of door the next day.Why should I tolerate a man,who fails to take responsibility?..
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
13 Aug 08
If I suddenly lost my mind and woke up one day married to someone like that, believe me, he would be out the door in about two seconds. I would never tolerate someone who lies to me and definitely staying out all night will result in the locks on the doors being changed the next morning and the phone number changed, too. I see no use for a man like that...at least a dog barks and doesn't lie to you.
@pixiedustforyou2008 (2422)
• United States
13 Aug 08
my reaction would be that he gives me the reason he has been staying out all night or i will leave him... If my husband were to stay out all night that would be a red flag for me.. I would tell him either he tells me whats going on or i divorce him.. I wouldn't put up with all the lies and staying out all night.. Sounds to me like he is cheating on me if he is continously lying to me and and staying out all night...
@swennerholm (664)
• Sweden
13 Aug 08
[b][/b]No question for that.Of course we will going to leave our husband if he is like what you saying there.I will talk to him what is happening to him and why he do like that or do he still want this relationship stay longer.Good for me i have a very good husband i could not ask for more 
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